People Share The Moments When They Realized Their Friend Is Not Their Friend Anymore

I spent about 4K being her maid of honour (hosted bridal shower, dress, makeup & hair, wedding gift etc.) and after her wedding she ghosted me. She married into a very toxic family, her husband is controlling and she followed his lead and cut off most if not all of her friends that she obtained prior to him or ones that were not his friends. Her mom and my mom were best friends since they were young teenagers; she and I are the same age and were also best friends our whole lives. As soon as she tied the knot I no longer existed.

I fronted the costs for our tickets to an event I wasn't interested in, because she wanted to go. She promised to pay me back. She drove us there, it was about an hour away. 

Afterward, she wanted to go to an after party at a bar with some of her friends I had never met before. I was underage, didn't even have a fake ID, but no one was carding. She promised not to drink, because she drove us. I bought a drink, then two. Vodka Redbull, because I had no idea what to order and someone near me chose it. She ditched me pretty early on, and I was just sort of stuck in limbo. I tried to find her a few times, but she was never very interested in talking to me, so eventually I found a seat and played a game on my cell phone and nursed another drink. Hoped no one had the bright idea to try to card me (technically, I wasn't allowed to even be in there). 

Not long before closing time, someone I went to middle school with saw me, asked me if I was there with her (they had seen her earlier and knew we were friends), and tried to help me find her. We couldn't find her. I remembered lingering outside the bathroom hoping she would be the person to come out next. 

Anyway, the bar closed and they kicked everyone out. I was freaking out. She was not outside. She was not answering her phone. I wanted to leave, but she was my ride. The girl I went to middle school with offered to let me sleep over and take me home in the morning, but I had her keys and stupidly felt obligated to return them so she wouldn't be stranded. 

I was crying and talking to my parents on the phone. They would have picked me up, but again, home was an hour away, so I would have been stuck sitting outside in downtown at 2 AM, in 40°F weather. I considered taking an Uber, but I felt super vulnerable and panicky, and the idea of being stuck in a car with a stranger for an hour... no thank you. 

Right around that time, she finally answered her phone. Turns out she had run into her ex-boyfriend, followed him across the street, and was in his car, presumably begging him to take her back. He had blocked her on all social media and everything, so this was the only way she could talk to him. 

She was actually angry about the interruption. 

I let her drive me home, which I regret. She was drunk and should not have been driving, but I didn't know what else to do. A friend of hers followed us in his car to make sure we arrived safely. We did, by some miracle. Probably because the roads were empty at 2 AM. 

Anyway, I probably would have forgiven all that, to some degree. People do dumb stuff at that age. They do even dumber stuff when they're drunk and don't know what a healthy relationship is. 

But the thing that sticks in my head still, every time she texts me happy birthday or whatever, is that she never bothered to pay me back the $60 event ticket. Even after I asked more than once. 

Her kid was bullying mine. Her excellent (aka helicopter) parenting made it our fault. I don’t want friends like her.

When I announced how happy I was to finally have $10,000 in savings after ruining my life from a gambling. And then a week later being told I was a selfish jerk cause I wouldn’t give him a $5,000 loan to fix the third luxury car he bought that year.

Did not tell me she was going to get married, invited all her other friends and I had to find out about it through a friend in common’s insta story.

She outed me as gay when I wasn't ready, I forgave her after a bit, and then she stopped talking to me because her fiance demanded that she did.

Had a friend that I shared my lunches with when he didnt have, stayed at my house when times were tough, we were friends for over a decade. Over time I noticed he would keep my as a backburner, seldom if ever having me around his other friends. One day, I was at the mall, and i ran into him woth his girlfriend and her cousin. We briefly chatted and then he said he was going to hang with the girls (I hadnt asked to hang or come along) ....and that was it. I felt like he was embarrassed by me. Im not perfect, I can be weird, but I was always (at least I think) a loyal supportive friend.

I find at 43 I still have few friends, and those I do have dont seem to truly understand me. Guess I got a bit OT here. Thanks for reading anyone that did.

I ended a friendship of ten years because her loser husband kept cheating and she would blame the other women and become obsessed with them then accuse them of stalking her. It was way too toxic.

My brother cut me out of his life. I apologized in the event I did or said something, he won't communicate with me at all. I drove 7 hours to show up at his house and plead with him to let me be a part of his life and he said sure, then when I left, he resumed no contact.

Finally I called saying I was coming to town and asked if I could buy him a meal and catch up with him. He said "no thanks".

After that I just deleted him from my phone, it hurt too much to even see his name.

She dumped me as her best friend for a girl that always hated me for no good reason.

I couldn’t understand how she could value someone that despised me for no other reason than ‘having my life together.’

We couldn’t move past it, she wouldn’t give her up and I couldn’t reconcile it.

It was like a painful divorce that took me years to get over. We were so close before that! It still hurts a little.

She said my outfit was the ugliest thing she's ever seen. I ghosted her immediately. I bet she thinks I left her because of an outfit. It was years of toxic narcissistic behavior.

I had a best friend triad in high school. One came out, the other didn't react well, and I sided with the one who wasn't a bigot.

Hitting on my girlfriend on my birthday. That sucked.

That she always had time for other friends and I would see it on social media. Meanwhile, my plans with her were usually “let’s play it by ear” and most of the time got cancelled. When I told her it hurt my feelings, she turned it around on me making herself look like a saint.

It didn't matter what I did, she slept with my ex-husband behind my back, and then she told everybody, my deepest darkest secrets.

I realized that I was anxious and stressed every time she came over because she ALWAYS had to be right…ALWAYS had to be the best…ALWAYS had to have better stories/worse problems. She was territorial, for lack of a better word, over me and rubbed all of my other friends the wrong way. I was spending my time keeping the peace instead of enjoying her company. That’s not friendship.

One too many, "well, actually..." it gets exhausting after a while.

She let her married boyfriend, who had just told her he was going back to his wife, publicly bully me after I called him out for his behavior. This was after she had the nerve to ask me if I was "on their team". Excuse me ma'am, he's not even on your team and I have a whole husband and family myself. That's my team.

Me, ex friend, and mutual friend were at ex friends house for dinner and game night, left to give our mutual friend a ride somewhere, came back to a locked door, no one home, her phone on do not disturb, and removed from the Life360 group. Never spoke to her (or anyone in that friend group) again but I’m still upset that I had left my dinner and belongings at her apartment and was never able to get back in to get them.

The realization that they only seemed to want us around to be an audience for their histrionics.