“Better late than never” is great advice when it comes to relationships. The sooner you spot the red flags, the sooner you can walk away. Luckily or unluckily, for some people, this realization came on the very first date.
So when an online thread asked them to share their experiences, the replies flooded in fast.
They were about men who proposed before the check even came. Men who mansplained a woman’s own job back to her. And men who crossed straight into stalker territory.
This list has all of that and more. Maybe these warning signs will help you spot the dealbreakers on your next outing before things go too far.
#41
Propose to me; while sobbing that his mom, who [has] cancer, would love me and I should grant her [last] wish and give her grandbabies.
17points
#42
We went on a hike (my idea) and he asked to bring his dogs. I love dogs. He let those dogs jump on every person we passed and kept saying, ‘they’re friendly!’ One person responded, ‘not everyone likes dogs jumping on them!’ And he laughed. Many people were clearly uncomfortable. He was like 39. Inconsiderate. Rude. Can’t read the room. You not gonna embarrass me with your behavior. Bye.
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17points
#43
Told me there was another girl he was talking to that he liked more than me. Then told me he couldn’t pay for the meal.
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17points
#44
Dude told me because I enjoyed cartoons I was childish and needed to grow up. Had my own place, my own car, paid my own bills, had a whole degree….and he kept trying to invite himself into my place when he dropped me off. He got blocked immediately after the door closed.
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17points
#45
Showed up with a face tattoo that was not in any of his photos. Then said he didn’t ever read.
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16points
#46
Showed up with his teenage daughter because he needed a chaffeur since he got an DUI.
16points
#47
He got angry enough to yell at me, in front of my parents, because I had the gall to expect him to take me out without having my nails done.
We were going out fishing?
We were going out fishing?
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16points
#48
He said he "doesn't have a thing for feet" and then said if he did, he wouldn't have stayed on the date with me (while gesturing with his head and eyes towards my feet). Apparently my feet are not cute haha.
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15points
#49
He had really bad oral hygiene smelt bad when he was talking to me!
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15points
#50
He was late.
He didn't apologize.
He talked all about himself... And his problems with his ex.
He was a cop and felt the need to broadcast it like he deserved extra... But he definitely had a Napoleon complex.
Scary knowing he's in uniform.
He didn't apologize.
He talked all about himself... And his problems with his ex.
He was a cop and felt the need to broadcast it like he deserved extra... But he definitely had a Napoleon complex.
Scary knowing he's in uniform.
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14points
#51
He was impatient to leave for the next bar, the date was going well and there was no rush....but he suddenly yelled out for the check, paid immediately, and then grabbed my FULL cocktail and chugged it and said "ok let's go"
This literally happened 3 days ago, online dating again is a trip.
EDIT: this was his regular bar, we walked in and every member of staff greeted him by name. Also, when we left to go to this other bar, he instead tried to insist that we just go back to his place. As the night went on it became clear he was just anxious to get to the [intimate] part and be done with all the pesky getting to know each other stuff.
This literally happened 3 days ago, online dating again is a trip.
EDIT: this was his regular bar, we walked in and every member of staff greeted him by name. Also, when we left to go to this other bar, he instead tried to insist that we just go back to his place. As the night went on it became clear he was just anxious to get to the [intimate] part and be done with all the pesky getting to know each other stuff.
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14points
#52
Less than an hour into our date he asked me what kind of birth control I was on because the last girl he dated refused to take birth control, got pregnant, and then decided to have an abortion—and he didn’t want to happen again.
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14points
#53
He said my dog looked like a mop.. and wouldn't stop making fun of her, because he doesn't like smaller dogs.
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14points
#54
He desperately tried to win his ex-girlfriend back at the bar we were at. She was the bartender. He picked the venue. I spent the night awkwardly sipping my drink watching my date make a fool of himself.
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13points
#55
He tried to change my drink order with the waitress, because he thought I should have something more ladylike.
I didn’t make it all the way through the first date, let alone a second.
I didn’t make it all the way through the first date, let alone a second.
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13points
#56
We both had Disneyland annual passes so decided to first date there. Even if things didn't click, we could still have a fun time and it was a safe public place in case things went south.
Well he proceeded to talk my ear off about wrestling the *entire* time. He hardly asked anything about me, just talked to me about wrestling and how his ex used to go watch his wrestling matches and he wanted that in a partner.
When we were on Pirates of the Caribbean, instead of shutting it and enjoying the ride, he kept talking about wrestling!
He was a nice enough guy but our interests did not align and I felt 0 desire to make another attempt at anything.
Well he proceeded to talk my ear off about wrestling the *entire* time. He hardly asked anything about me, just talked to me about wrestling and how his ex used to go watch his wrestling matches and he wanted that in a partner.
When we were on Pirates of the Caribbean, instead of shutting it and enjoying the ride, he kept talking about wrestling!
He was a nice enough guy but our interests did not align and I felt 0 desire to make another attempt at anything.
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13points
#57
Invited him for dinner - one I cooked myself - he ate it appreciatively and then leaned back and put his feet on the table, one crossed over the other.
Picture dining room table, china hutch, and upholstered chairs - not in the kitchen, not on a formica table - and I was fairly dressed up for the occasion. Shudder. This was in the 70s.
He was beyond uncouth. He had no couth at all. (Yes, was educated but lived with his three teenage sons so maybe they had all gone feral?).
Picture dining room table, china hutch, and upholstered chairs - not in the kitchen, not on a formica table - and I was fairly dressed up for the occasion. Shudder. This was in the 70s.
He was beyond uncouth. He had no couth at all. (Yes, was educated but lived with his three teenage sons so maybe they had all gone feral?).
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12points
#58
Took me along to his dentist appointment before trying to ask me to pay for dinner.
12points
#59
We didn’t even make it to the first date. We were going to go to a carnival at the beach and the day of, he texted asking if I wanted to get Chinese food and “Netflix and chill” instead. I cancelled and never talked to him again.
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12points
#60
When I was in university, a guy asked me out on a date to prove to me that San Diego has better Mexican food than Los Angeles. He never took me anywhere to eat that day and instead just drove over to his apartment (I did not go in). Before we went there, he was telling me he gets violent when he drinks and also did a brake check when I told him I had a fear of driving to scare me. I blocked him after the date.
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12points