80 Men Who Destroyed Their Chances On The First Date Before Dessert Arrived

He was telling a story about his “roommate” and accidentally called her his wife twice. Didn’t even realize it and kept telling the story. I finally stopped him and asked if was married. “Yes, but she’s just my roommate.”

He tried to dine and dash and I wouldn't let him get away with that.

He went on an unprompted rant about how much he hated gay people and they were wastes of people. I had on my profile that I was a shadowcaster in our local Rocky Horror Picture Show group and had a couple pictures of me with cast-mates that were clearly of the rainbow variety. Honestly, most of my friends back then were gay. I ended the date early and blocked him. This was back around 2014 in a pretty friendly city, so that level of hate was shocking to young me.

Was so happy to tell me about himself and how good looking he was, and how lucky I was... it was so bad.

He made a fat phobic joke about some random stranger nearby. I can’t stand people who feel the need to pick apart anyone around them - what do you gain from having such a mean heart?

Tried to kiss me when I had already said “no”.

No is an answer.

Spent a good amount of time explaining and advising me on the niche industry I’ve worked in for 25 years. Every piece of wisdom was outdated and useless. He had briefly worked in the same industry 20 years prior in an entry level role, whereas I’m the operations manager for a large nationwide company.

Got weirdly aggressive when we played pool and I did better than him. Then proceeded to order multiple jumbo size alcoholic drinks for me because it was a "better deal" despite me saying I didn't want to drink much.

Afterward he got mad when I said I didn't want to go out again and accused me of being shallow and not wanting to date someone shorter than me. I was like, if that was a problem I wouldn't have gone out with you in the first place. You were just a jerk the whole time.

When asked what he did for work he responded ‘I am in the business of helping other people make money. ‘.

Amway.

He told me about everytime he went to jail and of course none of it was his fault.

Messaged other girls on Tinder while I drove him home (we had also met on Tinder), then was confused why I didn’t want to come inside. I get we’re not exclusive but at least wait until you’re out of the car to message other girls.

A guy, a grown adult man in his 40’s, asked me out for dinner. Wanted to go to Olive Garden. His mom had given him a coupon.

We did not discuss who was paying, and I’m not a weirdo who expects the man to pay. FYI.

This man proceeds to steer: “you’re not very hungry, right? The appetizers are big. We could just share an appetizer. How about the calamari? We don’t need drinks, right?”

He was there intending to only spend the $20 coupon or gift card or whatever it was, and not have to pay actual money. But he wasn’t going to say it, he was just going to hint around about it.

So the calamari comes out, and it isn’t very good because hello, it’s Olive Garden. It came pre-made out of a freezer bag or something. Dude proceeds to flag down the waitress to make a scene about how it wasn’t very good. He was trying to make the poor Olive Garden waitress cry over his free $20 coupon appetizer. Was he hoping for comped drinks too? Don’t know, didn’t ask.

And then as I was beating a hasty retreat to my car, he tried to kiss me.

Offered me a book to read.

Dianetics by L. Ron Hubbard.

Give me an ‘expert’ lecture about my own job, even though he knew nothing about it.

A guy told me he has anger issues so bad he would black out, sometimes for days. I never went on a 2nd date because, you know, I don’t want to end up in a ditch somewhere.

Driving together on the way to the (first) date- he mentioned he had just paid off some debt. I was like oh that’s awesome I bet it feels great! Then he says he paid so much he couldn’t afford dinner. Ok! I offered to pay to celebrate. He ordered the most expensive thing on the menu, and added extra’s. Talked at me the whole time, I didn’t speak at all. I gave up and paid, let him drop me off at home. Years later he messaged me an apology.

Invited his ex girlfriend- neither of us knew the other was coming.

Vaped in a movie theater. Full on cloud of grape vapor while the people behind us are just trying to watch a movie.

He told me that when we got married, I’d have to convert to his religion. I was not even halfway through my latte. I had to explain to him that I do not think that any gods exist, let alone his specific variety of god. He seemed genuinely confused.

I am bisexual, and he tried to convince me to split the cost of [an exotic dancer] with him. We were just at a casual coffee date.