We're living in a 'Male Loneliness Epidemic.' At least, that's the story some men are telling us - and themselves.
Proudly identifying as involuntary celibates, or incels, they're unable to find a partner, and believe that women and societal norms are to blame. Some swear they're victims of modern feminism, others have a "black pill" philosophy - meaning, in their minds, their lack of romantic success is entirely genetic or unchangeable. Whatever the reason, these so-called incels claim to be suffering alone through no fault of their own. But not everyone is buying it...
Someone asked netizens with incel friends or acquaintances, "What is the actual problem that they just don’t get?" and thousands of people didn't hold back. There are, according to the comments, men who have wildly warped ideas about women, there's one who'll only settle for a "petite, Japanese virgin," another who is apparently a "straight-up creep" and many others who simply don't understand that the call is coming from inside the house. Bored Panda has put together the most telling responses that pour cold water on the lies incels tell themselves and us.
#41
I have a friend who is 22 and a virgin. In his case, there’s not really anything wrong that he’s doing. He’s just in a cr**py situation that keeps him from being able to meet new people and be social. It’s more circumstance than anything for him. I doubt he will have any trouble when he’s in a better place.
He’s the only one I know of (as in, an older guy who hasn’t had s*x) but from what I can gather from ones I have heard of, they are usually super socially impaired.
For example, my friend has a 21 year old friend who is a virgin. He dated one girl years ago and they never had s*x. He hasn’t dated since.
He decided to flunk out of school, drink a lot and hang mostly around guys. He wants to hook up but won’t make a Tinder. He wants to ask out girls but doesn’t. He won’t even speak to most women. But then he b*****s that it just isn’t happening for him.
Well, things don’t just happen. You gotta do it..
He’s the only one I know of (as in, an older guy who hasn’t had s*x) but from what I can gather from ones I have heard of, they are usually super socially impaired.
For example, my friend has a 21 year old friend who is a virgin. He dated one girl years ago and they never had s*x. He hasn’t dated since.
He decided to flunk out of school, drink a lot and hang mostly around guys. He wants to hook up but won’t make a Tinder. He wants to ask out girls but doesn’t. He won’t even speak to most women. But then he b*****s that it just isn’t happening for him.
Well, things don’t just happen. You gotta do it..
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11points
#42
That they’re trying to enforce their power over me. They just refuse to put themselves in my shoes and imagine someone following them around, always trying to manipulate them and push back on their limits.
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11points
#43
Not really sure, I think maybe his standards are just too high? He has only expressed interest in a handful of women over the years, and they are usually cute skinny white girls that already have plenty of guys interested in them.
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10points
#44
He doesn't put any effort into his appearance, and doesn't really ever talk to anyone other than me and his two other friends (all male, he's straight). He will occasionally talk about wanting a girlfriend, and we will try to set him up on dates but then he chickens out
Edit: guys, I know he has social anxiety. That doesnt mean he doesn't want to have s*x. Don't you think a lot of people who are involuntarily celibate have some sort of social issues?
Edit: guys, I know he has social anxiety. That doesnt mean he doesn't want to have s*x. Don't you think a lot of people who are involuntarily celibate have some sort of social issues?
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8points
#45
I have a friend who's 20 that's never kissed a girl yet. I don't really think it's his fault. He's short, very skinny, and Chinese which makes online dating quite difficult. Super nice and funny guy, and he doesn't seem to let it get him down.
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8points
#46
Unclear since it's me but, I'm probably just really boring.
Honestly the highlight of my typical week is when I build an elaborate excel template at work it's not exactly like i can talk about that with other people.
Plus I just don't go out often enough. My hobbies are jogging, reading and video games so for the most part I don't really have anywhere to go that I enjoy being.
In actuality i'm pretty content with my life but, I'm definitely not where I am because of a conscious choice. Just most of the situations/places where I would meet someone aren't very interesting to me so I avoid them.
Honestly the highlight of my typical week is when I build an elaborate excel template at work it's not exactly like i can talk about that with other people.
Plus I just don't go out often enough. My hobbies are jogging, reading and video games so for the most part I don't really have anywhere to go that I enjoy being.
In actuality i'm pretty content with my life but, I'm definitely not where I am because of a conscious choice. Just most of the situations/places where I would meet someone aren't very interesting to me so I avoid them.
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7points
#47
The roleplay-esque, transparently self-pitying language. If you end sentences with a period and finish with the word "meh" or "yeah," I will assume you spend your spare time braiding your neckbeard. I had a friend who would type like this:
Him: yeah. So. That's life I guess. Eh.
Me: hahaha yeah that's how it goes!
Him: yeah. Eh. Meh. :p
It drove me nuts in a way I'm having a hard time articulating. It's just so RESIGNED, in exactly the incel way. He's making it as clear as possible through his typing that his life s***s and will continue to suck and all I can do is comfort him.
Him: yeah. So. That's life I guess. Eh.
Me: hahaha yeah that's how it goes!
Him: yeah. Eh. Meh. :p
It drove me nuts in a way I'm having a hard time articulating. It's just so RESIGNED, in exactly the incel way. He's making it as clear as possible through his typing that his life s***s and will continue to suck and all I can do is comfort him.
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6points
#48
I grew up fairly social and always had a very tight knit circle of friends. It was only when I was a teenager did I realize my parents weren't very social people, they liked hanging out with each other than with fellow parents and neighbors. My brother turned out like them, and had a tough time keeping friends because of his tendencies to push his strong opinions on most things. We were raised in a K-12 school so he couldn't even get the chance to change his image and personality to new people. He retreated further and further into solidarity, doing most things either alone or only with family members like me.
But when I graduated highschool, my new friends in college never stuck. Maybe I kept comparing them to the childhood, lifelong friends that I was so fortunate to have, but on my darker days, I wonder if maybe I also took after my parents after all.
But when I graduated highschool, my new friends in college never stuck. Maybe I kept comparing them to the childhood, lifelong friends that I was so fortunate to have, but on my darker days, I wonder if maybe I also took after my parents after all.
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6points
#49
Wait, is an incel a guy who just can't get laid or is it a guy who can't get laid and hates all women because of it?
Because if it's the former, it's very odd that reddit would have such a hardon for s******g on people who have confidence or self image problems.
Because if it's the former, it's very odd that reddit would have such a hardon for s******g on people who have confidence or self image problems.
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4points
#50
I just wonder if they'd do better if they said s***w it and gave every chick a shot instead of having a "type." I date girls that don't meet my standards all of the time and I do okay.
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3points
