Cheating is incredibly heartbreaking, no matter how you look at it. But while sometimes the betrayal is impossible to miss, other times it’s much harder to spot.
On Reddit, people shared the subtle signs that revealed their significant other was being unfaithful—and some of them are genuinely wild. We’re talking about things you’d never even consider, like a partner suddenly using a completely different set of emojis.
Read them below so you know what red flags to watch for in your relationships. Hopefully, you’ll never have to deal with any of it yourself.
#21
I encountered myself in a dream and he (I?) said "She's cheating on you, dude."
Woke up instantly in a cold sweat. After a couple days of thought, I confronted her. Turns out dream-clone me was right. Never met myself in a dream before or since.
Woke up instantly in a cold sweat. After a couple days of thought, I confronted her. Turns out dream-clone me was right. Never met myself in a dream before or since.
29points
#22
Mostly about the phone. An interest in hiding it, silenced, no notifications etc. I went looking for reasons. And did not like what I found. I ended it 4 years ago.
itsobviouslymeduh:
Phone always on DnD, and takes it with her to the bathroom even to just wash her hands. Screen always facing down. It’s always the phone.
neimaacutie:
The sudden obsession with their phone and suddenly it's always on silent.
itsobviouslymeduh:
Phone always on DnD, and takes it with her to the bathroom even to just wash her hands. Screen always facing down. It’s always the phone.
neimaacutie:
The sudden obsession with their phone and suddenly it's always on silent.
27points
#23
Constantly finding other women's hair & accessories, him smelling weird when he came home, having makeup on his clothes, change in attitude, he became incredibly cold and cruel towards me. I found evidence of him buying gifts for women that I never got. We even had a run in in public that was extremely weird. I became extremely sick.
Would never admit any of it & insisted it was all in my head.
Would never admit any of it & insisted it was all in my head.
26points
#24
He had gotten a new phone when we were together for about a year and he let me program my fingerprint on it so I could unlock it for emergencies.
Towards the end of the second year, he handed me his phone to show me a video but the screen locked. Put my finger on it to unlock it and it didn’t work. Handed it back to him…he’d changed it to a number code.
Towards the end of the second year, he handed me his phone to show me a video but the screen locked. Put my finger on it to unlock it and it didn’t work. Handed it back to him…he’d changed it to a number code.
26points
#25
The entire list of suggested followers on my instagram was random women with ‘followed by *bf*’ under every one.
I asked him about it and they were all ‘old friends’, of course this prompted me to go through his phone and he was messaging all of them.
Never thought I’d say this but Meta’s a real one for real.
I asked him about it and they were all ‘old friends’, of course this prompted me to go through his phone and he was messaging all of them.
Never thought I’d say this but Meta’s a real one for real.
26points
#26
Distance, feeling like you’re getting bread crumbs suddenly, somehow [intimacy] feels different or less frequent, they are suddenly very paranoid about your behaviors. So a combination of projection + subtle indifference.
25points
#27
Cologne. I don't wear any and I noticed her clothes had a faint lingering smell of some expensive [stuff]. Checked her phone and she texted the guy that she couldn't believe she was pregnant. And couldn't believe I brought home a stray dog a few days before. Miss that dog.
25points
#28
The immediate shower as soon as he got home, and the random ATM withdrawal receipts of cash from our buildings ATM when I would never see him use cash for anything together.
25points
#29
Her twitter kept popping up in my “people you may know”. I joked about it with my ex and he seemed uncomfortable - she was “just some ex who was obsessed with him”. Sure enough, he dumped me a few weeks after this. I still had his location, and saw he was at a hospital. I found out that, right after he bought a new car, he went to go cheat on me with his ex and they got t-boned when he picked her up.
23points
#30
Shaved her private parts after never doing it.
20 year relationship, she ended up confessing after she got caught up.
20 year relationship, she ended up confessing after she got caught up.
22points
#31
You can sense that something is off, TRUST YOURSELF. Do not let them try to tell you, you’re crazy, overthinking, over analyzing.
Honor your feelings.
My ex would gaslight me over this feeling, and when I would say let me go through your phone, “you should just believe me, you should trust me” then he would flip it around on me. It was awful and truly an evil thing to do to someone. Instead of just letting me go, he had to have me and her.
He would always sleep with his phone under him or close to his body, (never did that before he started cheating) I wiggled it out of his pocket and boom, everything confirmed. Jumped up gathered my [stuff] and left, the whole time he’s fumbling around half asleep trying to figure out what’s going on and stop me from leaving.
Honor your feelings.
My ex would gaslight me over this feeling, and when I would say let me go through your phone, “you should just believe me, you should trust me” then he would flip it around on me. It was awful and truly an evil thing to do to someone. Instead of just letting me go, he had to have me and her.
He would always sleep with his phone under him or close to his body, (never did that before he started cheating) I wiggled it out of his pocket and boom, everything confirmed. Jumped up gathered my [stuff] and left, the whole time he’s fumbling around half asleep trying to figure out what’s going on and stop me from leaving.
21points
#32
1. She hired a personal trainer, started working out twice a week religiously, and dieting strictly for months and months, but stopped going out on hikes with me and our dogs.
2. She started routinely exploding with rage, over the most minor of infractions.
2. Offering breadcrumbs of time, attention, and [intimacy]. (Always my fault, because of something I’d done wrong )
3. Phone locked down hard, and always in her hand.
Then, I found a well worn, wall mounted iPhone holder, hidden in a weird spot in her bathroom. I asked her about it, and she got flustered, then defensive, then raging pissed off.
