91 Times People’s Worst Suspicions Came True After Discovering Their Partners’ Double Lives

I found out my ex girlfriend was in another relationship the last six months of ours. I had my suspicions, but she always denied it.

They dated and we got back together, only to break up again and her message me weeks later asking me to lie to him after she left her Facebook open on his phone and he read our messages.

I probably should've known just because of how many stories she had for that "one week" relationship.

A close friend of mine lives not a double, but multiple life. At any time, he has at least 6 girlfriends, not including Craigslist "dates". He kept them all in the dark, and he would have an average retaining rate of 6 months. Because after that, they would pick up signs, and almost always, it would end with them stalking his house all day until they found out they were being played. In the end it ended up catching up to him, because he really fell for this one girl, but he was so deep into other multiple relationships that he couldn't just back out of the other relationships. Long story short, it ended up catching up to him, the one girl he loved found out and ended it. He really hasn't been the same since. But I wish I could say the whole thing changed him for the better, but it didn't. He is back out there in the dating world with more girlfriends than I could ever count. He said the lesson he learned was to never put his heart on the line. I hope he shakes this way of thinking one day, because he isn't really happy. At least not long term. I can say that I am, though, but people like him laugh at me, because I have been with the same girl for over 7 years.

My SO’s dad had a second family for years, and I honestly can’t believe they didn’t find out sooner. He never stayed home on the weekend. He always went to the “hunting club” with his “boys”. This went on for years and his wife never questioned it. He also never spoke to his family or me. During the 4 or so years I was dating his daughter before he divorced and left, he only ever said hello to me once during that whole time, not a single word other than that. I never saw him smile or laugh or do anything. Turns out he had a second wife with two kids the whole time. He was married for over 25 years to my SO’s mom.

I never was sure. Still can't be sure. There were just a bunch of little things, over years. Dishes would go missing.

I would ask if she'd broken it accidentally. Complete denial. Then, sometimes weeks later, I'd find a fragment of it under the fridge or the stove or something.

Then I found another man's clothes in my closet.

In retrospect, I caught her lying about things. She broke away from her friends, who I never saw again. Became good friends with my friends. She got them in the divorce, mostly.

He was working on the other side of the country for a year helping with a project. Come to find out he was living a whole other life with another woman out there. Not answering my phone calls as often. Refusing to let me come visit him because the town he was working in at the time was really boring, so he would come visit me instead. The visits became less often and shorter. He randomly bought a really expensive motorcycle.

Way late to the show but my best friend was dating a guy for multiple years. Had a baby with him and their son is about to tun 3. last year she found out he went and got married behind her back. NEVER told her or his wife. Played it off as "I have a kid with this chick...I need to spend time with them" Wife never questioned it. My friend found on facebook a post she had where she

1) changed her last name and

2.) mentioned how great her hair dresser was for the wedding.

3.) left a review on the wedding favors she did.

He still denies it almost a year later. She caught him. Thank god she got a new boyfriend and is happy without his lying person....

"He's not cheating on Sharon with Elissa. She's just his muse so they hang out a lot and he photographs her."

3 months later:

"Guess what guys..."

And then I deleted everyone I knew from my life. No ragrets except the impending alcoholism.

I was the one keeping a secret. One of my sons is actually our nephew. My wife never found out. She always thought he was the product of an affair I had and was horribly bitter toward him. I had to keep his identity secret or Bobby B would have bashed his head in.

Me: I used to be a compulsive liar. I have no idea why I would lie, I just would just find myself in a situation where it was happening and it was just coming out of my mouth. Afterwards I would feel extremely guilty about it, but it was always little things so I just would ignore that it happened and move on. Then I told a whopper. A big one. One I had to keep up for a few months because I felt like I had no choice at that point. It ended up hurting a lot of people around me once they found out. From that day forward have tried extremely hard to keep it in check, I still till this day find little lies coming out here and there, but I try really really hard to control it now.

Looking back I realized I missed times they each mentioned things to me about the other that they wouldn’t know unless they were talking privately. My husband and my friend. I knew they were friends so each incident I put down to them maybe running into each other in the neighborhood or something. Discovered later over 18 months of long 2am emails etc. detailing time spent together etc. really changed how I feel not just about them but all people.

