In relationships, there’s always the possibility that you’re looking at your partner through rose-colored glasses. Affection, chemistry, and attractive physical attributes of your significant other can sometimes make you blind to their flaws that could be deal-breakers in the long run. So how can you know for sure that the person you’re with is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?
While there’s no definitive answer to this question, women in this thread recently discussed some things that, according to them, should be relationship red flags. Scroll down to find them, and make sure to upvote those that, in your eyes, don’t fit the marriage material definition.
While you're at it, don't forget to check out a conversation with relationship experts Emily Marriott, LMHC, LPC, and Dr. Deb Castaldo, who kindly agreed to share the marriage non-negotiables from an expert point of view.
#41
I told him I wasn't feeling well and that it was going to delay me coming to see him. He told me "F off, well when are you going to be here"? No "I hope you feel better", no "well we can get together later on if you want to rest for a bit", no "well I can drive down to you if you don't feel like coming up here". None of that. I don't know where these guys learn how to talk to women, I'd really like to know. There's nothing that turns me off more than a complete disregard for my well-being.
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45points
#42
He never defended me. Humiliated me and when his grandfather said “ a woman’s place is in the kitchen” laughed it off and didn’t say a word. Also cheated multiple times with men and women. Till this day he tells people I beat him up and suffered from DV, when in reality he was the one that chocked me 3x. Definitely one of those people that pretend to be so dreamy in the beginning and then show their true colors once you call them out on their bs.
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45points
#43
One guy I thought I’d marry ( I was young and more naive then) woke me up at 3am to make him a sandwich. I made both of us sandwiches, took them back, he didn’t want mayo- had to remake his sandwiches. When I was done, he left all the crumbs on my bed and drove to his mom’s house.
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44points
#44
When provided an opportunity to take a task off my busy, stressful plate, he declined because he felt I could do it.
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43points
#45
pushed down an entire baby tree that was growing into the path and it snapped in half on a hiking date
41points
#47
My 1-month-old son had to see the doctor and wound up having surgery. My fiance wouldn't accompany me because he wanted to go hunting with his dad instead.
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39points
#49
being cheap when you can afford it and also even a hint of a temper
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33points
#50
Stopped dating me. Didn’t make any effort to keep me happy. No flowers, no making me special, nothing.
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24points
