Hey, Pandas! Tell Us Your Problems, Please (Closed)

I'm almost 70, disabled and widowed. I take care of a 70 yo autistic man who just had a stroke, a disabled 62 yo lady who is finally starting to use her legs again, 3 adult cats more dependant on me than my 4 elderly dogs ( in HUMAN years: 24, 16, 14, 12 ) 2 of whom are deaf and blind.
Then there's the 47 yo house itself, both inside and outside maintenance required to just keep up! No one to call to even help pick up leaves, or repair the roof that's leaking.
My problem is what happens to all these dependents when my mind finally snaps? I'm already showing signs of memory loss and dementia, and have a very rare form of MS, so some days are better than others.
I don't have anyone to call to take me to and bring me from the hospital for an operation I've put off having, as there's no one to care for me if I'm laid up for the days I'd need to recuperate.
I live in a rural area with scant access to medical or social assistance. It's taken me longer to write this as I'm losing the use of my right hand.
My resources are also minimal, as my income is limited to Social Security and food stamps.
Other than that, I'm doing fairly well!

I've been dealing with OCD and seeing I have a lot of school work I have turn in tomorrow makes me mad. And ever since covid started it made me think that life is pointless and there nothing exiciting about it anymore and if im just a waste of money to my parents, and I have a toxic sister who neglects me in every single way it hurts a lot I cant even be in the same room by ourselves anymore. I also have social anxiety disorder which make even harder to talk about and I cry at random times blaming myself random reasons why i shouldn't be alive and that I don't deserve this thank you for your time and for reading this. I hope you guys tell me something that should help

I'm caring for my mom who had brain surgery about a year and a half ago, it left her blind and she had a stroke upon waking up from surgery. She requires 24/7 supervision, my older brother lives with her but he has his own mental issues so I've had to move in to take care of her and the household. My father passed away a few years ago. It's really taken a toll on me as I already have my own medical and mental issues. Sometimes I feel like I'm hanging by a thread.

I rush into relationships too fast. I develop crushes way too fast and I share my problems with people I barely know. Once people know this about me, they usually just ghost me. I feel like no one would even notice if i died. I always feel like everyone is better than me and is judging me on every single detail. No matter what I do, I never have full confidence. And if anyone in the comments can help me out- how do you revive a tired friendship?

Another one of problems is that IDK how to come out as a pansexual... Any ideas? I wanna be wholesome and not just straight up say "IM PAN"....

Mine is kinda interesting. I've had troubles with being "too flamboyant". People have called me gay, thinking I was gay. No one knew that I wasn't because they wouldn't listen to me. Being gay is not bad, i just want to be who I am without being stereotyped. One day I thought of a genius response!! When they called me gay I said "Is being gay a bad thing?"

Their answer: "Yes, for you anyway" Idk what that even means.

