Dating Hell: These 45 Men Are Probably The Reason These Women Have Sworn Off Dating

Second or third date with a guy I thought I quite liked... until he proudly showed me his membership card for a very right-wing political party & (despite my protestations) spent the next 45 minutes telling me about the upcoming civil war.

This is about a bumble match within a two months of separating from my XH. I had a free evening and had been chatting to a man for a few days who seemed lovely. I was feeling bold (I hadn’t had the confidence to go on a date yet) and suggested meeting for a drink at a local leisure spot out of town. I told him I would be driving as I wasn’t drinking at that time.

He asked for a lift because I was passing near his house. I said “No, I’ll meet you there.” He tried again and I said “I’m not comfortable giving you a lift, I don’t know you yet so I’d rather meet you in public first.”

He sent me a barrage of a**se. I blocked and deleted all the OLD apps. I’m seeing someone now and I very quickly engineered a situation where I had to say no to him, to see how he would react. Thankfully he acted like a perfectly decent human being! If this relationship breaks down I won’t be using OLD for sure!

I got an absolute shiner off of tinder say to me 'I really want you to be my girlfriend, so you can see to my trouser cannon every day.

F**king TROUSER CANNON.

Another: got to an organised drinks first date, and the guy had those white stringy bits all around his crusty lips. I kept licking my lips in the hope he'd do the same and kept thinking f**k me if he kisses me im going to have to see the hygienist.

Another took screenshots off of my social media, and told me that im wearing 'too much makeup' and he likes his 'girls' (yes girls) to dress modestly and be more natural. The photo he picked was me at a concert, covered in glitter.
Note: this bloke has botox. But told me off for wearing glitter.

Lastly: met a bloke in the supermarket of all places. Asked me out for a drink and I agreed. Exchanged numbers. (I was 18 at this point). He said that he was Russell brands cousin and he had RB and katy Perry coming round that evening for drinks and would I like to join? I was SO EXCITED. Funnily enough, I'd just seen her on tour the week before and knew for a fine fact she wasn't in the country. But anyhoo I thought I'd play along. Anyway, he said he would pick me up at X time on the back of his motorbike. (I wouldn't have gone.) when he told me he was on his way, apparently in the 10 minute journey his Nan died, and he also got pulled over for speeding and immediately lost his license and asked if he could come to mine.

I am so happy to be out of relationships. Men can f**k off.

Dating again after being widowed four years, he had been divorced from effectively childhood sweetheart and mother of his children four years, all very amicable. Then I found out in those four years he's bought a house with someone else and married a third person. I asked him if the second divorce was also amicable... "no, ha ha, she even accused me of r**e to the police"

When I was a teenager (early 90's) I met up with a guy who'd looked normal in daytime, but he turned up to the pub (average jeans & t-shirt type of village pub) wearing a velvet fitted single button jacket with nothing underneath. He'd floofed his hair up so it was really bouffant on top.
Think he was after a David Hasselhoff look, but his skin was the colour of mushroom soup and he looked like he was making a slow recovery from consumption.
Such a whiny attention-seeking idiot too.
Twas a long evening.

I had a first and last date with one who started whinging that a woman came on her period in his bed staining the mattress then proceeded to ask me back to his (of course didn’t accept).😫

Never f***ed off and blocked someone so fast. I bumped into him in Tesco a few weeks later. 😂

Not quite the same type of story but when I was 18 I dated a guy who told me his cousin ( R) was a member of a famous band . He looked quite similar , had the same last name and his family came from the same place in the UK , so I believed him . We went to a club in London and my BF was ordering drinks at the bar and "his cousin R " walked in . As he and his entourage walked past I got up and spoke to R and told him his cousin( my BF ) was here . At that point my BF returned and R looked blankly at him and said " that's not my cousin , never seen him before "

Muslim here but so many "marriage suitor" frog stories...

1. One guy tried to get money out of me and shouted at me when I said no.
2. Another sang to me on voice notes
3. Promising one lied about his visa status
4. Guy was really fat and gross. And kept asking it "lf I had fallen in love with him yet". He only shared a head shot with me before we met.
5. Guy tried to propose in a coffee shop with a coffee stirrer (the wooden one). Sweet at the time, but laughable now when I look back.

Pre-internet dating .. in fact pre-Internet .. none of your WhatsApp or any of that.

Met this guy in a club, he was gorgeous, manager at a fashion store in the local city. I put in the work over a few weeks.. always talking to him when I saw him.. weeks of this.

Anyhow, finally had a break through .. back to his for (hopefully) a great night. Get to his bedroom, when he asks me … did I mind if he put in his Star Trek outfit he had in his wardrobe. Yes, I very much minded…

Some of them are such actual pond life.

I dated a guy briefly during my OLD period who was almost a foot shorter than me. (I know, I know). Initially I thought he was funny and charismatic enough that I could get past it but I couldn’t.

After two dates I politely blew him out but wished him well. He flew into a rage saying he knew it was about his height etc. I backed away but said I liked him and no hard feelings and he called me a b***h.

So that was the end of that you might think until six weeks later he messaged me on Instagram saying I know it’s never going to happen between us but can you send me a photo of you in high heels???

