49 Times People Didn’t Get Away With Cheating

I watched it. I’d known her for 15 years, she catered our wedding. I’d been with him for 6 years when we got married and she’d known him for less than a year. The pandemic hit and suddenly he was worried about her because she lived alone (she lived with her 17 yr old daughter). She’d invite us to lunch and he’d just leave without me. Basically they were making every excuse to be together without me. Finally she came to our house and was so dismissive of everything I said that I left the room. No one came to check on me. He left a few days later.

We were married for 8 months and had just bought a house. When they finally got together it lasted ~6-8 weeks. I could have told them they were poorly matched. He’s back living with his mother, where I found him.

They were coworkers and she was always super chummy so I had brought my concerns up to him several times that she was being waaaay too friendly and handsy. Turns out, He was cheating with her for 2 years, but he did a good job hiding it behind “going to hangout and get drinks with the work crew” and I’m not into the bar scene much. I saw him walking in town leaving a bar with her leaning her head on his shoulder. He said “she was just really drunk.” I told him I didn’t want him hanging out with her anymore. Soon after, one night after he told me explicitly that he wasn’t going to hang out with her I asked to see his phone when he got home. Instead of letting me see it, he threw it off our balcony.

He changed his Facebook status to 'In a relationship with (other woman)'. My friend called me to say, "Oh, I didn't realise you two had broken up?".
He hadn't actually broken up with me 😅😅.

Neighbors told me.

Was on a FaceTime with her mother showing off our newborn when the messages started popping up on the ipad.

He walked past me with a baby stroller.

He handed me his computer to add my bank info because we were combining accounts. I clicked on his Google profile icon just on a random whim, gut feeling, whatever you call it. Found his second email address he used to solicit online adult workers throughout our entire 8 year relationship.

In my worse days, I was working a 12 hour shift at a hospital doing patient meal prep.

I get a text. She says she doesn't want to do this, and we need to talk.

Get home, and we talk. She tells me she met someone.

She then tells me they had intercourse right our bed, while I was at work.

Not a double life, but it was a double emotional reckoning.

She proceeded to follow me around, wanting to hook up and get back together just to run off with another dude the next day.

Basically, it was one giant test to see if I'd continue caving for her.

She still does it to this day, hitting me up. I ignore her completely but I let her watch my socials from my friendlist. She can see the awesome life I had from those sidelines.

Instagram. I had my suspicions about him and a girl who was basically a mini me. 4 years younger or so but same university, same major, same height, etc and she had posted pics of them at Disneyland for her birthday which was a few days after mine and he had sent me an edible arrangement for mine. We’d been “exclusive” for several months at that point. What a joke.

There was an emergency type of situation and I had to use his computer for work because mine wouldn’t power on which he happily agreed to. He was still logged in to a site and a message from his affair partner popped up on the screen.

A friend of the person he was cheating on me with sent me screenshots of them together that his affair partner posted on Instagram. That’s also how I found out that his “work trips” were actually to cheat on me.

One of my son’s preschool classmates’ mom texted me a photo of his online dating profile. He claimed it was an old profile (we’ve been together more than 7 years) - I’m not stupid, so I did a little digging in his phone.

Found some explicit texts. He claimed that was one moment of weakness, a mistake. I physically couldn’t relax, so I did a deeper dive into his phone. All kinds of messages arranging meetings with adult companions - throughout our entire relationship.

Messaging barely legal young women on Instagram and TikTok about how beautiful they are and asking to send them money. Thousands of dollars on OnlyFans. Texts from women he met on tinder about their dates. Notes with opening lines for dating apps, instructions for how to meet adult companions for in calls, dating app profile blurbs.

I found all of that in less than an hour before getting interrupted by our crying one year old. I’m sure there’s more. He’s still lying about it.

He was showing me pictures on his phone and I swore I saw a pic of woman's privates.

He quickly put it away and I acted like I didn't see anything. The next day I went to our home computer and looked in the trash photos.

Heart breaking rug pulled completely out from under me. He didn't realize his phone was synced to our computer.

Her affair partner’s wife messaged me to tell me something was going on.

I came home unexpectedly for lunch to find a heavily pregnant woman sitting on my couch and him standing there looking all surprised Pikachu.

Things weren't going well. We tried counselling. Things didn't improve. After some months of scratching my head, why couldn't we make things work, I decided to end things before it got really ugly. I moved out a couple of weeks later.

One week to the day after I moved out her new beau moved in. Her stained-glass tutor. He left his wife and 1 month old baby to do so.

Clang!

Went to pick her up at the bar, when I entered to get her. Some guy walked up to me and asked if I was with her. Then Proceeded to tell me his best friend was on the dance floor making out with her. She immediately started acting weird and rushed us out the door.

LDR. She kept saying “You need to claim me” which struck me as very odd. One time I went to visit her, and her housemate, who had previously been very friendly, did her best to give me a wide berth. But one time when GF & I were talking in the kitchen, housemate came in to make tea. I could see her over my GF’s shoulder rolling her eyes at what my GF was saying about our relationship. It was all so suspicious, I later asked my GF if there was something going on I didn’t know about. She said “Nooooo!” but looked away as she said it. I pressed. She confessed that she was sleeping with her ex again.

I found ticket stubs for a movie and then looked in her journal and she had torn the last three months of pages out of the book…told me everything!

Ex-wife supposedly went to a teacher's conference in another state. I couldn't reach her at the hotel she was supposedly staying in or by phone for almost a week.

I called one of her friend/co-workers who was supposed to be with her on the trip. She answered her home phone and gave some dumb excuses that just didn't add up.

I told her you can either tell me she's OK and something is going on, you don't have to give me the details, or I'm going to hang up and my next call will be the police to report a missing persons case.

She didn't spill the beans, but knew what was up and assured me the ex-wife was OK.

I didn't press it, but later found an order for a book on Amazon "So you want a divorce".

I asked her what was going on, she did indeed want a divorce, I luckily had a job move to different state with much favorable laws than the state we lived in, we didn't have kids or any real estate (we were young then) and split as amicably as is possible in the situation.

25 years later, we're friends, she's floated the idea of getting back together but I'm not interested.