None. Nothing. This man was a career criminal...so very good at what he did. Everyone loved and adored him, all my family and friends. I hate when people say ‘well, at least you learned something.’ I don’t think so. I could fall for it all over again...that’s how good he was.

My grandfather live for about 30 years with a secret family. He was a truck driver and often blamed long absences on having to drive across the country. My father would tell me stories of how they had little money when they were kids even though my grandfather worked so much. In retrospect he was paying for two families with 3 kids each. This went on for about 30 years until my grandparents finally got divorced and all the details came out. My grandmother knew about the affair but was unaware of an entire second family.

He would go to the bar, and then not come home. He wouldn't answer his phone either. His friend lived two houses down from the bar and he would tell me he slept at his friend's house. He would always accuse me of cheating. After our relationship ended, he dated a woman who lived in the house between the bar and his friends house. He never has admitted he was sleeping with her while he was still with me, but I know better.

When my husband passed away, I found out he hadn't told his family we got married. They knew about me and they knew he loved me, just not that he ever got married.

At the time post here.

In retrospect, it was weird I never met anyone he knew, but I knew he was really easily embarrassed by things in general and the idea seemed to terrify him. I think that's why he never told them.

Not my SO, but my father. He had a family outside of the marriage with my mom, and I wish there were more obvious red flags, but there weren't. The only thing that I saw is that my mom had that gut feeling that something was wrong, when I was a kid I remember her telling him that it doesn't matter that he cheats on her and gets a girl pregnant, as long as the baby is given to her and to be raised as her own instead of living with another (not so good) family. I never looked up to that, and I actually felt offended that my mom would think that my dad was cheating. Turns out she was right, and now I have a sister in another country that I'll never probably meet. So when your gut is telling you something, trust it.

Ex GF broke up with me abruptly. Like, one day we were fine, the next she told me she doesn't want to be with me anymore. Found out a week later that she'd been having an affair of sorts with a dude overseas. Sending him explicit pictures, calling him for hours on end telling him how much she loved him. I didn't see the signs, but apparently she was sending videos when she was on the phone to me, and doing stuff from my house when I was out. And looking back, I can see that she was being secretive and avoiding me at points. Love can make you not see things straight:/.

Not me personally but a friend of mine's boyfriend told her that he was in college, and was getting almost straight a's, member of a bunch of clubs etc for about three years. Apparently he was also telling his parents this, and my friend and the guys family were all in the dark until his sister found out. Apparently the guy is a pathological liar and has done things like this his whole life, just never on that grand of a scale until a few years ago. They're still together though.

Late to the party, but when he flat out asked if was jealous or had a problem with the fact that his best friend was a girl.

They carpooled to work and were obviously close, but I trusted him. After all, we're both engineers so naturally by contrast most of my close friends, aka coworkers, were men....so I understood that you can be close to the opposite gender without it being inappropriate.

I never thought to be worried until he asked and even then he made me feel like my own insecure fault for ever doubting. It wasn't until the day after we broke up finally and he posted countless snapchats of them together that I realized. For reference, up until that point he in insisted they didn't hang out together alone except for the carpooling.

They're engaged now. For her sake, I hope he's changed. But he's always done this. He left his ex only because we were already dating (going into it, he promised they were over...then it came to light that there was significant overlap but I was naive).

There were so many warnings and I'm glad to have learned them now. But he was a master at making me doubt myself and feel guilty for ever doubting him.

Around year eight of my marriage, I met my then-husband’s girlfriend of nine months. He told me he was working doubles on his night off, but he was bunking at her place those nights and crawling out of her bed at 5 a.m. to 'come home from work.' I was packing him lunches for his sleepovers with her."
"Once she and I knew about each other, we swapped photos and stories. Her apartment was full of photos of them together; she even had him on her insurance plan. She had ZERO clue he was married; she thought they were endgame, the whole thing. Once I filed for divorce, I let her know he was all hers, and apparently, they stayed together for about two months… Then, he cheated on her with the next one

With my ex-husband, the first sign something was off was a receipt for a meal for two that he swore was just him being really hungry. As his parents had an 'understanding' about his father's girlfriend and his mother's spending, I think he thought we'd get there, too, if he eased me into it. WRONG. I've avoided wealthy people ever since. Most messed-up family I've ever known