I have a mother who is hypocritical and kind of mean. She yells at me about not doing something that she didn't even tell me to do, then makes excuses about stress. For example. Her: "Can you unload the dishwasher? I'll reload." Me narrowing my eyes because she'll add stuff on to "unloading the dishwasher" in her head: "Yeaaaaaaah." Her snapping fingers at me: NOW. Later..... Me: I did it, it's your turn." Her, whips around and glares at me because she thought I wouldn't do it: "Are you sure?" Me: Yep! Her, folding her arms: "Check again, use your eyes." Me, looking into the dishwasher: "I unloaded the dishwasher." Her: "No, no you did not." Me, looking at her like "are we seeing the same dishwasher?!?!?!?" Her, pointing to the top of the dishwasher (a counter where we put dishes to dry on a rack): "You didn't clear the top!!!!" Me, throwing up my hands: "You said dishwasher! DISH-WASHER, not DISHES on top of sink, DISH-WASHER." Her, glaring at me: "Listen, I don't know if this is one of your auditory processing disorders (aka she literally took me to a doctor to see if I was deaf since I didn't hop to like a jackrabbit when she screams at me), but I clearly said dishwasher, that includes the top." Me internally screaming because the ONE TIME she unloaded the dishwasher she didn't even finish it, AND LEFT THE TOP RACK AND COUNTER FOR ME TO DO: "I've done the dishwasher a lot, Mom. Every single time I've done it, it's dishwasher only. Not the dry dishes on top." Her, getting worked up reaaaaaaal fast, "You'll do the dishes on top AND the dishes in the sink or go to bed early without dinner!" Me, who has put up with this crap for a while: "Fine, I'm done." Her, pausing as she fumes: .... Me internally: "VIVA LA RESISTANCE, MAMI!" Her, yelling now: "You're going to do the dishes or I'll take your laptop and school things and suspend you from classes!" Time out from this dramatic dialogue. I'm doing online learning, so I need my laptop. I also use it to write my book. It's also my connection to my friends and my sisters who are away. This is not okay, since she yells about my grades and she would probably lose my laptop. Me, glaring at her: "Fine." Her: huffs and sticks her AirPods back in, blasting some stupid worship song (worship music can be good, but dang, this was the bad stuff). Sorry for the long post, but she's literally why I learned to flip people off. (I did get the satisfaction of pretending like I forgave her, sweetly bringing out coffee that I spat in and muttered "It's a damn dishwasher, not an uprising, Mom.") (Yeah, I do swear occasionally, because Hell is very real and this had a situation that required it) I read in a book somewhere that if you do really simple annoying things to someone who's mean to you over time, they'll subconsciously avoid you. So far, it's spitting in coffee and getting up obscenely early so she'll always hear me humming "My way" as she works out in the garage. I've also occasionally pulled the I'll forgive you because I'm nice like that card. Overall, she's pretty nice, you just have to hop to and read her mind before she either: a)Has a screaming match b)Stomps off and throws up her hands c)gives the blissful silent treatment. I suppose I'm being a little unkind with the spitting in coffee over a dishwasher thing, but it's happened before, and I always get the giggles when she frowns at the milk foam on top. Anyways, ta-ta!

I don handle people´s emotions well so when someone is sad such as my friend and i say something they think is offensive i say im sorry I don know how to handle people´s emotions and they say well maybe you shouldnt have friends at all then and they stop talking to me and stop being my friend and turn into my bully and it has gave me trust issues

I'm depressed, I just developed anxiety, my parents just got divorced, when I was little my best friend died and my brain just realized that last month, my grandmother died, my great grandmother died, my friend moved away, my dad and I dont really like each other, my neighbor who is like family has carona, im lonely and feel like nobody will ever want to be my boyfriend, I can keep going but I dont what to think about the other things. I dont like to talk about my feelings much but I'm ok with it like this. Idk what to do with my life anymore 😭😭

I'm depressed because I dropped curry sausages :(

and my cat died -_- :'(

Lately have been not getting enough sleep at night, and sleeping mostly in the day time! It's a disaster bc I have to do homeschool, but I'm always so tired.

I'm so stressed right now I can't focus on my school work so I end up not submitting some and that makes me stressed and it's just a cycle. I kept procrastinating about it. My hair is literally going white from the stress, I always want to throw up, my head hurts. I'm pretty sure I had a fever yesterday and the day before. My sleep schedule is so messed up I can't sleep until like 11 pm at least and 2 am at most. And I'll always wake up at 6 because we have online classes that start at 7 am Monday to Friday. I sometimes can't take naps because my sister would hit me so I would just help her with her own school work (read: do her school work) and if I don't help her I'm the one at fault. I'm so stressed I ended up making a plan on what to do IF I'm going to commit suicide the other day, then dreamt of following through with it yesterday. Had a continuation of that dream when I napped just this afternoon. I don't know what I'll do now and I'm scared on what's going to happen in the future, I know I'd either die before 18 or move to another country as soon as I can.

Now, after reading all of this posts, i realised that my problems are zilch, zero, nada!
Yes, i work and my dear is unemployed, yes, we dont have money for some things that people considered as "normal, regular", but, i don't care anymore for material stuff. I would like to be able soon to start painting and drawing again. To overcome some blockages. Otherwise, now i'm sure that i'm blessed and happy with good people in my life.

