51 Tips On How To Make Friends As An Adult, As Shared By People In This Online Group

"Be passionate about some stuff that adds substance to YOUR life.

You don't need a lot of friends.

When you talk to people, strangers, coworkers etc... be your 100% genuine self, this should help you avoid being a doormat. If you find you're still a doormat you should revisit step 1.

My best friend and I really only share a couple of things, our love of gangster rap and 90s hardcore punk, and our beliefs in undying, over-the-top self-empowerment.

That's not exactly shit I hear people talking about at parties, "oh yeah on my way over I was bumping some fuckin Mc Breed and yelling at myself in the rearview 'LOOK AT WHAT YOU'VE DONE WITH YOUR LIFE M*********R, HOW FAR YOUVE COME, KEEP F*****G GOING, CRUSH THE OPPOSITION B***H LETS GO!!!'

Like I said, be your 100% genuine self."

"Ultimate Frisbee. I know the name of this sport alone sparks giggles but it honestly changed my life (100 percent for the better). All over the world, the community around this sport is so amazing, and filled with welcoming, talented, and driven people. After 8 years of playing, I have played with teams in Ireland, Japan, Colombia, New Zealand, Vietnam, Malaysia, and the US who have all welcomed me with open arms and have had a great sense of humor. One of my favorite stories is from my time in Vietnam - my first day in the country I messaged the Facebook group of the local team and explained I was a player from Ireland. 4 hours later I was picked up on the back of a moped and brought to their 2-hour practice. We shared sugar cane juice afterward and it was a great way to meet the locals. I owe my positive outlook on life to this sport and the friends I have made within this community are by far my closest."

"Solo traveling."

"I’m an amateur musician and I hang out where they hang out, music stores, friend of a friend, etc. Hobbies are a great way to meet like-minded people."

b2enemi said:
"Join clubs, meet-ups, activities, hobbies, work, volunteer, online, or simply go out to socialize during the day or early evenings."

TheLastUBender replied:
"Meetup.com has a lot of planned events that are open to anyone. My own volunteer org (Toastmasters) also does a lot of online meetups at the moment, but meetup itself has anything from sports to special interest groups to crafts... really anything."

"Sports.

Climbing, archery, martial arts, European Martial Arts. Historical re-enactment, book, and theater clubs.

I wonder, is there a platonic dating app yet? Tinder, Grinder, Planter? Copyright/ Trademark - 26-03-2021"

"Active sports; my weekly bicycle ride is usually about 30 people. Easy and natural to make friends."

"Go out and do something you like doing. Go up to someone you want to be friends with and ask them a normal question like “hey do you know what time this place closes” or something basic like that. If they seem annoyed or bothered you went up to them, leave. If they seem fine with it, start talking to them and get to know them. Sometimes people just like to hang out. That’s how I make friends at least. It’s how I’ve made a lot of friends."

"Playing table top games at a local game shop, people are generally open to new people and love to teach others. Consistently going you start to see the same people and develop a relationship. It's not something that happens overnight, no friendship is like that. It takes a lot of time and effort to grow a friendship."

"The closest I have gotten to make new friends is through:

1. My Kid's sports - just hanging with the other parents or coaching teams - I don't consider any of them to be FRIENDS, but we enjoy hanging out and shooting the breeze at games, but once sports are over - I'll never see them again, but if I run into them randomly, I'm sure we'll chat for a minute - solid acquaintances.

2. Video games - just having a regular group of randoms in a server regularly is nice, I play a racing game and the others are typically all from other countries, but text chat is fun, and its at least interaction with people I don't live with.

If I really wanted FRIENDS - I'd probably have to go back in time and do a better job keeping in touch with my old group of buddies (beyond here is an edit due to the "it's never too late to keep in touch reply)."

Kichard said:
"Have you considered joining a cult?"

glokzzzz replied:
"You make more money as a leader, but you have more fun as a follower."

"Adults don’t care if you drink. Now, many adults do enjoy drinking, but actual adults don’t really care if you just wanna hang out.

I’m in my thirties. I do drink. My wife doesn’t. Here’s the thing in your thirties. Y’all go to a brewery or some such (well not so much lately) and the whole group will always have a few people not drinking for any or all of the following reasons: -driving -pregnant -on a prescription that makes it inadvisable -don’t feel like it -don’t like what’s available -the flesh drinks only blood

And generally, no one cares if they’re a mature group worth hanging out with.

Here's the question to ask: do you mean that you only want to hang out in situations where people aren’t drinking? That’s a different thing and a bit more limiting.

But seriously: mature adults deal with all sorts of reasons people won’t drink. This isn’t college. No one thinks your coolness is derived from crushing Miller Lites. The only people I’ve ever seen ostracized from a group of adults are people who are unpleasant: most frequently because they drank way too much."

"Motorcycles helped me meet people and as a bonus, if you're into guys you can pick up dudes easily with a motorcycle."

"I have made lots of friends as an adult from church, the line at Comic-Con, hiking group, meetup group, dog park, and barflies. Be genuinely interested in other people and friendly and you'll find some."

"I made most of my friends because I started streaming video games.

I didn't meet them all FROM streaming, but as I started to get to know a few of my regular viewers we became really good friends. And I also got better at being able to tell if someone was gonna turn into an asshole early on. So I got more confident with socializing and I started to meet new people on Reddit and twitter too. I even met someone in the checkout line at Walmart who seemed like my kinda person and I made sure to exchange info with them right away."

"I shoved a book in her face and told her to read it because I had no one to talk about it with. We're still best friends 17 years later."

"Online, through family members or current friends, the cashiers you see often at the stores you go to, hell even having a casual conversation on the street can net you some friends.

My grandma has more contacts then anyone can reasonably count. 9 kids later, her world just expanded and she knows a f*ckton of people."

"Join a bowling league. It's easier to make friends with a bowling league because you see these people weekly. I've made a lot of good friends through bowling. They might be weird friends, but they'll be fun."

"In line at a craft fair, we waited to get in and talked to each other while in line. Got inside and walked around together and after that day we started meeting to go to craft fairs and now years later we go to dinner, and concerts and we still love craft fairs."

"Take a CPR class and talk to the people there."