Hey Pandas, When Did You Realize It's Time To Let Go Of A Friendship? (Closed)

when it took more effort to talk to them than anyone else

When they would talk s**t about anyone and everyone, making me wonder what they're saying about me behind my back.

After agreeing to cancel outdoor plans due to predicted thunder/lightening storms, I get two very long text messages from the same person complaining about me cancelling our plans and a whole bunch of other stuff that I did not know about myself (LOL). I sent her a text letting her know that her messages came to me instead of to her son and that she might want to resend them.

When my hair fell out in clumps. I still love her, she was my best friend from the 15 years but after years and years of her going MIA into one abusive relationship after another and only being my “friend” when there was the inevitable temporary breakup wore me down. The last relationship led her down a dangerous road of heroin abuse which broke my heart. I got her through the withdrawal symptoms with the help my family and she still went back to him afterwards. I knew that was it for me. The stress broke my heart and caused my hair to fall out.

When she was irritated with us and took it out on our children.

When her stepdaughter's sexuality was more of q crisis than my aunt on her deathbed (cancer).

When I got left out of presents and gestures, as I never had any spare money to return said presents to them - could only occasionally buy presents and even then, had to save for quite a while for one person.

When he ruined my house, refused to listen to anyone, follow the tenancy rules, refused to properly and willingly watch our kid while I worked and was just a mean, spiteful, resenting person who couldn't cope with his issues without drugs, alcohol and cigarettes, in which he prioritized over anyone else's needs.

I have this friend that I'm too scared to let go of but I know is toxic. she yells at me whenever I do someting she doesn't aprove of, doesn't let me hang out with anyone else, and whenever I try and get rid of her she'll tell my other friends a fake rumor about me and then begg me to let her stay. I don't know what to do, should I let her go and risk losing my other friends or stay with her?

Facebook was way more important

After 3 years in highschool, he always prioritised his other friend that I was an okay friend with, and then 2 years in upper secondary school with him not initiating any conversation, not talking about any emotion or really anything. I decided to stop talking to him in third year because we no longer had any classes together. That fall, I got diagnosed with depression and severe social anxiety, but I feel alot better only a year later.

When I realized I wasn’t important to her anymore. Her family cares about me more than she did