Infidelity is never acceptable, regardless of your gender. Yet, according to studies, many women find a justification to cheat on their partners. Some don’t even feel bad after doing so because they need to have “all their needs met.”
Take a look at these stories shared by a handful of men on Reddit, as they reveal some of the cheating red flags they missed. Some of the cases are so blatant that you’d wonder how someone could be so callous toward a person they vowed to spend the rest of their lives with.
Gents, if you have similar experiences that aren’t too abrasive to recall, feel free to share them in the comments.
#41
Has male friends that actively hit on her or try to sleep with her, but she won't do anything about it.
Your friends have a huge reflection on you as a person, so that's a huge red flag.
Your friends have a huge reflection on you as a person, so that's a huge red flag.
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#42
Ignoring texts in the evenings and on weekends, it becomes difficult to make plans, protective of phone and more guarded than before.
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#43
It’s all about changes in their normal routine. Here are some that I noticed.
Bathing habits. She always took a bath either right before bead or first thing in the morning. Then she started jumping in the bath right after getting home and usually with some weird explanation.
Grooming habits. She made drastic changes to hair style. Down below was always either bushy or shaved clean but then she started trimming and shaping. She was always a cotton panty person and started buying Lacey s**y stuff that I never saw her in but started hitting the laundry.
She was always hated shopping and what would have been a half hour trip would turn into hours but she would only buy 1 or 2 things.
I figured out who it was because she started mentioning him more in casual conversation.
The list goes on but people are creatures of habit. Any sudden departure from the baseline is telling.
Edit to add: she also became much more interested in what I was doing. It first manifested in her being suspicious of what I was doing like others point out. This also helped her establish my whereabouts so she could plan. I started to pinpoint when she was up to something because she would volunteer and over share what she had planned. When I finally pieced it all together and called her out on it she finally admitted it. We got past it and are still together. That being said she only admitted to one time. She still doesn’t know that I know of at least 3. Be careful to not reveal your methods or they will change theirs.
Bathing habits. She always took a bath either right before bead or first thing in the morning. Then she started jumping in the bath right after getting home and usually with some weird explanation.
Grooming habits. She made drastic changes to hair style. Down below was always either bushy or shaved clean but then she started trimming and shaping. She was always a cotton panty person and started buying Lacey s**y stuff that I never saw her in but started hitting the laundry.
She was always hated shopping and what would have been a half hour trip would turn into hours but she would only buy 1 or 2 things.
I figured out who it was because she started mentioning him more in casual conversation.
The list goes on but people are creatures of habit. Any sudden departure from the baseline is telling.
Edit to add: she also became much more interested in what I was doing. It first manifested in her being suspicious of what I was doing like others point out. This also helped her establish my whereabouts so she could plan. I started to pinpoint when she was up to something because she would volunteer and over share what she had planned. When I finally pieced it all together and called her out on it she finally admitted it. We got past it and are still together. That being said she only admitted to one time. She still doesn’t know that I know of at least 3. Be careful to not reveal your methods or they will change theirs.
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#44
Taking nudes she doesnt send to you. Going long periods of time with no contact (if you are normally in contact more). Withdrawal.
Ofc these are all pre breakup symptoms too. And possibly because i have bad communication.
Ofc these are all pre breakup symptoms too. And possibly because i have bad communication.
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#46
When she got all dressed up for a "work event" that her boss wasn't aware of when I asked him the next day.
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#47
If she was visiting Tina, she was actually visiting Tina. If she was visiting a friend, it was a guy. That way she wasn't lying in her mind. .
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#48
She was too available. Yearning for a man is one thing — throwing out your morals and standards is another.
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#49
She was out super late or would come home super late. Said she had a part time nannying job in the rich part of town and would sometimes come home with nicer bags, clothing, and jewelry. She claimed the wife would give them to her as extra gifts.
A year after we broke up. I saw a comment she made on Reddit explaining to someone else - in a sugar baby subreddit - how to explain their absence to their family and how to explain the gifts.
The advice she gave the other Reddit was to tell their family that they’re nannying for a rich family and that the gifts are donations.
I called her out on it but she had deleted it and her account since. It’s been years since.
A year after we broke up. I saw a comment she made on Reddit explaining to someone else - in a sugar baby subreddit - how to explain their absence to their family and how to explain the gifts.
The advice she gave the other Reddit was to tell their family that they’re nannying for a rich family and that the gifts are donations.
I called her out on it but she had deleted it and her account since. It’s been years since.
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#50
The early signs I noticed and I got gaslighted into thinking I was being controlling, jealous or I must be the one sneaking around.
In hindsight I got played for the fool that I was. Lesson learned 😎.
In hindsight I got played for the fool that I was. Lesson learned 😎.
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