Long-term relationships are not actually guaranteed, even if you really like a person. Spending your life together with someone is a huge commitment, so most folks want to be sure. Unfortunately, sometimes things happen in a relationship that pretty clearly demonstrate that a partner is not marriage-material.
Someone asked “What moment made you realize your gf/bf would never be your wife/husband?” and netizens shared those pivotal moments from their lives. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own thoughts and examples in the comments section below.
Someone asked “What moment made you realize your gf/bf would never be your wife/husband?” and netizens shared those pivotal moments from their lives. So get comfortable as you scroll through, upvote your favorites and be sure to share your own thoughts and examples in the comments section below.
#41
When I met her dad.
I couldn't stand the man and I knew I couldn't put up with him for the rest of one of our lives. I tried extremely hard to stay with her but anytime we went to a family event or holiday it made me die a little inside. When we talked about our future she always said she wanted to live close to him. The thought of him being a grandfather to any possible kids we would have had sealed the deal and I had to call it off.
We were together for 3 years, met during first year of college, and I met her dad about 6 months into the relationship for the first time at Christmas.
I couldn't stand the man and I knew I couldn't put up with him for the rest of one of our lives. I tried extremely hard to stay with her but anytime we went to a family event or holiday it made me die a little inside. When we talked about our future she always said she wanted to live close to him. The thought of him being a grandfather to any possible kids we would have had sealed the deal and I had to call it off.
We were together for 3 years, met during first year of college, and I met her dad about 6 months into the relationship for the first time at Christmas.
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73points
#42
I asked him to marry me, he said yes. We started making loose plans to marry on my favorite beach in my hometown (my grandma has a beachfront lot there where my dad and step mom got married.) His parents FREAKED out that he was marrying someone 'from a broken home' and said we couldn't get married in my hometown because it was 'too far away'. He agreed with them and then told me he 'didn't really believe in marriage'.
The relationship fell apart pretty quickly after that, which was for the best, anyway. Our values differentiated so substantially- money was really really important to his family, and not so much to me (I'd rather live a happy life doing what I enjoy and supporting myself than striving to be wealthy, his parents were upset when he wasn't making 100k a year yet at 27). I have made a life for myself that I never would have had if we'd gotten married. I hope he is happy and doing well.
The relationship fell apart pretty quickly after that, which was for the best, anyway. Our values differentiated so substantially- money was really really important to his family, and not so much to me (I'd rather live a happy life doing what I enjoy and supporting myself than striving to be wealthy, his parents were upset when he wasn't making 100k a year yet at 27). I have made a life for myself that I never would have had if we'd gotten married. I hope he is happy and doing well.
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72points
#43
She called me at work to inform me that my favorite musician died and laughed in my face about it. (Edit: I'm an old - Jerry Garcia).
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71points
#44
He was going through major life changes as a result his communication skills got worse and worse and he was dissociating. I would send him resources upon resources to find affordable therapy and support groups but he was unwilling to even try. Can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves.
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65points
#45
He made a huge deal out of a small disagreement, and I saw how he handled conflict—totally immature and unwilling to compromise.
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61points
#46
Too negative. I myself struggle with being critical and rant-y and they were a million times worse. I can’t be around someone who has a very exaggerated version of my really bad qualities because they get worse and more annoying over time.
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60points
#47
When we were looking for places to rent/buy for a home and she absolutely refused to compromise on where we'd be living. It's a long story, but her reasoning in that moment told me all I really needed to know about where I was placed as importance in her mind.
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59points
#48
When she told me if her deceased husband walked through the door id be out so fast.....
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59points
#49
When she said she wanted to be poly, and tried to force me to be as well.
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57points
#50
Held on for a long time with someone who i know i wont end up with. religious and philosophical differences. Grew up very differently and we clashed too much. even though we trust each other and care for one another it’s hard to imagine building a life with someone you find yourself constantly irritated by how they think and the choices they make.
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55points
