70 Dumb Things Professionals Said Or Did That Made Clients Lose Trust In Them Instantly

I was maybe 22 and mentioned to my boss that I wanted to get my wisdom teeth out because they were bothering me. She said “that’s probably not what’s bothering you, you don’t get your wisdom teeth until you’re in your 30s-40s. That’s why they’re called wisdom teeth, because you’re older and wiser when they come in.”

I took everything she said after that with a grain of salt.

When the roofer didn’t bring a ladder.

I had repeatedly gone to my GP about this nagging pain in my arm. He did some blood work to check for a vitamin deficiency and sent me for an x-ray which didn’t show anything. He then decided my pain must be because I was ‘an anxious female.’ On my last visit I mentioned I had also been struggling with breathing properly and had some chest pain and was starting to get quite concerned. He said ‘you’re just anxious, but what do you have to be anxious about? You have a husband with a good job’ and sent me on my way with a prescription for antidepressants.

Two days later I was in the ER being diagnosed with a pulmonary embolism and now I have a new doctor.

'Some people like me, some don't.'

This was a boast from a doctor I saw when I injured my shoulder and he said it was all in my head.

I went to my GP to get a prescription for birth control. I suggested an IUD may be something I want because I'm very forgetful and pills did not work out in the past.

She refused to prescribe an IUD because I was a virgin and she didn't want to "take my virginity away" by inserting an IUD... Currently looking for a new GP.

About 20 years ago I had a well-known nurse practitioner who was married to one of the doctors in the practice. I had developed a weird combination of symptoms along with a silent strep infection. Anyway, she came in telling me about people she knew (giving first and last names and asking if I knew them) and telling me about their strep infections and symptoms and stuff. That was the last time I made an appointment with her. I knew it was straight-up illegal to talk about other people's medical conditions and it made me wonder who she told about mine. Horrible, horrible woman who thought she was untouchable because she was well off and married to a doctor.

"You need a diet of 1000 calories split into 5 small meals, no fat at all and you need to do some video trainings with Mel B" - "professional and certified" sport dietician whom I visited because I wanted to have a professional weight lifting training plan and diet. Stupid me actually tried to follow this diet for 3 months and stopped it after fainting several times during the day.

EDIT: some clarification - this hapenned around early 2010s in Poland. It turned out you don’t need any certification to call yourself a “dietician” here or at least there was none back then. I was a petite girl who loves running with no weight problem at all and just wanted to find someone who introduce me to weight lifting. There were more red flags I skipped because I was young and naïve, such as the dietician office location in a shady part of the town, weird food restrictions (like “you are allowed only 100g of meat per day, no eggs at all, no bread at all, no fruits at all... BUT if you need to make a cheat meal because you need to take your customers for a business lunch, then fine eat whatever but no carbs”) followed by some motivation nonsense. I remember I lost around 3 kgs in the first weeks and then the weight loss stopped. I regained 2 kgs back and were able to loss them again on a rational reduction diet made by an actual professional clinical dietician I visited later.

High school guidance counselor

Talking to her about what schools I was applying to.

Me: So I'm looking at these state/city schools as my backups, buy im mpstly lookong at this private school because they sent me..."

She scoffs, interrupting me: Honey your family could never afford a private school."

Me:... a letter offering a full academic scholarship.

My professor said it’s not her job to grade our papers correctly.

My guidance councillor told me I wouldn’t get into post secondary with my B+ average. I just nodded my head and never went back to her.

I told my midwife I needed to push, her reply was ‘no, you dont’. I told her I really did, and she told me I could try and push if I wanted to but I was no where near ready to have the baby.
I was holding the baby 15 minutes later.

Luckily another midwife had come in, actually listened to me and had a quick look and lo and behold, baby is ready burst forth in to the world. She took over then and delivered her, which I’m very grateful for as I’d completely lost all faith in the first one.

A dental specialist (oral surgeon?) charged me $450 for a head CT to diagnose TMJ. I don't have it, but I do clench my jaw a lot, especially when stressed and while I sleep.

He lectured me on the evils of taking medication for my anxiety disorder then tried to sell me a book on meditation his buddy wrote and suggested I go do yoga. While I'm sure those things do help, I was in a lot of pain and it was very condescending.

I went back to my regular dentist who made me a night guard and agrees with taking my meds as directed by my psychiatrist.

When I was younger I had a doctor tell me my blood sugar level was a little high at 120.

Which would be high if I wasn’t type 1 diabetic. I told her and she just pauses and says “oh...”

I had a doctor (a family acquaintance, mom was friends with his wife) ask me to refrain from sports to aid in a diagnosis of some issues I was having. He followed up, condescendingly, "but you'll never listen to me."

I was 20 I think. I had seen him maybe 3 times before and had done nothing to indicate I wouldn't be a compliant patient.

He immediately lost any of my trust as a provider, and I changed doctors.

It was really disappointing, as he was someone I respected before this.

After I had been waiting in the examination room for an abnormally long time, the doctor finally came in. He apologized for his lateness and told me all about the patient he had just been helping—a 16-year-old girl whose religious zealot of a father had convinced this doctor to lie to her about the results of a pregnancy test. The father had forced this poor girl to take the test upon learning that she was no longer a virgin, and he wanted to scare-shame her even further by having the doctor—who was a minister of sorts in the same church—pretend she was pregnant. She had an emotional breakdown when the doctor falsely told her the test had come back positive, and he said that he used the experience as a "teaching moment" to warn her about the dangers of premarital intimacy. Of course, living where we live (where intimacy ed doesn't mention safe practices), it probably was more risky than it could have been.

With this double-breach of trust—intentionally lying to a patient and then revealing her story to another patient—I left and never returned.

My old doctor stared at me deadpan in the face and said "Ok, and what am I supposed to do about that?"

Uh? Am I the doctor now?

I had gotten my apartment and went furniture shopping. I decided to avoid the big box stores and checked out the local small shops. The first one I walk into.

"Hello sir, welcome how are you today?"

"pretty good and yourself?"

"Better now that we are ready to take your money"

Instantly turned my back and left.

Knee surgeon.

Had already had loads of consultations. Had some nasty ligament ruptures. Knew it was serious but my doctor, who is one of the best knee surgeons in Europe was great and calming and we talked over all the possibilities.

One day I had to talk with another of his surgeons and he flat out told me I wouldn’t ski again, run again properly and loads of other stuff. Was furious as I hadn’t been told anything like this in the 6 months prior to speaking to this guy.

Safe to say, when I next spoke to my actual doctor I made sure the second doctor wasn’t to be a part of my operation or anything.

Everything went well and 6 years later it has never hindered me since.

The current job position I hold is by no means an entry level. When I was hired, I had to go through a rigorous 6 week training program. The first two weeks though, our instructor is part of this program when someone with much lower credentials is allowed to teach initial training to the much more experienced class in order to eventually be given a job at the position we're all in training for (makes sense right?). Anyways anytime we had questions about anything, this instructor would say the words "You are all getting too far ahead, we're going to talk about this next week". It took about 2 days for us to figure out that our instructor did not know the material and had no business attempting to teach us.

I took a job that sounded ideal on paper but the CEO who I reported to gave off some bad vibes very quickly.

A lot of decisions he made were questionable at best (he wanted me to play clips from the Wolf of Wall Street to motivate the team...) but as soon as he told me he was altering people's targets mid way through the month and withholding bonuses from certain team members I was out of there.

I was in the job for exactly 1 month and on a Tuesday morning I got into work and told him that I morally couldn't do it and that if that was his decision I didn't want to be a part of it. 2 minutes later I silently collected my things and left feeling literally over the moon for doing so.