Hey Pandas, When Did You Realize It's Time To Let Go Of A Friendship? (Closed)

When she didn't pay for a car I co signed for because I felt bad she was a single mother and I got sued for said car. Contacted her and she said "It's your problem I filed BK" Never even offered to help pay that debt. Also I never drove or even sat in said car. I ended up paying 2800 for a car I never drove.

When I moved out of our house we were renting two months early. Paid the rest of the WHOLE rent. All she had to to was pay water / electric. She bounced didn't tell me so I could shut things off properly, got saddled with another Thousand or so dollars.

Last straw was when she found out I was buying my first home and decided to spread a very malicous lie about my fiance that could've made us lose everything. Luckily during the investigation (yes she filed a false report) they realized it was all out of malice and jealousy. But it was the worst couple of months of our lives. She also managed to turn some friends and family against us with her lies. To this day I'm not exactly sure why they believed her when they knew how she was. But whatever, if they want to believe her lies, then I don't need them in my life. She is a miserable and disgusting human being and will one day have to atone for all the things she's done. And if she can do that to her "best friend" of OVER 20 years, what has she done to others?

A little back story she was never like this back in the day, she used to be the most responsible person I ever knew, caring too. Not sure what made her completely do a 180 and honestly I dont care. The money I could forgive and get over event though I'm still dealing with it and getting my credit repaired because of her. But the other thing? I will never forgive her for.

I explained in detail about my mother's emotional abuse. My friend told me to make things up with her.

When she decided not to be my maid of honour two days before the wedding, after spending £400+ on her dress because she was jealous that nobody had asked her yet and couldn’t stand watching another friend get married before her. We had been best friends for nearly 15 years but it was supper easy to never see her again (she also did something similar to another friend a year later)

best friends from elementary school on, friendship even countinued at uni. then she met her new (and 1st) boyfriend and all of a sudden has no time anymore, not even when i bring her a bd present. 11
y of friendship are gone

When I married a guy that was way better off financially than either she or I had ever been. She would make me feel bad for going on vacation and told me the least I could do was buy her a new stove. I only spoke to her about 3x per year the last few years we were friends (lived in different states). She tried to make me feel horrible over the fact I was not struggling anymore while she worked her ass while her broke ass boyfriends sat home and “made music”

Would only ever get in contact when they wanted something. Literally no contact for months then "hey mate, can you help me..."

When I worked for a friend I’d known for many years and they fired me over text without warning which left me unemployed and on welfare. I haven’t seen or spoken to them since and never will!

After cleaning up my life from HS, "friends" wouldn't stop texting asking for drugs.

After i realized she was an entitled bitch.

It took me until a year or two after high school and COVID to realize no, he is never going to be “not busy” or interested in seeing me anymore. Everything was always radio silence or “sorry but I’m doing x with my family right now”. When I finally got a chance to go over to his house after being apart for 1.5 years, he was on his phone snapchatting this random girl he had met through mutual friends. Finally got me that I had been fantasizing the entire best best friend thing and that he didn’t give a crap. Really hurt cuz he always seemed so sweet and considerate.

I had a friend who wrote me a message that started 'Dear clueless, white, male, heterosexual, cisgender, non-handicapped friend' for a reason that had nothing to do with any of those traits.

Years ago, I had a really good friend, one of my best friends. When we (she, me my so) went to her house she always wanted to go out to pubs and restaurants and we would always have to pay. One time we were in between houses and she let us stay at her house for a month but we had to pay like 600 euro’s in rent for that one room. Still I said nothing until hubby had to be in the area for a week, stayed at her house (we live 500 km away from her) and she wanted to go out to dinner every single evening and never once split the bill. That was it for me.

1: She thought she knew more than me because she had a Google blog, as opposed to my several sources from multiple health centers (Mayo Clinic type stuff).
2: Same person, she lied about her cousins death from cancer.
3: SAME CHICK, my dumbass didn’t recognize this as an issue tho, she faked her mental illnesses.
4: She downplayed my mental illnesses (I have severe depression and anxiety, and have been big sad since the age of 3.) simply because I’m a guy, and I’m not paid half of what the opposite gender makes (She thought the wage gap was .25 cents to every dollar a man made, or something like that, I forget.)
5: When in group chats, she’d use ‘code’ stuff to communicate with other people in the GC, besides me, like, just create a separate GC?

