Despite How Close You Might Be With Your Partner, Folks Online Suggest You Never Share These 30 Things So That Your Relationship Will Last

This is a really subjective answer and I'm sure [folks] will disagree, but for me:

Bathroom time.

I got 3 kids and one of them is my full-time responsibility as her mom isn't around. I live and breath for my kids and I love them, but doing my morning and evening bathroom events I really love the solitude.

The last few women I dated were great, but they would just kinda barge in no matter what I was doing. To me, showering at the end of the day, brushing my teeth, using the toilet are all kind of "zen" for me. I just don't like sharing a shower or being interrupted while doing so.

That's just me. I'm single so... Maybe there's a reason for that ;P

For those saying "just lock the door" I want to say my daughter is almost 5. When I shower I can't just *leave* her alone. That's how horrible accidents happen. Yea, she can pour herself water and use the potty alone but I can't shut her out. If she has a problem I need her to be able to come in. I live alone and her brothers are only around ever so often due to custody orders. Locking my bathroom door just isn't a good idea with a toddler running around.

She sits on my bed and usually watches TV while I shower. Idk if the women I've dated just saw this as an open opportunity, but locking the door to my kiddo just isn't a good idea.

The sexual habits of past relationships.

Nobody is perfect. But if I'm asked—yes, you are the most handsome, best partner ever, etc. I don't understand how people say anything different for their current partner but you know, different folks.

If you're partner is doing something wrong in your relationship in general you obviously should communicate with them about it. My comment was more about being my partner's biggest cheerleader and building them up—purely that angle.

If your SO has been in combat, don’t ask about the details. In the unlikely event they want you to know, they’ll tell you.

This is not to say they should not seek/you should not encourage them to get the appropriate medical support, nor is this to say that you shouldn’t know they’ve been in combat or listen to them if they experience emotions around it; however, seeking out the details are a red line of inquiry.

It’s important to note that I deliberately call out “details” as the red line. Acknowledging to your partner that you’re willing to listen to what they want to share and/or to be part of their support system (in whatever way is in integrity for your relationship) is always the priority.

That I know you keep a secret stash of chocolate in the tampax box. Not my business?

Confidential work-related things that I'm legally not supposed to tell anyone outside of the project/case.

Sometimes, no matter how attractive your partner is to you and no matter how much you love them, there is an aspect to them that is unchangeable but that you find gross or annoying or just generally less than attractive. Clogged nose pores, a laugh that sounds like a muppet, big toe nails that just look a little bit weird, or that single long hair growing from inside their ear that just keeps coming back no matter what they do. If it’s going to make them feel insecure or unloved, this is something you should just keep to yourself.

In a relationship, you learn each other’s weak points and vulnerabilities, and using them against your partner is a boundary that, once you cross it, you can’t come back from. Once you make someone feel like they can’t trust you with their vulnerable self, your relationship is on its way out.

Your internet browser history.

You take that s**t to the grave.

My dad has mentioned a few times that in their 40+ years of marriage, he’s never gone in her top dresser drawer or purse.

Where your secret stash of band aids is.

I dunno about the rest of you, but my wife and kids will go through an industrial size case o band aids faster than you can say supercalifragilisticexpealidocious and the twice a year I actually need one. They’re never there.