74 Men Who Walked Away From Their Marriage Explain What Made Them Finally Give Up

A lot of the time its not even one final thing...

Its just the realization that this is it for the next 30 or 40 or 50 years, as long as you have left.

Then you'll be d**d. Do you want the rest of the time you have to be THIS.

Once that stinging realization comes, you begin to check out and look for the exit.

My ex-wife's continuous threats of divorce when she didn't get her way, manipulative behavior, constantly lying, and me finally getting sick of it all and coming to peace with God on divorcing her.

Long story short. Her spending. F**k. We had so many arguments about her spending. But stop. Nope.

I nursed wounds for months because of her viciousness until i realized it’s all projection. thats why she has no friends, is estranged from family and her own nuclear family is falling apart. i lost respect for her as a person when i had that realization. then it was over.

We were already on the rocks, had been for years, I went through quite a bad depression accepting it in my head, took some time off work, and during that I cut my hair. Her response: "Oh... I guess I'll get used to it."

When I went back to work, colleagues were giving me compliments about my new haircut, told me I looked good. 
Realised when random colleagues made me feel better than my own wife that was a sign to call it quits. Told her I was filing for divorce that day.

She handed me her phone to show me a Facebook post and I saw a text notification from a guy she used to date.

I asked her, “Why is your ex boyfriend saying he wants to warm you up after a shower?”

We were already on the verge of divorce, and we’d been close before. She spun some b******t line about how he’s just like that, and I asked why she was even texting him if we were at least in theory married. She didn’t have an answer.

The next day she left her phone in the kitchen while she was in the shower. I went through her texts and found a bunch of truly awful things she’d been saying about me, my family, and more.

I confronted her on it and that was it.

We were at the hospital for my son’s asthma attack. I got a call from my sister saying a family member is in a hospital 2 hours away and doctors are unsure she will make it through the night.

I told my ex that once we are done here I will drive the 2 hours drop them off at my parents to sleep and hangout at the hospital. She said no i can go by myself as the baby needs to sleep. At that moment i knew she didn’t care about me anymore. I stayed for my son about a year and a half longer and it was miserable. I should have left sooner.

But if I did I likely wouldn’t have met my girlfriend and it’s a breath of fresh air being treated with love and respect and having non confrontational talks when we need clarification on issues. She builds me up rather than breaking me down constantly like my ex did. Everyone deserves someone in their life like that.

Attempted m****r. She tried to hit me in the back of the head with a hatchet during an argument.

She told me that she loved me like a brother, wanted a trial separation and went and slept with someone else. Denied it then blamed me for it. Eventually told me she had been with someone else for 8 months.

A few weeks earlier I had bought her a present when I came back from a work trip. Her BFF was there who got divorecd a few years ago. They asked why I'd bought the present (it was themed from something she has liked her whole life from the place I'd went which was famous for it) questioning me.

They called me into the room 3 minutes after I gave her it, they asked me if I bought it because I had an affair whilst I was away and giggled with each other.

The whole time they both knew what was going on whilst mocking me.

Finding out she was having another affair. Shame on me for trying to stay and make things work for the family. Also to hell with this system in the US....she made so much money, even off my premarital assets, for working part time and spending nonstop.

Finding out she was scheming with her brother to fleece me.

Car was overheating so we turned the heat on. It stopped overheating but I wanted to keep the heat on for another few minutes to prevent it from happening again. She did not.

We went back and forth for a minute and then she called me a misogynistic j*****s in front of my 8 year old daughter and with her sister on speakerphone. It was the latest of several incidents of her swearing and calling me names in front of my kids.

Found an attorney and filed within a couple weeks.

When she said, "Why dont you go k**l yourself and make everyone's lives better!" , in front of my daughter and her son, after i found out she was cheating on me. I was gone and had a place for myself and my daughter 3 days later.

Oh I think I finally found it. After years.

My wife possibly rebreaking my foot last night. She keeps just screaming it was an accident. No apologies, nothing. Just it was amazing accident. My entire job relies on me walking.

It was either, after the third holiday she went on without me in a row. Where I would wake up from the time difference to find she had taken large sums from our joint account. Or when she took out a buy now pay later on video games to sell at CEX because she would get like a few pound back in cash. Many arguments and talks before about money where I would be the bad guy for questioning anything she would use joint account for. Especially as I was the one having to top it up. Was always an excuse as to why and promise she would get better with money. Said I wouldn’t get a house with her (I saved all the deposit) until her credit card debt was gone. But would only go up as well as money owed to me.

Found wife's diary and she was pining after a coworker just a month after the wedding. Which she forced me into because being engaged for too long would make her anxious. It broke me.

Not a divorce, but the final straw prior to my latest break-up was when she said she was glad that men suffered in the trenches during WW1. First time I ever shouted at her (despite being on the receiving end of tantrums for years). Sounds random I know, but it came about during a convo about the respective tolls of war on men and women, after I disputed her claim that women suffered more in war than men (?!). She'd always been a self-admitted "man-hater", and was considered radical by her entire family and friend group, but this was the moment it finally clicked how hateful she was.

It was when she told me she married me because of the prospect of what I could provide for her and not because she loved me.

She said she wanted a divorce.

I asked if she wanted to talk about it.

She said no.

I said okay.

We'd been married almost 3 years. Dated off and on for 10 years before that. Most of the people I knew weren't surprised. She was a fine person. We just weren't right for each other.

Hard to say really, but for me it was probably when she slept with her coworker… nope, actually that was 100% it.