Sometimes, you apply for a job or go on a date and there are huge red flags that you should notice, but most people ignore them. Post those here!
#41
if they pretend to be intrested but actually dont like you and pretend to date you for a while just so they can go
"did you really think i liked you"
6points
#42
Normalizing getting only the best of grades, no matter what is going on in your personal lives.
6points
#43
A bad feeling about them. always listen to your body.
6points
#44
When a potential partner is used to having their mum do everything for them.
5points
#45
lying to your face when you clearly saw them do it
5points
#46
If your new boyfriend wants to spend every waking moment with you and is upset when you spend time with friends w/o him. It's not romantic, it's controlling. Run.
5points
#47
"No one will ever love you like I do".
5points
#48
1. Anger over superficial things.
ie. Playing sports for fun, and they keep missing things or "messing up" so they let out a yell, or start berating themselves. It's one thing to check yourself and try to do better, it's another to throw a tantrum and make a spectacle because the strike you tried went out of bounds. If this is how they get mad at themselves over small things, how much worse do you think they will act for the important ones? Do you really think they will be kinder to you than they are to themselves?
ie. Playing sports for fun, and they keep missing things or "messing up" so they let out a yell, or start berating themselves. It's one thing to check yourself and try to do better, it's another to throw a tantrum and make a spectacle because the strike you tried went out of bounds. If this is how they get mad at themselves over small things, how much worse do you think they will act for the important ones? Do you really think they will be kinder to you than they are to themselves?
2. Making comments about stranger's appearance, and laughing at them because of their weight, or body hair, etc. Why would you want to be with someone who thinks it is not only alright to be so judgmental and hateful, but enjoys it too?
3. Has little patience and empathy. I keep this in mind especially for those who want/plan to have children. I have seen too many parents snap at toddlers, spank babies, say things like, "I told you no!" followed by"do you understand?" The eff? No they DON'T understand. You just hurt them physically, emotionally, and mentally, and they are 2. They don't even know enough words to put a sentence together and you expect them to always remember things you have previously told them? Or to understand every explanation you give them? I could go on and on. It just pisses me off.
5points
#49
dating someone just for something they have and not for the person themselves
4points
#50
People don't realize how toxic narcissistic people can be, and I full-well think people ignore the red flags when they come across one. Narcissistic tendencies of flamboyancy in front of friends. This can be especially when the narcissist is with their partner or kids. They do not want anyone else in their group to get more attention than them. They'll be hyper-expressive, over enunciate their words, speak louder than anyone else in the room, move around a lot, fuss with every little detail, interrupt, direct the conversation to themselves constantly, and not allow anyone else chime in for long periods.
If their kids/spouse, or anyone they use as a scapegoat, tries to join in the socializing the narcissist will snap their name and scold them for trying to have a normal 2 way conversation, leaving guests bewildered and confused, and afraid to speak anymore to that person.
People ignore this red flag and think the narcissist is just trying too hard to be a good host and sociable. At the same time not feeling too good about the visit.
If their kids/spouse, or anyone they use as a scapegoat, tries to join in the socializing the narcissist will snap their name and scold them for trying to have a normal 2 way conversation, leaving guests bewildered and confused, and afraid to speak anymore to that person.
People ignore this red flag and think the narcissist is just trying too hard to be a good host and sociable. At the same time not feeling too good about the visit.
4points
#51
When your partner abuses you and forces you to sexual content. They will say sorry, but they won’t stop doing it. If this happens,
breakup or get divorce papers.
breakup or get divorce papers.
4points
#52
Being rude to waiters/waitresses. If they are rude to them they will be rude to you.
4points
#53
your partner saying, "If you love me, you will do..." so on so forth.
3points
#54
A giant red flag in any relationship, whether it’s with a family member, partner, friend, etc., is that person doing really hurtful things, like saying your a mistake, and then like 5 minutes later after their done talking their like “I love you, you know that?” I’ve experienced that so many times in my life, and I’m honestly really done with it.
3points
#55
Went on a job interview once. As I was talking to them, they suddenly hustled me into a conference room as a woman walked past. They told me I was interviewing for her job, but she wasn’t aware of that.
Needless to say, I intentionally blew that interview.
That was a huge red flag billowing in the wind.
Needless to say, I intentionally blew that interview.
That was a huge red flag billowing in the wind.
3points
#56
I have two daughters. I have impressed upon them that any potential boy who expresses interest in them must pass the "tion-test". It is a four pronged test. The boy should have an education, occupation, transportation and motivation to be something better than what they are today. A failure in any one prong is an automatic failure of the test and he isn't worth thier time!
2points
#57
Sudden mood swings, gaslighting and dog whistle behavior that are designed to keep you off base and on the back foot. Soon, everything will be "your fault" and they'll need to control you "for your own good".
2points
#58
If your family and friends don't like the guy. A green flag is when you start a new relationship and your family and friends keep remarking on how much happier you are.
2points
#59
If you have a good relationship with your parents and all your other friends get along with them, but your prospective partner is really uncomfortable with the idea of being around them and avoids meeting them or talking to them.
2points
#60
If they complaining about earlier consultants/staff/contractors. Ask exactly why they were not happy with whoever they are complaining about. If the answer sounds like b******t, just walk away.
2points