6: New person: wanted a… how to I put this… naughty picture that I, as a minor, wasn’t comfortable with.
7: He called me a schizophrenic cripple because I hallucinate and hear s**t, unprovoked
8: Insulted my friends for their gender orientation
9: Called me a… person who is attracted to children… because I’m pansexual and “I love everyone, so that includes children”
10: Called me a homophobic slur because I’m pansexual
11: Started threatening me physically because I’m 5’3 and he was 5’10.
12: Threatened to kill somebody I liked.
13: started gossip about me, talking crap behind my back.
14: Insulted me regularly, started messing with me because I’m not the strongest dude known to man, when I was like, 9.
15: Called me a cripple since I break down under pressure, and threatened to punch me in the face
I have more but this is already long as hell, feel free to ask if you want to hear a few more

When she lied to me. Lying is unforgivable. People who lie to you are saying "you are so stupid you would believe anything I tell you. I never lie. Lying is nothing more than contempt and a total dismissal of you as a person. I NEVER lie. I have way too much respect for myself and my friends.

It was the longest friendship from high school.
After HS it became a phone call/letter friendship which was fine for awhile until I started realizing every, literally every conversation would end up about her.

I needed a change in my life in my 20s so she came up with the idea to move to California to be near her. I packed a U-Haul, donated my car and drove cross country.

It quickly became apparent we were only friends because we went to high school together. Naturally we both worked so we spent very little time together & when we did, I realized we had nothing in common.

Finally after only a few months, I decided to move back home & due to a miscalculation, my stuff was packed in a cross country moving truck the day before I was flying home so I ended up on my last night in an empty apartment.
I talked with her on the phone and mentioned I'd be spending my last night in an empty apartment and she didn't even offer to come pick me up so I could sleep at her house. An offer that I would have declined but it told me were I stood.

Years later, I was having a conversation with my parents & they offhand mentioned that I had donated my car. I thought this was rather strange since I told them I was talking it with me.
I don't remember why I lied but it was the one thing I had asked her not to tell them so naturally the only way they would have known was she did & after I asked her, sure enough, she gladly told me she had told them because she didn't want to damage the relationship she had with my parents.

This was rather bizarre because the "relationship" she had with them, and even that ended awhile ago as far as I know, was a Christmas card exchange relationship. Nothing more.
THAT's what she decided was more important than our decade long friendship.

She attempted to contract me through email & even followed me on Twitter by I ignored her. Finally she contacted my brother and asked him to give me some details about her mother's health. I didn't want my brother to get stuck in the middle of her pestering him for my info so I contacted her just to politely give her and her mother my best since my dad had died 2 years ago so I was sensitive about potential parental loss.

She has sent me a birthday & Christmas text along with an update on her mother but as far as I can tell, the Christmas message, which was the last one I sent is still unread, not that I particularly care.

When I thought he would celebrate my success with me, boy was I wrong. I was ghosted!!!

When I got told I was playing the martyr for refusing to take the blame for every crappy part of our friendship. Was I the best friend ever? Oh heck no. Did I cause all the problems? Also no. Lost all of the group of friends on that one because I refused to “just apologize so the fight ends” over something that wasn’t my fault. I don’t miss any of them. Pretty sad when your friends are so crappy that have no friends is better.

When she asked me to go someplace with her family including her 4 kids and when I told her I need time to get ready she pretty much just said, "why? It's just you." She finally child shamed me...out loud.

When the last "Happy Birthday" message was sent 10 years ago and all of the sudden you get invites to the weddings. And in these 10 years span, you see that they've travelled the world together, went to places we used to go, did stuff we used to do, yet none have reached out to you to go along. It made me wonder hard, what did I do wrong. I can safely say, my SO is my only friend left.

In 4th grade she asked me to pay her $7 for a friendship necklace.