74 Men Who Walked Away From Their Marriage Explain What Made Them Finally Give Up

She decided not to work anymore. Went from Vice President of a company to not wanting to work. I tried to support us on my salary, but then she called us poor in front of her awful sister. That moment I decided I was done. Thank God

I’ve never been married- so I’m not sure my response is completely qualified. I however, have broken off two engagements.

The first one was pretty much over when I found out that she had been texting with a guy from work (like all day every day)- I think it was more of an emotional affair than anything physical (but who knows). We were only a few months out from the wedding, so I think I was willing to try to work it out with her. But a couple weeks later I found out that absolutely nothing changed between her and the guy, not only did the continue to text all day every day like nothing happened, but she told him everything about the whole thing and was talking s**t about me to him. That was the final straw.

The 2nd engagement we were just having a hard time and fighting a lot and it in general wasn’t going well. We were out to lunch with my parents and she was in general just being a b***h, and at some point felt it necessary to tell my mom that she didn’t even like me, she just tolerated me. The relationship pretty much d**d right there.

The day I realized that we had to much in common. I liked women, she liked women, which she proved to me when I caught them making out on my living room couch with another woman.

She lied. My ex was violent, a*****e, and had cheated on me repeatedly. Our relationship was in an awful state, but I had agreed to work on it for the sake of my daughter. I had installed Spyware on her computer and saw she was talking to the other guy. She refused to admit it. It didn't matter that it was benign. I saw there wasn't any hope of change. .

When I realised I didn’t want to put in effort for intimacy anymore. She deserved better.

I asked her to spend some more time at home with me, as I was feeling neglected by her. She said OK. The next day while I was at work she moved in with someone else and his parents.

Cheated. Caught. Cheated again with same guy. Caught.

Pretty easy decision. I pretended like it was a hard choice, but the day after the divorce, I had a date lined up. That relationship ended in my mind and had no emotions left.

Tried to keep me from seeing my dad on Father's Day.

There were a lot of things going wrong in our marriage (personal incompatibility, her change in whether or not to have kids, weird racism) but the immediate cause of me moving out and finally ending things was her absolute refusal to let me have any kind of relationship with my family. We were coming out of the pandemic and I hadn't seen my parents in over a year, mom invites me to a BBQ for Father's Day and ex says no, we aren't going. I try to offer that I could just go alone, she refuses and says that would make her look bad.

Grabbed a backpack, got some clothes and was out. Spent a night at my office, and then a few nights in a hotel before finally getting over myself and just calling my dad and telling him what happened. Dad just said come home, great man.

Had thought of leaving for a long time, but that finally made the choice clear.

She didn't want to pick me up from the airport. It wasn't even the big things like she wanted to f**k other men. The fact that she couldn't do a simple thing to support me was what broke me.

She chose to spenr no time together with me. She made time for other people.

It was finally truly over when We went to an event and she told me she didn't want to be around me.

That was it. It was enough. I was tired of her no liking me.

Over the course of a year I had some significant mental health issues. She was out of town, we got into an argument on a phone call, and I just snapped. I was barely managing myself. I took the “f**k this, f**k you” meme approach at that moment and told her I was done. I moved out the next day.

I was told that I was not welcome to join her activities. That I was a liability to her happiness.

She said “I hate you. I wished I had cheated on you, and if you make me stay, I’ll make your life hell.” So I kicked her out bc of suspected cheating. A couple weeks later, a family member found a picture online proving she and her affair partner went to a hotel together on a “solo Mother’s Day trip” she asked for and I paid for. Mother of the Year Award!

Getting smacked in the face after watching her kid so she could bar hop. Told her that her son said he missed her when she got home, thinking it would make her feel missed and loved. Still can’t comprehend how she took it negatively or like I was “talking s**t”. But yeah, that was the last straw for me.

This wasn’t the “last straw” but had me questioning things from the very start and has been relevant considering leaving.

We were on my honeymoon in Bali and I got food p****ning. I was in bed sick and she was sitting there so pissed saying “I’m bored” while I’m throwing up and struggling. Zero support for me. If the roles had been reversed all I would do is make her comfortable.

I told her I was upset and she never could admit to anything she did wrong. You can’t overcome narcissism.

For me it was many things building up but the last stage was asking for help looking for a missing key. I accidentally took a key home from work that I shouldn’t have and misplaced it. I needed to find it before people realized it was missing. I had been looking for it for days and explained the seriousness and she just told me that it was stupid and refused to help me look for a key.

It could also be when I was doing home renovation projects when I was doing some drywall work with no help. I had everything taped off with plastic and still got subjected to screaming and door slamming because there was some dust on the floor. She could have spent less energy and just vacuumed it up.

She stopped going to coparenting counseling with her ex who was weaponizing their son against me. If protecting me and her son wasn't important to her. Me providing a safe family home for her and her boys wasn't a priority for me. .

She said she was changing her mind on wanting kids. I made it very clear from the beginning I never wanted kids. I was afraid she was going to stop taking her birth control so I went and got a vasectomy. She became very resentful and angry and turned into a bit of an alcoholic after that. She got her second DUI and I decided I was done.

My ex wife cheated on me.. probably many times before i actually caught her. The signs were there for a long time. I decided id give it a chance because of the kids.. (men.. and ladies DON'T fkn do that) took about 3 months before i caught her again. I didnt fight or argue, i just packed up my s**t took my kid and left to my parents.

Living pay cheque to pay cheque not because we didn't earn enough money but because there was always something they wanted to buy. Got tired of having the same conversation for years that I didn't want to live in perpetual financial insecurity when we didn't need to.