Infidelity is never acceptable, regardless of your gender. Yet, according to studies, many women find a justification to cheat on their partners. Some don’t even feel bad after doing so because they need to have “all their needs met.”
Take a look at these stories shared by a handful of men on Reddit, as they reveal some of the cheating red flags they missed. Some of the cases are so blatant that you’d wonder how someone could be so callous toward a person they vowed to spend the rest of their lives with.
Gents, if you have similar experiences that aren’t too abrasive to recall, feel free to share them in the comments.
#21
This was before cell phones. We all had landlines.
Every time the phone rang she’d yell “I got it!” And rush to answer then walk into a different room to talk.
Lots and lots of “girls nights”
Constantly questioning me, who I’m talking to, where I’m going etc..
Every time the phone rang she’d yell “I got it!” And rush to answer then walk into a different room to talk.
Lots and lots of “girls nights”
Constantly questioning me, who I’m talking to, where I’m going etc..
6points
#23
She was "tired, exhausted" every day for 2 weeks then she left.
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5points
#24
She started talking s**t about some of her friends, and how bad they were treating their husbands. Turns out she was sleeping with the husbands.
Also a sudden interest in working out. Shopping for new clothes. Protective of her phone. Many of the usual things.
I knew it was happening after she took a trip to “visit her parents”. Then her Dad called our house to talk with her (back when landlines were still a thing).
In the end, turns out she was sleeping with just about every man she could. At least eight different men were confirmed, and I suspect at least another six.
Also a sudden interest in working out. Shopping for new clothes. Protective of her phone. Many of the usual things.
I knew it was happening after she took a trip to “visit her parents”. Then her Dad called our house to talk with her (back when landlines were still a thing).
In the end, turns out she was sleeping with just about every man she could. At least eight different men were confirmed, and I suspect at least another six.
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5points
#25
Keep in mind my ex was a "tradwife" and never worked or wanted to work for the first 22 years of marriage.
* Out of the blue she wanted to go to college to be a nurse. I thought it was a good idea for her to earn some money to pay into Social Security so when she hits 65 her checks would be more since she had not paid into the system since 1987. I did not need her to work I made plenty, but I still thought it was good.
* Second semester she started wanting to have girls' night out and trips with her "college friends".
* She started locking her cell phone
* She always left her phone screen down.
* She was really protective of her phone.
* She started drinking.
* She started cursing.
* She stopped going to church.
I discover her cheating after I had invested 24 years, 5 months, and 22 days on her,.
* Out of the blue she wanted to go to college to be a nurse. I thought it was a good idea for her to earn some money to pay into Social Security so when she hits 65 her checks would be more since she had not paid into the system since 1987. I did not need her to work I made plenty, but I still thought it was good.
* Second semester she started wanting to have girls' night out and trips with her "college friends".
* She started locking her cell phone
* She always left her phone screen down.
* She was really protective of her phone.
* She started drinking.
* She started cursing.
* She stopped going to church.
I discover her cheating after I had invested 24 years, 5 months, and 22 days on her,.
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5points
#27
Telling me she couldnt stand the dude and projection.
4points
#28
This was early in the days of Facebook when I was in college and listing your relationship status was a big deal. She had just broken up with a guy she'd been with for 2-3 years and he apparently took it really hard, so she wouldn't list me as her boyfriend on the site because she didn't want to hurt him. It seemed odd, but whatever. I figured it's just Facebook, and what matters is our actual relationship.
I don't think she ever physically cheated on me, but I don't think she was ever really "with" me. Psychologically, she was still with him and loyal to him. It really shouldn't have been a surprise six months later when I got a call on the afternoon of Christmas day saying she was breaking up with me to go back to him. We had made plans for her to come down and attend some of my family Christmas parties, so I then got to spend the rest of my winter break answering awkward questions about why she wasn't there.
Years later she broke up with him for good and she started sniffing around again. At that point we were both out of school and had jobs and the whole nine yards. She was passing through my area and asked to get dinner so I said yes. We'd been friends for a couple years before we dated, so I thought it would be nice to catch up. Then at the end of dinner she asked to come back to my place and I was like NOPE. Sorry. I have some things to get done this evening.
I don't think she ever physically cheated on me, but I don't think she was ever really "with" me. Psychologically, she was still with him and loyal to him. It really shouldn't have been a surprise six months later when I got a call on the afternoon of Christmas day saying she was breaking up with me to go back to him. We had made plans for her to come down and attend some of my family Christmas parties, so I then got to spend the rest of my winter break answering awkward questions about why she wasn't there.
