In relationships, there’s always the possibility that you’re looking at your partner through rose-colored glasses. Affection, chemistry, and attractive physical attributes of your significant other can sometimes make you blind to their flaws that could be deal-breakers in the long run. So how can you know for sure that the person you’re with is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with?
While there’s no definitive answer to this question, women in this thread recently discussed some things that, according to them, should be relationship red flags. Scroll down to find them, and make sure to upvote those that, in your eyes, don’t fit the marriage material definition.
While you're at it, don't forget to check out a conversation with relationship experts Emily Marriott, LMHC, LPC, and Dr. Deb Castaldo, who kindly agreed to share the marriage non-negotiables from an expert point of view.
#21
"I would only marry you if you iron my Shirts" yeah, but No. "I will only marry a woman that stays at home for 3 years with the child (although my mom is at home, because she doesn't work)" If you want a stay-at-home wife, you should earn enough stay-at-home money, honey.
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74points
#22
He told me he couldn't promise me he'd never cheat on me because "you never know what might happen in life." We were already engaged.
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70points
#23
Constantly referred to my podcast as my “little project” - mind you I was generating thousands of dollars from it
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69points
#24
I actually married this a**. But he told me: “You need therapy.”
Well, the therapist showed me it was him, not me, and we divorced.
Well, the therapist showed me it was him, not me, and we divorced.
69points
#25
I asked him not to drive drunk, he blew up with “why don’t you trust me do you not love me” and threatened to k-ll us both by driving into a wall. When I got out of the car he hit me with it on purpose.
Called the police. They did nothing.
Called the police. They did nothing.
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67points
#26
said that it was normal for men ti cheat on their pregnant wives because by the time they were 7-8 months pregnant they wouldn’t be attractive anymore. broke up two months later.
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66points
#27
Make "jokes" about how he wouldn't cheat on me simply because he didn't want to pay the bills alone. He thought he was funny, I showed him I'm hilarious
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63points
#28
He said that I shouldn't be too excited and happy all the time.
And after that, I feel like I don't deserve to be excited and happy at all.
And right now I'm still trying to overcome that feeling. I DEFINITELY deserve to be happy, and I can always be excited about something small in my life.
And F**K HIM for making me lose my spark
And after that, I feel like I don't deserve to be excited and happy at all.
And right now I'm still trying to overcome that feeling. I DEFINITELY deserve to be happy, and I can always be excited about something small in my life.
And F**K HIM for making me lose my spark
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63points
#30
He said “ women do too much about their periods and they blame too much on their periods “
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60points
#31
Slap me because I used the wrong word infront of his parents. *that was my second language and I didn't know it was a "bad" word. Like I said I was pissed off by something and he slapped me.
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60points
#32
Told me that if his female friend said she wanted him, he dump me instantly. Go away, creep.
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59points
#33
When we were in HS I cashed him out for saying he’d be disappointed in his son if he found out the son was gay. When I told him that not accepting his child makes for a bad parent he doubled down and went and asking his, my, and our mutual friends if they’d be disappointed too and trying to justify that. Then got mad when I said I’d never have kids with someone like him let alone stay together. I was told that was a stupid hill to die on, but I’d simple don’t want to be with a bigot.
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59points
#34
His mum was very rude to me and made me cry. Instead of taking a stand for me , he left the room with the excuse that someone rang the doorbell. What a spineless man. Really taught me a lot.
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52points
#35
Speaking negatively about other women is automatic trash can. If your ex is crazy best believe I think YOU did something to make her that way
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51points
#36
Made me realize his mother was the woman he was already in love with and that there would be the three of us in the relationship. Final straw is when he yelled at me for not doing a favor for his mother that he asked me to do.
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50points
#37
He tried to justify why a woman cheating is worse than when a man cheats
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49points
#38
He really wanted a baby, and I really didn't. Nice guy otherwise, he eventually got his baby.
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49points
#39
At a Thanksgiving that included his mom and a lot of his friends, I noticed that his mom was washing dishes alone. It was clear to me that she could either use an invitation to relax and socialize awhile, or a few friendly helping hands. I mentioned this to him. He brushed it off, saying, "Oh no, she's fine, it makes her feel useful."
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48points
#40
He was rude to wait staff, especially in a drive-thru. He’d really flip out when they asked him to park so they could bring his food out to him.
The anger issues were SEVERE.
The anger issues were SEVERE.
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47points
