Cheating is incredibly heartbreaking, no matter how you look at it. But while sometimes the betrayal is impossible to miss, other times it’s much harder to spot.
On Reddit, people shared the subtle signs that revealed their significant other was being unfaithful—and some of them are genuinely wild. We’re talking about things you’d never even consider, like a partner suddenly using a completely different set of emojis.
Read them below so you know what red flags to watch for in your relationships. Hopefully, you’ll never have to deal with any of it yourself.
#1
The dog loved every guy that ever stopped by the house.
Except one.
She would bark at him, look at me, and then continue barking at him.
Checked wife’s phone. Filed for divorce a week later.
Except one.
She would bark at him, look at me, and then continue barking at him.
Checked wife’s phone. Filed for divorce a week later.
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69points
#2
The way they stopped including me in their future "we" sentences. it wasn't a fight or anything big, but suddenly it was 'I’m going to do this' or 'I might move there' instead of 'We should do this.' The future just started shrinking until I wasn't in it anymore.
61points
#3
They suddenly started accusing me of cheating. Projection is the loudest confession.
54points
#4
I'd come home from work at lunch to surprise her, she wasn't there.
I went back to work and come home normally. Asked her how her day went.
"Nothing much, just hanging around the house."
I went back to work and come home normally. Asked her how her day went.
"Nothing much, just hanging around the house."
53points
#5
He called my dog by a different name and it rubbed me wrong. Later that week he got a flirty text from his coworker and told me she was obsessed with him but he kept turning her down 🙄 (ya ok) I looked her up on Instagram and she had a dog with the same name as the one he had accidentally called my dog.
46points
#6
The showerhead angle was adjusted. She can't reach it.
45points
#7
The recent emojis on the keyboard of the phone were ❤️💔💋.
They were not being sent to me.
They were not being sent to me.
44points
#8
It was Valentine’s Day and we were going out for dinner. We lived in downtown Toronto so it was super snowy and we walked a fair bit. I was wearing heels and he always gives me his hand to climb steps or whatever when I wear them.
But this night he didn’t help me once. He didn’t help me get off the streetcar, he didn’t help me through the snow, he didn’t help me get over curbs… I found out 2 days later.
But this night he didn’t help me once. He didn’t help me get off the streetcar, he didn’t help me through the snow, he didn’t help me get over curbs… I found out 2 days later.
44points
#9
A chunk of glitter. I have tons of glitter makeup. He tried to pass it off as mine. Wrong. This was big, cheap glitter. I know my glitter.
42points
#10
I got a text explaining the (intimate) things she was looking forward to us doing later that night. It got deleted as I was reading it. When I replied asking what she deleted she said "sorry. It was to remind (sister's name) not to forget we have to get mum a present this weekend and I sent it to you by mistake."
A 12yr relationship was ended right there.
A 12yr relationship was ended right there.
41points
#11
Found a toll road bill open on the floor with multiple 12am-3am trips on it to another city. When confronted he said he was “going to the mall.” I was like … bro what mall is open at 3am? That quickly changed to “oh sometimes I go sit at the pier by myself to think.” Then I was accused of invading his privacy and being a psycho.
39points
#12
The distance. It starts off small and incremental, but one day you wake up next to someone you don't recognize anymore.
37points
#13
This sounds incredibly odd... it was FB advertisements. I kept getting ads for "Is he cheating" or "How to save your marriage". It made me take notice his behavior had changed. He had been chatting with her on FB messenger.
36points
#14
The mystery baby that he was tagged in a photo with.
Oh, you said subtle?
Similar_Climate_227:
SAMEEEE he was tagged in an ultrasound picture on FB and that’s how I found out :) after 6 years of being together.
Oh, you said subtle?
Similar_Climate_227:
SAMEEEE he was tagged in an ultrasound picture on FB and that’s how I found out :) after 6 years of being together.
36points
#15
She was a co-worker and it was the way he spoke about her. It was different than the way he spoke about his other female co-worker "friends." He would get excited talking about her and his face would light up when he got a text from her.
I may just be a stranger in the internet, but please believe when I say - it usually is the one that they tell you "not to worry about." Also, for the women out there, it's called "women's intuition" for a reason. Your gut will let you know way before your brain catches up
Edit- Just wanted to say that I probably should have used the term "gut instinct" instead of "woman's intuition," as guys can also get a gut feeling when something is off with their partner.
I may just be a stranger in the internet, but please believe when I say - it usually is the one that they tell you "not to worry about." Also, for the women out there, it's called "women's intuition" for a reason. Your gut will let you know way before your brain catches up
Edit- Just wanted to say that I probably should have used the term "gut instinct" instead of "woman's intuition," as guys can also get a gut feeling when something is off with their partner.
35points
#16
His clothes.
He suddenly had sandals and button up shirts, that I'd tried to get him into for literal years.
I guess that means he did listen. All those things I told him he'd look good in, he started wearing as soon as he cared about looking good for someone else.
He suddenly had sandals and button up shirts, that I'd tried to get him into for literal years.
I guess that means he did listen. All those things I told him he'd look good in, he started wearing as soon as he cared about looking good for someone else.
34points
#17
I went from being his favourite person to him suddenly being annoyed at everything I did. That's when I knew something had changed.
Fast-forward to me checking his phone one night while he was asleep (I usually believe in privacy but I needed answers) and the first three text conversations were him telling different girls that he loved them. This happened in 2019 and I have genuinely never been the same again.
Fast-forward to me checking his phone one night while he was asleep (I usually believe in privacy but I needed answers) and the first three text conversations were him telling different girls that he loved them. This happened in 2019 and I have genuinely never been the same again.
33points
#18
I have a habit of listening to the same song over and over again on repeat until I am sick of it.
There was this one trendy hip hop song I liked and my then partner would get irritated because I would play it everytime I sat in their car. Got to the point where they would force me to change it or turn it off.
Then one day the same song came up on their Pandora or Spotify as a random suggested song and to my surprise my partner turned up the volume and said "oh [coworker's name] loves this song".
idkmybffdw:
My ex hated music from a specific artist I loved and one day started listening to them. I found out a few days later he had an entire second relationship.
There was this one trendy hip hop song I liked and my then partner would get irritated because I would play it everytime I sat in their car. Got to the point where they would force me to change it or turn it off.
Then one day the same song came up on their Pandora or Spotify as a random suggested song and to my surprise my partner turned up the volume and said "oh [coworker's name] loves this song".
idkmybffdw:
My ex hated music from a specific artist I loved and one day started listening to them. I found out a few days later he had an entire second relationship.
32points
#19
Got herpes out of the blue.
31points
#20
Showed up at 1:30 am drunk after being out with her girls… hey babe, where’s your wedding ring?
It really sucked but I was very appreciative of her at least taking if off because it was my grandmother's wedding ring and she was a saint.
It really sucked but I was very appreciative of her at least taking if off because it was my grandmother's wedding ring and she was a saint.
29points