“Giant Warning Sign”: 50 Men Reveal The Devastating Moments They Caught Their Women Cheating

She has been working at Romano's Pizza(night shift) for three years.

Romano's Pizza closed three years ago.

Looking back I think the very first sign was that she suddenly got in touch with a lot of her old college friends even though she'd not spoken to them in years and the first couple of times she met up with them we went as a couple, then she'd meet up with them at least once a week and I thought there was nothing in it because I'd then met them all and they all knew she was married etc..

Turned out the only times she'd actually met up with them at all were those two times with me there and after that she was just telling me she was going out with them again every week and really she was going out with a mate of mine from work.


When we divorced she married him pretty much instantly and then ended up cheating on him too. Think she's on her 4th marriage now all down to the same thing - she's just not a faithful person.

She suddenly became super protective of her phone and would flip it face down whenever i was around. at the time i thought she was just being private but looking back that was definitely sus.

Projection. She started to be really aware of any time I was having a text conversation with someone she didn't know, started asking me where I was going more often, things like that. Eventually turned into her accusing me of hiding parts of my life from her. It was very frustrating because I was hiding nothing and had not changed my behavior at all from the past 15 years.

I never would have believed it if I hadn't gone to a therapist who asked me if these things were happening before I even had a chance to point it out.

I'd heard of projection before but I didn't know it was a normal thing that sane people do. My ex sucks, and she was in a bad place mentally, but she's not an insane or crazy person.

I experienced one that I think most people don't have:


She fully admits to cheating then tries to claim she was just joking. .

This is my time to shine.

1. Buys a privacy screen protector for their phone
2. Shows up at home hours late after their work shift is over
3. Spends 3 hours to go "tanning"
4. Your kids continuously ask "Where's Mom" day in and day out because she leaves as soon as you get home
5. Sitting in a room for over an hour together in silence while they smile at their phone the entire time
6. You notice the neighbor's car always arrives home within 15 minutes of your wife's
7. Those driveway beers you used to have with the neighbor stop for no reason at all
8. Neighborhood get togethers turn into awkward silences because your mind is consumed watching 'them'
9. You lay in bed awake until 2am
10. The kids say "so and so are going to get married" because even they see through their lies.

Trust your gut gents....

Suddenly stopped going to bed at the same time each night. Just wasn't tired, didn't feel like sleeping, wanted to finish the TV show or the book or the work emails etc. turns out it was so she could text him in peace.

1. Started buying new underware or lingerie that they never wear around you.


2. Suddently "working late", having "girls night" with coworkers. 


3. Intimacy goes from hot to cold. Not wanting it all for weeks or months to suddently wanting it real bad.


4. Guilt projection. Accusing you of cheating to the point of gas lighting.l you into believing that it is all your fault.


5. Suddenly becomes secretive of phone.

She started growing distant, stopped trying in the relationship. Everyone has bad days or gets tired so it’s easy to write off as that, but even on your bad days you’ve got to make an effort even if it’s a half a**ed one.

1st time: Our intimate life had dwindled down to almost nothing. I kept thinking it would bounce back, but the signs were clear it wasn't.. Also, despite being together 3.5 years, our relationship in retrospect was toxic.


2nd time: She told me she had a history of falling for a guy fast, moving in with him, and then it not working out. We fell in love fast, we moved in together faster, and yeah.. She gave me her playbook and I ignored it.

Looking back, the fact that she cheated on my friend with me should've been the giant warning sign. But I was too young and reckless to see it for what it was.

You gotta be careful when your partner gets in great physical shape for the first time in awhile.

That’s not to say lifestyle changes to better yourself are a certain sign of infidelity. A lot of us get married, get fat and then get tired of being fat and tired, so we change.

She accused me of cheating. Randomly, no evidence no rationale. I was absolutely perplexed. The lesson learned was if your partner ever accuses you the chances of them actually doing the cheating skyrocket. I wish I knew that I'd have dumped her on the spot, unfortunately I rationalised that she had trust issues from previous relationships and accepted that I had to help her heal.

She started complaining at me for no reason. Every little thing about me started bothering her and justified a fight.

1. She accuses you of cheating ( this is projection to justify their own cheating and feel less guilty. They can never be the bad guy in their own story so they have to make you the bad guy first)

2. The kisses and affection suddenly felt empty, dry and emotionless (another guy is getting it)

3. She's always on her phone. Leaves the room to use her phone.

4. She's all of a sudden interested in all your whereabouts and plans for the day. Encourages you to go out or spend time without her.

5. CHANGES IN APPEARANCE: weight loss, changes hair style hair color, new wardrobe ( mine lost weight and immediately started cheating).

6. She suddenly starts complaining and starts arguing about everything. You're always fighting.

This next one is not a sign but more of a trigger:

- Big changes in lifestyle: new job,/promotion, new car, new house etc.

Once they level up they feel like they can do better.

Emotional distance.

My ex and I were always talk to each other about anything and everything. One day, the conversations stopped. When I would ask why, she got annoyed and started being her phone more often.

That's when she started dressing up a lot more.

She started hanging out with her coworker that was a close friend of ours more and more. First it was to go birthday shopping for a mutual friend, then it was hikes every weekend while I was home with the baby. I started getting a sick feeling in my stomach and asked her to not spend as much time with him because our daughter and I missed her. Then a week later they were out until almost midnight and she came home to give me the talk I was dreading.

She started going to the gym more and dressing nicer. I guess by nicer I mean that it was a little more revealing than usual. We were also young and had very different schedules, which gave Her enough time to do what she wanted without me thinking anything nefarious was going on. Ultimately, she told me after sleeping with her vice president for six months. That led to an immediate break up with her begging completing that we get back together. Six months and I had no clue! This was pre-cell phones or any tracking/social media stuff.

Staying up late at night unusually listening to the same song on repeat. i came to like the song, once i found out the song made sense. if your other half wont give you her phone to look at with reasonable cause then its game over in this day and age its hard to find/trust a loyal woman.

She became really cold and treated me like I was bothering her about trying to schedule a date and like she not only didn’t love me she didn’t even care or like me.