We’ve Heard Of Toxic Masculinity, But Here Are 64 Examples Of Toxic Femininity That Are Just As Real

When in a relationship, not clearly communicating needs and getting upset when their partner is not a mind reader and expecting them to just "pick up on the vibe" or "should already know because it's obvious". I know because I used to do that. Ugh. Man or woman, we are responsible for taking care of ourselves and part of that means clearly stating our wants and needs to our partner, friends, family, whomever clearly and deliberately.

“You can’t hit me because im a girl!”

Judging women for choosing to be SAHMs.

Purity culture maybe?

and yuck, that whole "defining ppl by their child-having status" thing is gross.

Mommy wine culture.

Thought I'd never say this but:
Watch "Keeping up with the Kardashians" lol.

If you hold a woman accountable or disprove them you are now mansplaning. If a guy is flirting with her that she isnt attracted to, he is suddenly a creep. Wants equal rights but not equal consequences.

Toxic masculinity = Men expected to be tough with no feelings and responsible for protecting others

Toxic femininity = Women expected to be the caretaker in any situation and responsible for others' happiness

Caretaker can be a note taker in a work meeting, it can be the person who is always cooking, the person always changing diapers, the organizer, or the nurse to the sick.

I am sure I am simplifying complex things with this statement.

My older sister telling me that I’ll never find a husband if I don’t stop wearing plain brief underwear and buy some “cute” underwear like thongs.

Victim blaming other women.

I think one overlooked example of toxic feminity is women not acknowledging female privilege. For instance, I brought up the fact that in court proceedings mothers for one reason or another, women tend to win custody hearings to an ex-friend. My friend focused on the fact that men often choose to give up custody. However, she refused to see how this trend be influenced by the social structure and the perception of women being better parents or even women having the privilege of spending quality time with their children due to their societal expectations.

For instance, imagine if custody hearings were decided solely on who could provide financially for children. In such a scenario, male privilege would rear its head as men, due to societal expectations, often spend more time at work increasing the odds of them getting paid more and having more opportunities for advancing. Thus, the societal gendered expectation would create a situation unfavorable for women.

If our society was an equal one, men and women would have similar expectations as parents and there would likely be a 50/50 split over who got the children. We do not live in this society, so of course, men will not always be the chief caregiver in most cases, but this doesn't mean the father is unfit for primary custody.

I live with my mom and my sister. Both of them are feminists who think men are trash and say that men deserve to be bullied. Do I even have to explain.

Yes, I think the oddest example I can find is the toxicity of women's competitiveness against other women and men when working, how you have to "claw your way up" and step on people just to reach success, and how the attitudes of successful women are absolutely [the worst] towards one's who aren't as successful.

Reading some of these responses I think there are some men (and women) who don’t understand what toxic femininity/masculinity is.

Toxic femininity is society’s standards of femininity that serves against us. Both men and women can ~~have~~ engage in this behaviour. For example:

- “too posh to push” dialogue

- believing women are naturally better carers or parents (ETA: and by extension, men as less reliable parents)

- believing a woman’s purpose is to stay home and bear children without earning an income (eta: and by extension, a man must be the breadwinner)

- a lot of the makeup / fashion industry promoting beautiful slim women (if you’re not beautiful and/or slim, you are not being a proper woman)

- see also social influencers

- treating women who are not overtly emotional, or with male-dominated interests as strange or different

- shaming women with menstrual cycles as unclean, must be kept hush hush as feminine women are clean and pure.

Conversely, typical examples of toxic masculinity are “boys will be boys” and “man up.”

Lmaooo hell yeah it is. i’ll give you an example that happened today in the morning while i was in public health class. we were having a big class discussion about kids having diabetes and ways on how to fix this, who to blame, etc. we were also role playing, so one guy was a teacher and one girl was a mother. the class teacher asked the mother something along the lines of “you work 10 hours a day and when you come home, you are too tired to make dinner so you just order something unhealthy like a pizza for the family. to try and solve this, who could you ask to help you make dinner or lunch for the kids?” she proceed to answer “my husband” randomly, out of nowhere, a girl (the class loudmouth) blurted out, “who are you kidding, men are useless” and the teacher just laughed it off and everything went back to normal. now what if the roles were reversed? ngl it made me kinda uncomfortable and i cringe a little but i just brushed it off.

For starters, Just check Instagram and FDS. They shame and bully men and women they don't like. They pretend men aren't affected by the same things they complain about. It's like they believe the whole world revolves around them.

Hm, so if toxic masculinity says men must act strong, be emotionless, and dominate women, that would mean toxic femininity is acting weak, emotional, and submissive, and maybe shaming other women for not doing the same?

I sort of feel like all femininity is viewed as toxic in American culture. Think about what happens if a dude wears a dress, vs a girl wearing a suit.

Painting with a broad brush here, but the way I've personally seen a lot of females treat one another is wild. I'm not exactly sure why, but it seems like there's a lot of peculiar gatekeeping around "being a real woman."

I also have several female friends that just can't be friends with other females. Any time anyone mentions another female, they pop off a little bit. Definitely possible it's anecdotal but none of them have anything in common besides being a woman so it seems like it can't be entirely uncommon.

Obviously all of this can apply to men as well but it seems more prevalent in females in my experience.

Demanding chivalry is toxic I think. Men shouldn't have to respect a woman just be she's a woman.

Toxic feminism has been a huge deal in India actually. There's been a case recently where there was a taxi driver who did nothing wrong and was slapped by a lady again and again and he didn't raise a finger. Then there was this one where one girl simply used social media against a simple delivery guy on zomato for no reason other than wanting free food.