Red flags, turn-offs, deal breakers — there are a lot of names for them. But everyone has something they do not tolerate in romantic relationships. One Reddit user wanted to learn what it is for guys, so they specifically asked the fellas to share the behaviors and habits women have exhibited that made them immediately lose all interest. From a lack of respect for other people's boundaries to unresolved issues from the past, it seems that sometimes a second chance isn't even an option.
#1

I was dating this girl for a month, and she would start talking about the possibility of us getting married, having children, and those children being allergic to dogs... I had a dog, still do 10 years later, and she wanted me to consider getting rid of him for that reason. That was literally the reason I dumped her. Shortly after that I met my wife and we have two children, neither of which is allergic to dogs. The dog is older now but still by our sides.
87points
#2

"When I was a kid we would always kick the neighborhood cats as hard as we could to see how far they'd go flying".
Can't remember the exact quote but was basically that. She said it with a smile on her face like she still thought it was funny. What tf is wrong with people?
Can't remember the exact quote but was basically that. She said it with a smile on her face like she still thought it was funny. What tf is wrong with people?
74points
#3

She brought a reusable water bottle into a restaurant on our first (and last) date. She insisted she only had it because she liked her own water. I thought it was a bit odd, but tried to go with the flow. 5 minutes later I smelled vodka. It was full of vodka. That is one hell of a drinking problem.
73points
#4

I'm grateful and lucky to have a decently sized group of very close friends, two of which are girls. One is a lesbian, with a girlfriend, and the other has been going out with someone for years and is currently engaged to them.
The last person I was seeing didn't have an issue with either of them until we started getting more serious. I was told I spent too much time with them and talk too much to these girls. One of them lived on the other side of the country and I'd see them maybe once every two months. The other lived half the world away. We would speak to each other once every few weeks. Yet my partner wasn't happy. For whatever reason, she didn't trust either of them.
I broke off our relationship pretty much immediately. I wasn't going to shut the door on two friends I've known for over 15 years.
The last person I was seeing didn't have an issue with either of them until we started getting more serious. I was told I spent too much time with them and talk too much to these girls. One of them lived on the other side of the country and I'd see them maybe once every two months. The other lived half the world away. We would speak to each other once every few weeks. Yet my partner wasn't happy. For whatever reason, she didn't trust either of them.
I broke off our relationship pretty much immediately. I wasn't going to shut the door on two friends I've known for over 15 years.
70points
#5

Was talking to this cute chick and she invited me over for the night. We're making out and I hear noises and she says it's nothing we're alone. I go to the bathroom and see a small child. No big deal to she has a kid but turns out she had 4 kids and was hiding them in a room as to not scare me off.
66points
#6

Met this girl one night at a party. Friend of a friend. Thought she was single, we start flirting, dancing, until she whispers in my ear "if you want me, you will have to prove me you are better than my boyfriend".
Sure thing. Went to get a drink. Never came back, GTFOH.
Sure thing. Went to get a drink. Never came back, GTFOH.
64points
#7

Told me she thought I spent too much time with my daughter. My daughter was 6-7 years old. My daughter didn’t live with me, she stayed weekends and some holidays.
64points
#8

I think I got this one!
(Amongst many) one carved my name into her arm with a piece of broken mirror and then told people I did it to her.
(Amongst many) one carved my name into her arm with a piece of broken mirror and then told people I did it to her.
61points
#9

Didn’t believe in Dinosaurs or evolution.
59points
#10

She suggested we walk to an ice cream shop. Who's at the ice cream shop? Her ex-husband. Why? Because that is where they AGREED TO MEET FOR A CUSTODY EXCHANGE.
56points
#11

Told me she broke up with someone who cheated on her in her dreams.
Aaaaaand we're done.
Aaaaaand we're done.
55points
#12

She had to choose between another guy and me. I told her I wanted a relationship with her and the other guy just wanted to get in her pants. She decided to dump me and choose the other guy. Well, big surprise he wanted to get in her pants and left for a party when she didn’t go for it.
Came crawling back and I told her no. Not being second best. Never take someone back when they treat you as second best.
Came crawling back and I told her no. Not being second best. Never take someone back when they treat you as second best.
55points
#13

Went out with a girl one night. Got back to her place and the smell of dirty litter box was so strong it made my eyes water. I literally had to leave, it was nauseating. She was really cool and hot too, but take care of your animals.
53points
#14

Told her I was going for a walk/run, exactly how long it would take and that I was leaving my phone in the car to not weigh down my pants. She acknowledged and accepted this. Keep in mind we had been talking for at most a day or two and not met up yet. I get back to my car and she blew my phone *up*. Cursing me out, saying I was cheating on her, etc. I was like dude I barely know you and I told you what I was doing. .
52points
#15

Firt date she told me she would never pay for anything and expected to be taken care of everytime we went out... well I can tell you she paid her half of the check about 5 min later and I was out of there lol.
52points
#16

The most immediately I ever had feelings pivot was when a number of us were out to dinner and I'd been thinking it over and we'd hung out individually a few times, and she was just a raging jerk to waitstaff who were clearly trying their best on a pretty crazy night. Edit: I don't mean she was just a little pushy or something, she actively insulted the people waiting on us multiple times. It was a lot.
And the kicker was - she waited tables. But about five minutes in, my interest was zero, and about five minutes after that, I wanted things to hurry, too, because she was embarrassing the 5 of us at the table. Just abominable rudeness.
And the kicker was - she waited tables. But about five minutes in, my interest was zero, and about five minutes after that, I wanted things to hurry, too, because she was embarrassing the 5 of us at the table. Just abominable rudeness.
51points
#17

Tinder hookup, she came over to my place. DONT let them come over on the first date. Everything was good for about ten minutes. We talked, had a couple laughs. Then she goes into my closet and starts pulling all my clothes off the hangers and dropping them on the floor. Asked her what she was doing. She laughed and kept doing it. I physically carried her out of the apartment.
51points
#18

Made a copy of my house key and went in while I was at work to rearrange my furniture and add “female touches” to my already nicely decorated apartment.
51points
#19

Told me she believed 100% that she was the reincarnation of Cleopatra and her on-again-off-again boyfriend was the reincarnation of Mark Anthony, and I was just meant to be a temporary distraction...
Ended up chatting for a bit just cause I literally found her delusions very fun and entertaining.
Ended up chatting for a bit just cause I literally found her delusions very fun and entertaining.
49points
#20

She got into a fistfight with her sister while her sister was holding her infant son. Like maybe three months old, having to dodge haymakers from his aunt.
47points