I then blocked him on Insta and he popped up on Facebook/WhatsApp, you name it. He was continuing to try to contact me on various social platforms for a further four years, well into my current relationship.

Madness… if I had behaved like he did he would have reported me to the police.

Women are always being accused of being hysterical and irrational but men are far worse in dating.

Not me but my friend went for a date with a bloke who paid for dinner with a 50% off voucher and told her it was his treat but she could only have a main course as that’s what the voucher covered.
When they walked to the car park, he asked is she wanted to get into the back seat of his car and unleash his beast - he was 56!!!

God so many horror stories but the ones that spring to mind are a guy I met for a drink, spent the entire time boasting about how much money he made (whilst allowing me to buy all the drinks) then when I was ready to go (quite sharpish obviously) he asked if I wanted to wait outside with him as he "knew an alley behind the pub". I went to sit at the bar until my taxi arrived and asked the barman to walk me out.

Another one I met and things were going quite well until he showed me the you tube videos of him singing propaganda songs for EDL

I also had one guy move the time back and hour, show up with all his mates then disappear off for half an hour leaving me with his friends and returned to ask me if I wanted to go back to his. When I said no he said he didn't fancy me anyway and wanted to get back with his ex. Obvs I was gutted.

There were probably loads but I erased them from my memory. A more recent one, first day chatting on Tinder, catching up on what we've been up to over the weekend. I say that I ran out of food and scraping the bottoms of my cupboards to make something or other. The next thing he comes up with "oh great, so you can cook for me"... err, no mate.

During covid, just as restrictions were ending but before you could eat inside I'd been talking to a guy for a while. Seemed pleasant and articulate. Met him once and he seemed OK so agreed to meet for lunch next time.

Ate lunch, was nice, but freezing as outside. He invited me back to his place as close by. I agreed. Got to his and it was almost hoarder house level inside, clutter and mess everywhere. He gave me a tour of the house but refused to show my the upstairs area that he used (he had moved back in with his mum) because it was too messy 😐👀. He made us a cup of tea in grubby kitchen which we took to lounge and then started to try to kiss and fondle. That was the point I belatedly made my excuses and left! Shame as he had seemed so nice in the written messages lol.

I very briefly dated a guy in my late teens (he was early twenties), who was v clearly trying to look like Eminem. He used to follow any vaguely nice comment etc. with 'and stuffs'... "I just think you're really cute and stuffs"... He definitely thought it was cute. I was nearly sick in my mouth each time he said it. I ended things speedily when I went from feeling a bit nauseous to wanting to punch him.

I have a few

the guy who kept calling me on bumble, like every 10 minutes. I finally answered and he started telling me about his ex who we moved in with after 6 weeks and then she got a restraining order, police called etc. he kept saying was a really nice guy. . He only had 10 mins to talk as staying at a friends as they didn’t let him use his phone. Blocked

the guy who would only communicate via selfies with trout pout. I asked for more texts less pictures sec stopped replying as no conversation. A week later he sent abusive WhatsApp saying I was rude for not replying. My reply was I was not interested. Blocked him and then he started texting me on normal text as I was rude for not setting a date up after matching.

meeting with a guy the looked older than his pictures for him to accidentally tell me he was 10 years older than stated. Asked if anything was true on his profile. Nothing was even down to owing a cat. He thought he sounded cute and it would be a funny story to tell our grand kids. I drank my expensive wine and left.

This was before Internet dating so I am that old. Met him at work and went to on first date. Was very boring. He then informed me that i was going to meet him at a cafe for coffee. I made my excuses and he said he expected me to be there. I said I wouldn't be there. He went ballistic when I didn't turn up. I had to deploy the 'shh an't shhhh ear you, it's a ba shhh ine' or ignore him for him to get the hint. He sent me an 'anniversary' text a year after our date. He came from Dubai - i had frequent nightmares about being kidnapped for a few years! I'm so glad that date was boring 😄.
Then of course there is the 'i was in the army' type bloke. Special ops. Can't tell you about it. The 'I'm full of s**t' date. I feel sorry for those men genuinely in special ops - they must find it hard to keep a date.....

Not online dating but a guy at uni was chatting with me in my room lying on my bed. He had this god-awful belt on with a massive buckle which I couldn’t help but notice. He saw me look so I said “your belt is interesting”. He replied “yeah i really like it. I wear it as it’s sexy and makes my package look even bigger” Wtaf 🤢. He was 100% serious and was so cocky. He would also try to act macho and puff out his little pigeon chest around other guys to make himself look bigger. Needless to say it didn’t develop into a relationship!

Years ago now but I had one who got very drunk at happy hour while I had some work that ran late, met me for a beligerant date, we were walking towards transport after an hour at a bar. He tried to kiss me, then grabbed my left b**b. Just that one. Awkwardly left. I ghosted for obvious reasons. Months later he messaged and asked where it all went wrong, so I told him. He responded "so there is a chance this could still work?". Urgh.

In the days before apps, my friend used a newspaper’s contact site. (Several of the newspapers used to do it in the 90’s.) She met a guy in a pub for a meal, first date and all was going well until they discussed what ideal job they would prefer if they could start again from scratch. His ideal job was to be a hangman……she ran for the hills…