Hey Pandas, What Are Some Red Flags That People Ignore?

"You take yourself too seriously."/"You can't take a joke."

Especially when they've said or done something to hurt you and are deflecting responsibility.

They never try to start a conversation with/ask questions about you. They will eventually start ignoring you. (Another red flag for me is when they make fun of peoples(or fictional characters) neurodivergent traits)

That funny smell coming up from the basement...

Nothing is ever their fault, from getting fired to divorces.

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Edit. That one is personal.
When partner/friend/family member forces you to wear clothes you don't like/don't feel confortable in because THEY think it looks good on YOU.

If you don't like what you're wearing, then it DOES NOT suit you. YOU, and only YOU should decide if it looks good or not.

Getting angry, or constantly yelling at you...

Saying (whining), "I need this", when pushing you into sexual acts that you don't actually want to to.

you ask them why they love you. they only say you're beautiful. got rid of him last month when i realised i was a trophy gf. girls and gays, look out.

As far as health care providers, little white lies. They may be small but they indicate a much bigger issue with ethics.

If they burn a lot of bridges. I once dated a girl who would permanently cut anyone out of her life at the slightest offense. There was no sense of forgiveness, patience, or giving people the benefit of the doubt. As soon as they said or did something she didn't like, she would chew them out, call them liars and a**holes, and tell them they were dead to her and they should never speak to her again. Of course, to hear her tell it, she was the innocent victim in every instance. She burned so many bridges that she eventually had to move to a different city to get away from all her "enemies"

When he always wants to know where you are and what you are doing. And the reason he gives is that he cares about you and wants you to be safe. No. That is controlling behavior. You don't have to text the minute you arrive or leave somewhere or answer texts within 20 minutes. In a good relationship you trust one another.

When EVERYTHING about their ex(s) is awful. All the while claiming zero responsibility.
They are ALWAYS the victim and/or hero.
Laughing off their words and actions from a fight.
Constant bragging about their brawn and brains.
Expecting "favors" from gifts.
Pretends to like people.
Your job, time, family and ANYTHING else you value is insignificant to them.
Dishonesty, white lies about anything/anybody.
They are are the good child of the family
Superficial~Needs to buy the best even when can't afford

if they make there problems your problems by saying things like

"i thought you cared"

and also if they threatean to hurt you or themselves if you dont continue going out with them

mainly though: if they are really controlling

Your are dating someone who is married or supposedly committed to another person. If they will cheat on their wife/husband/partner, they will cheat on you. You are not special.

Teasing. There is no such a thing as "good-natured ribbing" or "just making a joke" or "having fun". Teasing is - SIMPLY - insulting and degrading another WITHOUt taking responsibility for his or her actions. (Special burning-hot red-flag for parents who tease their children.)

Big ego

When someone complains that everybody is against them... usually they're the problem.

When people say’.it was a long time ago’ relating to a bad experience you had in the past. SORRY, if I still remember it as awful albeit ages ago it doesn’t mean we can forgive stuff from so long ago. Love from bitter and twisted.

When they try to take your mental health down with theirs. One of my ex-friends tried to do this to me and my friends. Our entire relationship was like a list of things that makes someone a toxic friend.