Most people get so caught up in the wedding and nuptials that they forget there’s a whole lifetime ahead of marriage to adjust to. The problem is that some folks rush into the decision or don't truly understand their spouse until later, which can make the scales fall from their eyes.
This is exactly what happened to the men on this list who didn’t recognize their wives' red flags until it was too late. Their shocking stories and secrets expose the regret that bubbles up in some marriages, which should be dealt with sooner rather than later. Read on to learn more about these deceptive relationships.
#41
I saw a picture of a man on her phone and she said “don’t worry honey that’s just me before the procedure”.
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#42
About a yr after the wedding. She was and still is a lovely a lovely person but it was obvious we had different ideas about what constitutes marriage. I feel the physical and emotional are both important. During that first year I noticed she never initiated anything physical but never stopped me although she did not really take part part. We were very young ( 19/19 ) which did not help. I started reducing my initiating in the hope I would find her level but after 10 yrs I was down to twice a year. After that time I finally grew up enough to realize I should have talked to her, which she took well but with some tears but nothing changed. By this time we had 2 children so divorce was out of the question. She was and still is the same person I married so I took therapy to help cope with a sexless marriage and with the help of anti-depressants after 55yrs we are still married.
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#45
Sitting in the ER parking lot after her excessive dose due to her (previously unknown to me)bipolar/manic depressive history. We had been married 2+ years by then. I came home to find her unconscious/unresponsive on the couch . When I called her sister to let her know, she laughed and said “oh - I guess she never told you!” That was 2003. It’s been a bit of a roller coaster since, but we’ll be celebrating 25 years in September.
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#46
When i caught her on the pet cam eating her boogers. What the hell? at 34 years old.
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#47
The first time she put her hands on me.
somehow I've *still* convinced myself that I deserved it all.
somehow I've *still* convinced myself that I deserved it all.
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#49
Oof. No need for me to put this out to random strangers, since I'm still married to my wife, and I love her. But hey, what's the harm in sharing delicate info about my most important relationship?
Before we got married, I thought we covered questions about when to have kids, where to live, etc. My wife had finished her degree, and I had put off school for a few years while I worked to save money. So, once we got married, she was going to work full time while I finished university and worked part time. After that we'd try to find opportunities to travel and hopefully live abroad and start planning when to have kids.
Well, almost immediately after we got married, my wife realized/revealed that she couldn't live without children. I pushed back for several months, but she steadily got more frustrated about us not trying for kids yet. So, after about six months of arguing, I relented and she got pregnant. We decided she should be a stay-at-home mom, so I worked full time to support the fam and put myself through undergrad and grad school.
Years later, as I looked back, I realized that our discussions about having kids and where we wanted to live were pretty superficial, and I had made a lot of assumptions. Like, when she asked if I wanted to have kids, my response was probably more like, "Absolutely...someday." And when I asked her about travelling and living abroad, her response was probably the same: "Absolutely...someday." So we both assumed our dreams in life were aligned, but in reality, our priorities were pretty different.
Our oldest child is almost 20 now, and I haven't travelled abroad. I really haven't done anything in life that I had hoped for. And it's really been hard for me to find happiness in life.
It's tough because my wife is truly great. She's fun and she's gorgeous. But it really seems like once we married each other, only one of us was going to be able to be happy.
Before we got married, I thought we covered questions about when to have kids, where to live, etc. My wife had finished her degree, and I had put off school for a few years while I worked to save money. So, once we got married, she was going to work full time while I finished university and worked part time. After that we'd try to find opportunities to travel and hopefully live abroad and start planning when to have kids.
Well, almost immediately after we got married, my wife realized/revealed that she couldn't live without children. I pushed back for several months, but she steadily got more frustrated about us not trying for kids yet. So, after about six months of arguing, I relented and she got pregnant. We decided she should be a stay-at-home mom, so I worked full time to support the fam and put myself through undergrad and grad school.
Years later, as I looked back, I realized that our discussions about having kids and where we wanted to live were pretty superficial, and I had made a lot of assumptions. Like, when she asked if I wanted to have kids, my response was probably more like, "Absolutely...someday." And when I asked her about travelling and living abroad, her response was probably the same: "Absolutely...someday." So we both assumed our dreams in life were aligned, but in reality, our priorities were pretty different.
Our oldest child is almost 20 now, and I haven't travelled abroad. I really haven't done anything in life that I had hoped for. And it's really been hard for me to find happiness in life.
It's tough because my wife is truly great. She's fun and she's gorgeous. But it really seems like once we married each other, only one of us was going to be able to be happy.
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#51
We’ve talked a lot, both to each other, to our (individual) therapists, and together to them as well. My past was troubled, at best, thanks to physical and emotional mistreatment. I couldn’t leave her then. I won’t leave her now. I came to realize that we need each other to make us whole.
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#52
After the idea was purposed of getting married, I immediately started noticing red flags. 🚩 the whole thing should have never happened. So dumb.
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#53
Honestly, it wasn't a mistake to say yes when my wife proposed to me. The mistake was taking it so seriously and thinking childfree people would spend half a century together.
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#54
When she threatend divorce, went onto divorce.com (yeah, apparently there's a site for that now.) She saw how messed up she would be without me, and said that she was stuck with me. I know it is a matter of when, not if now. And I am currently debating doing it now, or after she finishes her masters. If I do it now, it'd be petty, and ruin her future. But then I'd have to cover more in alimony, and she would fight against joint custody. If I wait till she's done,she might make enough that I would eb the one receiving alimony, and she'd be more amicable on custody. But, I'd have to suffer being with her, there's always the possibility that she doesnt finish, and again, I would have to stay with her.
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#55
Every day I look at her and wonder what the hell I was thinking. She’s not hot to me, I don’t like her laugh, and we really don’t have anything in common. I remember when we dated that she always bought me things and paid for vacations. I reluctantly said yes when she proposed but only because at the time I couldn’t walk due to an injury. I don’t know what to do. Thank God for adult entertainment and memories. Damn, I messed up.
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