Years later she broke up with him for good and she started sniffing around again. At that point we were both out of school and had jobs and the whole nine yards. She was passing through my area and asked to get dinner so I said yes. We'd been friends for a couple years before we dated, so I thought it would be nice to catch up. Then at the end of dinner she asked to come back to my place and I was like NOPE. Sorry. I have some things to get done this evening.
4points
#29
Phone activities shooting way up and her generally being more cagey about her phone was probably the first sign.
The damned things make infidelity so much easier.
The damned things make infidelity so much easier.
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4points
#30
I had a gut feeling for years. She pushed me to get on anti-depressants, thank god I didn’t listen. It just felt like I forgot something like my keys everyday.
Other things hit me years later after I was already remarried, with a child, two homes later. My wife drove my car and when I got back in I had to adjust the mirror. I grabbed it and rotated it up. Had a flashback of my old truck adjusting the mirror downward. Seems stupid or little, but I remembered the exact day. Felt like I got hit in the face with emotions.
I was folding socks one day and my son found a sock that wasn’t anyone’s. Turns out it was one of his gf’s. That triggered me too. I found a sock under my side of the bed.
Kinda sucks to do ten years with a person and get gutted in split second. I was dumb. There were so many obvious signs. My relationship with my relatives won’t ever be the same either.
Other things hit me years later after I was already remarried, with a child, two homes later. My wife drove my car and when I got back in I had to adjust the mirror. I grabbed it and rotated it up. Had a flashback of my old truck adjusting the mirror downward. Seems stupid or little, but I remembered the exact day. Felt like I got hit in the face with emotions.
I was folding socks one day and my son found a sock that wasn’t anyone’s. Turns out it was one of his gf’s. That triggered me too. I found a sock under my side of the bed.
Kinda sucks to do ten years with a person and get gutted in split second. I was dumb. There were so many obvious signs. My relationship with my relatives won’t ever be the same either.
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4points
#31
For the young ones reading; if your friends or her friends are telling you they saw her with another fella- trust them. Don't believe the web of lies that follow from the cheating partner... Leave ASAP.
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4points
#32
Something to look for is that they start over explaining everything. They guard their phones. Pay attention to the music they are listening to. Trust me on the music thing. You’ll know.
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4points
#33
It's the distance that appears. To go from being someone's closest person, to barely ships in the night. I was just happy that she was around, in my life, etc... didn't notice it until it was too late and I'm finding receipts for pregnancy tests in my car and WE haven't had s*x in...longer than it should have been before I realized what was happening.
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4points
#35
First, I’m no angel so not gonna blame or disparage her. We both should have known it wasn’t a good match (big age difference, different stages in our lives, etc) and we both strayed. As for the specific questions:
- increased self care eg waxing and such.
- she’d proactively would give me location information to throw me off (wasn’t even thinking there was an issue just thinking of plans for evening). She’d say “still at work” and oddly show me a location marker. Then she probably took off.
- when I definitely knew she said she was going to the mall and I was like “cool I’ll go with you” and she lost it lol. That’s when I was like “that’s just weird something’s up”
- I called her friend and just asked and her friend said, “you need to talk to her”.
- I sometimes helped her draft emails so just logged onto her email and saw deleted videos. Just confronted, and it was over. I also came clean btw
We both had no business being married and it led to both of us straying.
- increased self care eg waxing and such.
- she’d proactively would give me location information to throw me off (wasn’t even thinking there was an issue just thinking of plans for evening). She’d say “still at work” and oddly show me a location marker. Then she probably took off.
- when I definitely knew she said she was going to the mall and I was like “cool I’ll go with you” and she lost it lol. That’s when I was like “that’s just weird something’s up”
- I called her friend and just asked and her friend said, “you need to talk to her”.
- I sometimes helped her draft emails so just logged onto her email and saw deleted videos. Just confronted, and it was over. I also came clean btw
We both had no business being married and it led to both of us straying.
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4points
#37
Avoiding physical intimacy, not holding hands in public if they used to earlier, being on phone all the time.
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3points
#38
Changed her clothes entirely, constantly asked what i would do if she left. Alot of projection calling me a parasite and living off of her ( i paid 80% of the bills).
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3points
#40
This happened to my friend, but my one of my friend’s girlfriend started getting really touchy with another friend in the group. He was quite muscular and works out a lot and I would notice that she would go up to him, rub his arms, flirt, and start to ask him about his relationship status. Very disrespectful.
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3points
