Dating can be a minefield: you never know what kind of info grenade a person might lob in your direction. There are all kinds of secrets people hide from their potential partners. For example, a 2023 study suggests that almost two-thirds of Tinder users are already partnered up or even married.
But that’s not the worst thing you can find out about the person you recently started dating. The stories in one online thread had us in disbelief: it turns out some people even try to pass off their wives and partners as siblings or “best friends.”
These and more are the things people shared in the online thread, prompted by one user asking, “What’s the most insane thing you’ve discovered about someone you dated?” And if these folks’ lies and secrets weren’t so terrible, we would almost be impressed.
#41
I offhandedly mentioned to a guy I was dating that he would look good with his mustache trimmed, maybe trim the handlebars. The next day he volunteered on the phone that he had done as I suggested, and it looked really really good! When I saw him the next day, he...clearly hadn't trimmed his mustache. If he'd said he was going to, then didn't, that'd be one thing, but he said he HAD and...hadn't. That's when I started learning that a real liar will lie all the time, about literally anything.
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#42
I found out my ex husband was still married to his first wife when he married me.
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#43
More funny than insane but: I once had a man ask me SEVEN years after we broke up if my THREE year old was his. Sir…. Please I’m begging you to learn to count.
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#44
9 months into the relationship, found out he had a 7 month old child.
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#45
That my ex was gay. Like full MAN'S MAN. Trucks, beard, yells at football, grills in shorts in -10 weather. I thought I landed a lumberjack. Turns out he REALLY was a man's man, just not THIS man's man.
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#46
I once dated a man who I later found out was ENGAGED. And I don’t mean casually seeing me on the side. This man literally moved out of his parents’ house and INTO MY APARTMENT, an hour and a half away from where he and his fiancée were from. I had absolutely NO IDEA she existed. And the craziest part? He went on to MARRY HER after all of this. The level of deception was actually INSANE.
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#47
So I went to court with her (as moral support) what I didn't know at the time was it was against her mom. There was property damage and apparently she had slept with her step dad.
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#48
He had knocked up his step-sister 3 months before we started dating and told me 3 months in.
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#49
The guy who told me his wife and son passed and implied it was 9/11-related but was so torn up he couldn’t discuss it and also something wire his wedding ring “to feel close to her.” You can imagine the rest.
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#50
Not dated, per se, but a guy with whom I had an very intense online friendship with, here on a Threads.
He slid into my DMs when we connected over a mutual interest, and I was smitten for couple of months, until I realized he was doing the exact same thing with MULTIPLE women.
He slid into my DMs when we connected over a mutual interest, and I was smitten for couple of months, until I realized he was doing the exact same thing with MULTIPLE women.
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#51
I found out he had a girl in another state that he had been "just friends with". He had visited her several times over the years, before we got together. They "talked" all the time. On video chat. Without clothes. Found out the day his mom passed. Broke up with him. She can comfort you now.
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#53
I didn’t date him but we were in the getting to know each other stage over chatting long distance.
He told me he was single, owned a home, a nice car, had a well paying job, no kids, never been married … you know text book too good to be true type of guy. Well, one day his wife messages me & says he’s a liar. They have been married for 20 years. They live in a trailer. He doesn’t own a car. He was on disability & he didn’t have a job. They had 5 kids. All I could do was laugh.
He told me he was single, owned a home, a nice car, had a well paying job, no kids, never been married … you know text book too good to be true type of guy. Well, one day his wife messages me & says he’s a liar. They have been married for 20 years. They live in a trailer. He doesn’t own a car. He was on disability & he didn’t have a job. They had 5 kids. All I could do was laugh.
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#54
Went out with a man with him and shad I thought was a little girl that was a family member; he was babysitting. Turns out it was his girlfriend’s daughter.
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#55
Not dated -married. Found out during COVID he and his ex wife and a kid they gave up for adoption- never told me never allowed me to make a decision if I wanted to continue the relationship before we got married. Found this out during COVID when the daughter tracked down her birth mother and father. He said he would have kept it a secret from me and my daughters. I still wonder what else I don’t know. 40+ years of a relationship all a lie.
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#56
He told me he lived alone I was young he was young but it’s not unheard of because I in fact lived ALONE.
Sitting on his living room couch doing what young love couples do his mama and her booty call for the night walked through his front door and straight up the stairs SIR!!!!!!! I will not be messed with.
Sitting on his living room couch doing what young love couples do his mama and her booty call for the night walked through his front door and straight up the stairs SIR!!!!!!! I will not be messed with.
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#57
Oh which one to chose. One when I was 18 told me he was both engaged to be married AND dating a 16 y/o when he showed up at my place with the young one thinking we'd be friends...The other waited till we were well into dating before he told me he was dating someone else he was in love with. Several years later he popped back up to catch up and he told me it's on now. He's MARRIED but in an open relationship. I just attract jerks.
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#58
One said he was divorced. He even gave me money. He took me out during his lunchbreak. As he sat across from me, he took a bite of his sandwich & I saw a ring on his left ring finger. He put his hand under the table & the next time the ring was off.
After lunch I reminded him to put his ring back on. He swore he only wears it at work for insurance reasons blah blah blah. Very next day, I get a FB from his wife. We had a girl2girl convo. Never saw him again.
After lunch I reminded him to put his ring back on. He swore he only wears it at work for insurance reasons blah blah blah. Very next day, I get a FB from his wife. We had a girl2girl convo. Never saw him again.
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#59
That the divorce of 9 years ago wasn’t real, they were very much married, living together and also ran a business together.
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#60
1. his truck blew a tire (ex that I found out was cheating on me for 2 years with many women) also said he dropped out of NYU, was a firefighter, they were all lies. I know I’m stupid for dating him, but I lived and I learned.
2. him and his gf broke up but still lived in the same apartment (1st date with some dude in college, never went out again)
3. “We are divorced and she lives in South America” (not divorced & has a son).
4. 90% of military guys “I’m not married or have a gf.”
2. him and his gf broke up but still lived in the same apartment (1st date with some dude in college, never went out again)
3. “We are divorced and she lives in South America” (not divorced & has a son).
4. 90% of military guys “I’m not married or have a gf.”
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