Her phone and computer were on 24/7, high alert lock down. One day, she got an unexpected call, and left the house quickly, with her laptop un-locked. Which, she didn’t realize was set to back up her phone.
I found the mother lode of explicit pics/videos, she was sending to her AP. They were video chatting, and she would mount her phone on the bathroom mirror, and they would “perform” for each other.
Needless to say, I’ve moved on.
2. She started routinely exploding with rage, over the most minor of infractions.
2. Offering breadcrumbs of time, attention, and [intimacy]. (Always my fault, because of something I’d done wrong )
3. Phone locked down hard, and always in her hand.
Then, I found a well worn, wall mounted iPhone holder, hidden in a weird spot in her bathroom. I asked her about it, and she got flustered, then defensive, then raging pissed off.
Her phone and computer were on 24/7, high alert lock down. One day, she got an unexpected call, and left the house quickly, with her laptop un-locked. Which, she didn’t realize was set to back up her phone.
I found the mother lode of explicit pics/videos, she was sending to her AP. They were video chatting, and she would mount her phone on the bathroom mirror, and they would “perform” for each other.
Needless to say, I’ve moved on.
21points
#33
It was an ldr, and every time we had an argument, he would either block me or refuse to talk to me until the next day. I found out he had been chatting up with other women and begging them to meet him while I was crying myself to sleep, waiting for him to unblock me or talk to me.
20points
#34
The power cord was incorrectly wrapped around my electric razor. Think about it....
Report
18points
#35
She was out running errands and then told me that she was going to this guy’s place. It was already like 5pm. I had never heard of this man but didn’t want to seem insecure. She got home around 11pm that night. I spoke to her about it the next day because I wanted to be mature and regulated. She convinced me they were just friends.
Around the same time her phone location started being weird (I would normally check to see her ETA so I could start dinner), but it would be turned off most the time, and when I asked her about it, we’d “fix it” only for it to do it again.
Flash forward three months and she’s asking to open the relationship for her new guy “friend” and then refused to stop contact with him when I wasn’t down. Turns out she was being a lot “friendlier” with him than she was letting on.
I was open to repair, but she immediately wanted separation and divorce, and turned the matter into my reaction being the problem rather than her infidelity. 12 years down the drain. Never thought I’d be both betrayed and abandoned by my best friend.
Around the same time her phone location started being weird (I would normally check to see her ETA so I could start dinner), but it would be turned off most the time, and when I asked her about it, we’d “fix it” only for it to do it again.
Flash forward three months and she’s asking to open the relationship for her new guy “friend” and then refused to stop contact with him when I wasn’t down. Turns out she was being a lot “friendlier” with him than she was letting on.
I was open to repair, but she immediately wanted separation and divorce, and turned the matter into my reaction being the problem rather than her infidelity. 12 years down the drain. Never thought I’d be both betrayed and abandoned by my best friend.
16points
#36
The rage towards me. Suddenly i was at fault for everything. I mean i almost once put a glass on the wrong shelf and she broke down crying and screaming that i was a narcissist because i was taller than the other people in the house, and the glass was a sign of my [toxic] personality.
She met someone and became super [toxci] because she needed ti find a way to justify her actions. Tbh it was way worse than the affair. The gaslighting and crazy was horrible.
She met someone and became super [toxci] because she needed ti find a way to justify her actions. Tbh it was way worse than the affair. The gaslighting and crazy was horrible.
16points
#37
He started calling me more often, which was unusual. This was so I would not call him, like because we already talked.
16points
#38
When I saw he stopped using social media around me (especially instagram). I grew suspicious of it and I asked him politely if we can watch reels together on this account. He refused immediately and turned off his phone. It's been 1 yr since I ended that relationship. Never felt better. Found out about the other girl eventually by the end.
15points
#39
He got really mean about random, petty [things] - I could literally do nothing "right" by the end. I now know he was looking for things to justify him cheating on me.
For instance, one day I cooked us breakfast & he got pissy that I hadn't cleaned up the kitchen he "just cleaned" 2 days prior, but he got mad while I was still actively cooking. It was like wth do you expect me to not cook for a week after you clean the kitchen? According to him, not cleaning as I cooked was all the proof he needed that I didn't value him.
For instance, one day I cooked us breakfast & he got pissy that I hadn't cleaned up the kitchen he "just cleaned" 2 days prior, but he got mad while I was still actively cooking. It was like wth do you expect me to not cook for a week after you clean the kitchen? According to him, not cleaning as I cooked was all the proof he needed that I didn't value him.
15points
#40
-his phone became an extension of his arm. Always having it face down and screen turned away from me. Smirking while texting and just constantly checking his phone in general. Never letting me touch his phone.
-being very emotionally [toxic] towards me for seemingly no reason
-coming home later than usual and claiming he had a lot of work to do. Also making excuse to leave the house on the weekend to go to “work” events
-stopped being intimate with me and rejected me if I ever tried to initiate.
-being very emotionally [toxic] towards me for seemingly no reason
-coming home later than usual and claiming he had a lot of work to do. Also making excuse to leave the house on the weekend to go to “work” events
-stopped being intimate with me and rejected me if I ever tried to initiate.
14points
