While sitting in a bar and chatting with your friends, the question "What are you looking for in a romantic partner?" may seem like an easy one to answer. We mention emotional intelligence, kindness, a sense of humor, attractiveness, and other common attributes that come to mind and that's that.
But when we get to the point when we're actually considering whether or not to get involved with someone, the list can narrow down pretty fast — many of us have a non-negotiable. Some factor that we think is a must (not) for a happily-ever-after. Like wealth.
So we at Bored Panda decided to comb through the internet and see how this decision (choosing your SO based on the amount of money they have) pays off. Here's a collection of stories where people revealed how their life has unfolded since they went after someone with full pockets.
#21
It was important for me to be a stay-at-home mom as well, but you don't need a rich husband to do that. You just need a husband who wants to make it possible. My husband makes $30,000 a year which is more than enough. Now I'm very happy as a SAHM, and my husband is happy that I'm home with our baby every day. We take care of each other. I love him more every day.
I have a relative who grew up poor and married a man who seemed to have a lot of potential to earn big money. He does make a lot of money... but they invest so much into their kid's fancy education, and their fancy house, and their fancy cars, that the wife ends up working anyway. They're always stressed out, always wearing designer clothes, and don't sleep in the same bed. The wife loves their kid more than her husband. It always makes me depressed to see them. I'd rather live with my husband and son in a cardboard box with love than live their kind of life.
24points
#22
Her dad was the team doctor for an NBA team that will remain nameless. They were filthy rich and got free tickets to all the games. She also knew a lot of the players.
I didn't find her interesting at all. It only lasted for a few dates, but she offered to get me in to games for free and even meet some of the players. I couldn't go through with it. I'm still trying to decide if it was a good idea or not. It would have been cool to say I god a hug from Marc Gasol.
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22points
#23
I grew up working class, worked up to middle class and at the same time essentially married up to decent wealth. I wouldn't have the life I have now if it hadn't been for the family money. The family money didn't give us any complacency or a safety net to avoid needing to build our wealth. It has served to give us a leg up to continue building our own wealth - working and investing our own income and making sure we grow our networth.
It's easy to marry into money, or inherit money and then piss it all away. My goal is to build it into multi generational wealth so that my kids can have the same safety net, set their own goals and hopefully continue to build it up for their own kids.
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19points
#24
I see women like this all the time. Their husbands hit on me in front of them, the women hardly care since they aren't in love. It's disgusting. I can't imagine being with those men.
17points
#25
Not me, but I have one or two friends who made this choice.
One is unemployed and depressed, but indeed rich by way of her husband's money-making. She is also on the asexual spectrum, so I feel it helped her choose money over passion. She and her husband are good enough friends, but many of us feel he acts like he does not respect her even though she would disagree.
The other got divorced and is now a single mom of two special needs children. Their marriage was tumultuous and he cheated a lot. However, she's very financially well-appointed, both due to a good divorce settlement and intergenerational wealth of her own.
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15points
#26
I think some people just value having security... I mean is marrying for love -- when love is so fickle and fleeting -- truly any better? Honestly, I think the chances of you ending up in a divorce/unhappy situation are probably around the same for either (marrying for love vs marrying for money) Ideally you would want to marry someone who can provide both but if that's not an option, you have to choose what works best for you...
12points
#27
My dads third wife and kinda my mom married for the money. It was all about money. Everything was about money and looks. That’s all anyone talked about. Now my dads twenty year younger ex third wife lives with her vapid emotionally messed up daughter who supports her despite having gotten everything when my dad died. She went deeply into debt expecting more. What a waste of a family. She started dating my dad like ten years before he left my mom. She blames my dad like he was some controlling monster but she was a hot 19 year old. Then she got rich in real estate. She has zero excuses for the train wreck her life has become. Despite everything, my mom went on to kick ass all by herself. But my mom was also the classic angry first wife despite being the hot second wife. So there’s that. As someone who married a poor man and now supports myself and raises kids mostly alone I want to wring all of their necks for the stupid shit they freak out over and make important. I wouldn’t choose that life again in a million years. It’s poor misery. Back biting. Catty. Depressed aimless kids. Petty drama.
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12points
#28
well he wasn't wealthy, but he was higher than me on the social rung and i wanted a ticket in. i married him for a visa.
it was an awful relationship, but i did what i had to do. got away, will soon be a citizen, and remarried for love. your friend is in for a shock. unless the man is truly so wealthy that he bleeds money, most are extremely frugal and don't just spoil the c**p out of women, no matter what they promise at first.
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11points
#29
Not Married; but Dated.
Back in highschool I should have dumped this girl like.. 2 months into the relationship. It was a trainwreck, and I knew it was. So did she. But her dad, really wanted to make it work. (he liked me, her other BFs were.. well.. not high quality people)
So we went on vacation, he got me cool golf clubs, we went to NBA games, and a bunch of other 'dates' that her dad went with us. It was pretty nice.
Sadly; after breaking up, all the fun times turned into crappy memories, and I sort of regret sticking around as long as I did. Could have been dating other people, or at least not wasting my time with her.
tl/dr - Fun while it lasts, memories not worth it imo.
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11points
#30
This question always makes me insecure. I belong to a fairly well-to-do family. But we are noveau riche, so many of my habits have stayed the same as I was growing up in a lower-middle-class family. I made new friends in college who have generational wealth, whom I wouldn't have imagined hanging out with during my teenage, and idk it always felt alienating. I know within the next five years, I will consider marriage, but this idea of arranged marriage stuff is kind of horrifying. Like, just on the basis of money someone decides to spend life with me is kind of scary. I have been in romantic relationships but things didn't work out the way I wanted. So having a love marriage right now seems a distant idea to me.
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10points
