Hey Pandas, What Advice Has Someone Given You That Could Benefit Others? (Closed)

This is for those of you who've decided not to have kids and your family is still bugging you about it; "you'd be such great parents, when are you going to have a baaaabyyyyyy?????" My 80 year old plus neighbor gave me this advice and I loved it. She said "you tell them, with a little sad look on your face, 'oh, we're trying'". They stop asking after that, lol!

The 3 advices I've always took with me and made me the way I am. Hope it helps.

1) Listen and put yourself in the other person's shoes. Then you can help people. - My Grandma.

2) Charity begins with oneself and then it goes the rest of the world. - My momma.

3) Don't be afraid of people not liking you. You are perfect the way you are. Don't expect for the approval of others. - My Brother.

Stop doubting whether you can or can't do something. For the most part, every endeavor you believe you can't accomplish has tons of people out there who probably aren't as smart, as strong, as capable, as focused, as resilient, and/or as talented as YOU are--and, yet THEY'VE been able to do those things. LIFE ACCOMPLISHMENTS aren't about whether you are CURRENTLY able to do something or not. They are about having the CONFIDENCE and RESOLVE to TRY, to LEARN, and to SUCCEED at whatever you put your heart and mind into.

As a student, I struggled with selecting a career path. I considered nursing a "noble" choice, but it didn't make use of my strengths. (I am a graphic artist.) My mom said "So, somebody gets sick. A nurse will help to make them well. YOU might design a get well card that they receive and that will also make them feel better." Essentially - we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Work with what you have.

It doesn’t always have to be the direct way. Build a path around your obstacles, take supplies and a larger backpack for experiences. Even detours lead to the goal. You just need more time, energy and stamina

It’s pretty basic advice but “don’t be a d**k”

Never play leap frog with a unicorn.😊

Although I haven't had the chance, a motorcycle dealer advised:
[1] If the motorcycle isn't comfortable when you first sit on it, it will be really uncomfortable after a few hours of riding.
[2] Take a motorcycle driving course. You'll get to try a number of bikes, learn necessary skills, and take your driving test.
[3] If you can't afford quality protective gear, you can't afford a motorcycle.

My Nan told me this ages ago and it’s served me well many times: When in doubt, don’t.

Save money, continue to learn, let go of toxic people and don't use your house as a credit card.
1). Money: Always have money aside for travel, unexpected expenses and enough to live off for 1 year in case you find yourself unemployed for any reason.
2). Learn: Keep the brain fresh
3). Doesn't matter if it's family. LET GO of toxic people. Bad for your health and well being.
4). Pay off your home as soon as you can. Whenever possible, pay more. Even if it's just 1 or 2 payments extra a year. You'll be surprised how it adds up. DON'T USE YOUR HOME AS A CREDIT CARD. You will never pay it off and your home will end up costing you more than you initially purchased it for. Emergencies are an exception but then see #1.
Peace.

You can't argue by youself.

YOU are the only person in charge of YOUR happiness

One person's beauty does not mean the absence of your own.

1) If it works, it is not stupid.
2) over-engineered stuff will break down soon

If a person makes you miserable and you feel stuck, walk away. If afterwards you still feel resentment towards the ways they threated you, think about the following. If they treat others badly, they are probably miserable themselves. But while you got to walk away, they are stuck with themselves for the rest of their lives.

"Don't make up a story in your head of the relationship or the marriage or any of that. He has yet to invest in you, so you don't need to invest that energy and head space in him"

My mother's last words to me, when hearing me discuss with a family member my guilt about not wanting to accept a job offer I didn't feel good about even though I was unemployed: "Do what YOU want to do." We were financially stable at the time, job was very different than my experience, and taking the job would have been better for the small company than for me. She passed away a couple of days later without ever saying another word.

Never bring anyone any sorrows
In what you do and what you say
Because you will find out that not even 1000 tomorrows
Will buy you back 1 yesterday.

Only you can control your feelings. That sounds stupid right? But it's true, you can control how you react to things and how you feel. Someone is rude to you? You can explode in their face or walk it off and not let the ruin your day, your emotions belong to you and no one else.

"If you put your mind to it, you can do it"-all teachers and parents from the start of school