66 People Share The Craziest Things They Learned About The People They Were Dating

I dated someone who had a history of domestic violence and order for protection violations. I knew none of this until I, myself, needed an OFP against them. It was scary but luckily it worked and after two years no contact they moved along to what I can only imagine was their next victim. I saw them once in Target shopping but they didn’t see me as I’ve never u-turned a cart in an aisle so quickly.

I had a fake widower too. I think he gave me his phone number so I got a name, then her name, and she was quoted in a recent newspaper article and they still owned the home together (looked up public records). That was the only time I contacted a wife. I printed out his profile (website, pre-app days) and mailed it to her in a greeting card style envelope. Blocked him and didn’t tell him anything.

I dated a man on and off for years that I kept very casual. He was a bachelor - travelled a lot for work and although he often would try and sell me on a relationship I knew he was just a good time. He had called one night professing his love etc… I had a young son and he lived in another state so it was easy enough to keep him at bay. The next day I got a call. A woman asking me if I knew this man..” turns out it was his gf. Of 10 years. She went on and on about how he had another gf in another country.

I was a teenager and did promo work for Kerrygold (the butter and cheese lol). His dad had just d**d and he was going through a really rough time, considering he was also on chemo for his recent cancer diagnosis. I was supposed to go with him to the funeral but he said he needed to do it alone so I picked up a shift.

Guess who walked up to get a sample and say hi. His dad. I told him everything and all he had to say was “what cancer? William doesn’t have cancer?”

This man double messed with me.

A woman got this crazy look on her face and said I looked just like the man who mistreated her dog and she vowed to punish that man. The dog a very muscle bound staffordshire terrier was between my legs. I was convinced she was going to give a command for that dog to attack. While signaling for the check and slowly backing away from her and the dog the bartender said “ I heard that man …. RUN! I got the drinks “. I walked out of that bar and RAN to my truck. First date BTW. Better story in.

Not someone I actually dated, but someone I was talking to. Turns out he was married with kids, a detail he conveniently forgot to mention. I found out while listening to a podcast he was on. When I confronted him, he blocked me. Honestly, all it did was remind me how glad I am that he’s not my problem.

A man once told me he had divorced his wife because she cheated on him with his best friend.

Turns out he was the cheater, the wife had never cheated. Not only the best friend had never cheated with the wife, the best friend was also suing that man for misappropriating and embezzling hundreds of thousands of dollars in a business deal they had partnered on.

The ex-wife, mom of his 4 kids, told me years later what really happened. Interestingly she did not seem surprised he said these lies.

My ex-husband told me his cousin was going through a tough time because he met a ‘nice’ doctor lady he wanted to pursue a relationship but was torn because he had a pregnant finance and a girlfriend (they were a throuple).

Whole time it was him cheating on me with said doctor lady! The ‘nice’ doctor lady didn’t put him up when I put him out. He spent winter 2025/2026 living in his truck.

I HAVE NO REGRETS!

Kept running into the same guy at the club. This was the '80s. Finally agreed to go back to his house, which he said he lived in with his brothers. He worked as a mechanic and made good money. After we hook up, I go to use the bathroom. Apparently I got misdirected to the wrong bathroom. It was his mom's. There was older women's cosmetics, women's magazines, the same as my mom used and read. I got out of there quick and we were no longer a thing.

He convinced numerous people he was a regular on a popular TV show for a few seasons. (There was an actor on the show who resembled him and had a similar name).

Created a 2nd fb account to tell 400 friends about his new Fiance 2 months after we broke up. We had 240 mutual friends on another account and he forgot he had added me to the 400 people he was hiding from me. He was then outed by mgmt as having lived in my apt with her 4 months before I moved in. They asked why I still talk to him. I didn't believe it. She showed me his file. He worked very hard on making sure i didn't feel the need to tell his wife.

That he and his wife were separated and the divorce was pending. Just needed signatures but it “was complicated” because he was in the military. He said he lived alone. Then his wife called me and told me they never discussed divorce, she found my info. on his computer. And she very much lived in the same house as him. I never spoke to him
again, but I really hope she got everything she wanted, and more, in their eventual divorce.

Dude told me he ended his long term relationship but was still living with said ex, just sleeping separately. He brought me over for Netflix and chill. No evidence that either were sleeping on the couch in this 1bed apt and the apt was suspiciously spotless, save for the cat (3x) hair in the carpet. I would later find out thru the grapevine that the relationship with this cohabitating "ex" was still active and is a co-op. I also found out thru the same grapevine that his behavior hasn't changed.

I found out my (now ex) husband had told someone a story about how I passed away in a car crash. Honestly don't know if it was to garner sympathy, appear single or for more malicious purpose or he was just a compulsive liar. Though all of those could be true. I've dated men that were "never married" and then slow reveal they have a child, then they live with their child's mother but aren't together, which by then I realise the lie, which they denied because they "never married in a church" FFS.

Jesus. These men are terrible but I found out through another girl friend from her bf who’s friends with my bf at the time… that he cheated on me because I confronted him that sending intimate messages and stuff is emotional cheating. And this guy said to his friends “if she thinks that’s cheating, then I’ll cheat on her for real” and slept with his ex lol.

I was very unhappily married for 13 years. When I divorced, I wasn’t really interested in dating, but I reconnected with an old high school boyfriend, so we dated a bit. I found out he was a serial intimate pic sender. Sent them to everyone, including his friends’ wives. Ew. Haven’t been with a man since.

It was just a fling, so I didn’t expect exclusivity. However: I found out through other people that he was in an open relationship with an ex of his BROTHER. The brother was very blindsided by this, as this happened behind his back; there was no prior conversation or asking him if that made him uncomfortable. I felt honestly quite disgusted and ended it immediately.

My best friends husband cheated on her and got the mistress pregnant. They were both in the military, stationed in Vegas. Shortly after I married my NOW ex-husband, I went to Vegas to help her get her stuff in order and figure out how to move forward with her impending divorce. While I was away, my ex had a woman he met on the beat in our apartment, in our bed, taking care of our daughter after telling her I left them and was never coming back. My daughter was 1.5yrs old. 1/2.

There's a guy here on Threads that tells people his wife passed in childbirth, and that child passed at 21. He's a prolific romance scammer. His wife is still alive and living with him, while he scams others.

It's the cruelty.

I was dating a man who was engaged to a woman who had chronic illness and was bedridden living with her parents in another state. I knew about her, but he always referred to her as his ex. On time he told me he was visiting his sister for a week in NY, and I looked at his exes instagram and there he was next to her bedside with flowers. She even posted a photo saying goodbye to him the last morning he was visiting her. That night he showed up to meet me in the same outfit.