All of these are about school. 1.) Covid-19 means Blended learning. If you don't know, It's not great. 2.) I can't reach my friend because a. our school district divided up the school buildings into where in the district you live. b. she gave me her phone number over Google Hangouts, but then our school district disabled it. 3.) I'm drowning in school work. As previously mentioned, I don't like blended learning.

I recently went to the doctors with my mother and I finally spoke up about how I actually feel, The doctor didn't give me much help since my mom said most therapy classes aren't covered by our insurance and she basically left me with no help. All the doctor said was to return back to her if I get worse and she will give me pills of some sort.

Working from home feels like always working, yet still falling behind on hours somehow. When I force myself to take a break or even when I'm done for the week I have the overwhelming feeling that I should be working.

My parents and brother are super obsessed with one of the candidates in the US election and are not happy that my sister and I don't support him. I actually got screamed at and cussed at for half an hour in January when I changed my mind about voting for that person. It's only gotten worse since then and both my sister and I are afraid that we'll get kicked out if it comes out that we voted against their candidate, so we both lied about voting. I voted early and she's skipping morning classes if she needs to, in order to vote. I'm student teaching and not getting paid, so if I get kicked out, I'm massively screwed and she had to take out a loan for a car. If she has to drop out, she's worried that she'll never get out of the house.
I'm also scared because I'm having, like, 3 medical issues at once. With Roe vs. Wade possibly getting repealed this week, I could lose access to birth control, which I'm taking for a medical issue. Also, this past summer, I had a large cyst removed from my uterus, but now the pain is back in the same area and worse than before, but because I'm student teaching, I can't go get it checked out. I'm just really worried that it's something really bad. And then, on top of all of that, Republicans are trying to take away anti-discrimination laws for people with pre-existing conditions, which I have. This would mean that insurance companies can refuse to cover me and with the cost of healthcare in the US, I'd be royally screwed and I may never be able to find out what's wrong without indebting myself for the rest of my life. I mean, the surgery back in August cost $30,000 before insurance paid. Who knows what the cost would be to find out what's actually wrong with my uterine area? Definitely more than that.

I have a really hard paying attention in class meaning im behind on work. I had a speech yesterday and I didnt even write it in the 3-4 weeks we had to do it. I have and essay in english and i'm already behind. My mom takes my phone but im used to not having it so it's not a punishment for me. Any tips on how to get better at this? I use a planner and it still doesn't work. :(

This is probably gonna sound dumb, but it’s been bothering me for like a YEAR now.

The Wings of Fire dragons are so out of wack and have incorrect anatomy.

Let me explain.

The dragons have four legs AND wings. This is cannot happen as there’s no vertebrate species with six limbs, unless it’s a genetic mutation, but it’s GENETIC, which means there’s a chance it won’t happen?? You can carry something without actually having it.

Then there’s the ears. Every single dragon species in this book series has ear flaps. This is literally impossible, as they’re probably archosaurs (crocodiles and birds) and none of those have ear flaps. Whyyyyyy?

And THEN there’s the problem with IceWings (dragon species). They’re reptiles. IceWings live on the arctic tundra. Where it is always snowing. They have scales. SCALES. they’d literally FREEZE TO DEATH because reptiles are COLD BLOODED!!!

There could be a solution to that though; let’s assume dragons are theropods. Theropoda is a dinosaur clade which includes birds. Birds are warm-blooded reptiles (yes, birds are reptiles) but even if they’re warm blooded they NEED feathers to survive!!

I could go on and on about why the author of these books needs to research biology but it’d take up an entire dictionary. So I’ll leave it here.

Nothing I do is ever good enough for my mom and step-dad. I haven't had a phone in almost a year and every time I'm about to get one they decide that one small detail prevents me from getting one. I have to use my school laptop for everything. My biological dad has field for custody and my mom hasn't been telling me she loves me before I go to bed. School work has been stressing me out because I'm help to all A standards.When I told them I was bi (turn out I'm pan)they said I wasn't allowed to be gay under their roof and that I wasn't allowed to flaunt it. I thought it was getting better but this past weekend proved that it wasn't. The only outlet I have is my therapist but sometimes I cant even tell her what is going on because my mom has her claws so deep into everything