Relationships aren't perfect, and the people in them are far from ideal, either. We all have bad habits and personality faults.
However, what to one person might seem like a minor issue can be a sign of actually abusive behavior.
According to the U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline, over one in three women and one in four men have experienced abuse by an intimate partner. We don't always spot the signs in time, but there are some.
Recently, people online have been sharing what red flags they ignored in past relationships.
When u/HappyHappyJoyJoy44 asked other netizens, “What was the first red flag you ignored in your worst relationship?”, many people shared some heavy experiences.
#41
Caught him in a lie...but let it go. Im stupid.
25points
#43
‘Concerns’ that are subtly manipulative so that it will guilt trip you into doing what he wants you to do
Example, don’t accept the overseas scholarship because you will not be able to afford living there or have me around for support. It translated into please don’t go away from me because I am afraid you will find someone else better than me.
Example, don’t accept the overseas scholarship because you will not be able to afford living there or have me around for support. It translated into please don’t go away from me because I am afraid you will find someone else better than me.
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23points
#45
The first night we had sex I spent the night at his apartment. In the morning we were laying in bed naked and his doorbell rings. It was his ex-wife and his 4 year old daughter. He had “forgotten” that he was watching her for the morning. I literally grabbed my clothes and hid in his closet until his ex left. Then he plopped his daughter in front of the tv and snuck me out the door behind her.
Oh, he was also broke and turned out to be an alcoholic.
Oh, he was also broke and turned out to be an alcoholic.
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22points
#46
She got upset with me because I didn't ask her if she wanted to drive. It was my car.
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21points
#47
He was 22 and I was a known 16 yr old technically homeless girl (living in condemned housing). .
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20points
#48
That she didn't get along with anybody. She was an argumentative and controlling person in all of her personal relationships. I ignored all that and thought she'd change but after I was with her, I saw that she blamed everyone for her own shortcomings and had anger issues and mental issues and refused to get help.
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19points
#49
He had a back up girl incase i said no to being his girlfriend… we were together for over a year after that, not my proudest moment.
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18points
#50
She used to open sandwiches and remove anything she don't like, then tried to do the same thing to me...
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16points