Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Thing A Parent Has Ever Said To You? (Closed)

My mom said “You are too big, too tall, too loud, too fat” I came out looking Iike my dad’s side of the family, that are tall, and voluptuous. She is petite. That still hunts me to this day.

When I was a teenager my mom explained to me that I should always have a backup plan when I get married, because no matter how much you trust someone “you just never know,”. Thanks mom, I’m in a trusting and secure marriage with a wonderful guy now, making sure that lesson never pops back into my head and screws things up.

Me and my grandmother where in an argument about like when I get older, how to dress, "being pretty and stuff" and she ended saying I dress like a "hobo" and how "guys arent attracted to that type of thing "or whatever. There was more to the conversation, so I think she was just kinda upset at me for other reasons, but that still bothers me. Another time she was talking about how rude and crude she thinks lesbians are and said "I think all lesbians deserve to be shot". It's hard how literal she is sometimes, and I know she loves me and all, but gosh some of that stuff she says sometimes just really messes with me😢

My grandmother had Bipolar Type II. (Which wasn’t figured out until I went to college for psychology and social work and figured it out.) She was legally married and divorced 14 times that we know of and moved my mom and her siblings all over the Midwest their whole life. When I told my mom that my first husband was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive and also cheating on me and I wanted to leave, my mom said “You don’t wanna be like grandma, do you?” She was implying I needed to stay to save face. She has always been more concerned about coddling and enabling my older brother to care about any issue in my life. He was having relationship issues at the time as well but did not have someone physically hurting him daily and having a gun held to his head when trying to leave the relationship so I’m still in shock that his issues mattered more. He’s a selfish, manipulative narcissist and my mother just plays into it and treats us completely differently. Realizing it all has really destroyed my relationship with my mom and brother. I did get out though with legal help and strength and intelligence of my own and am happily married to someone who is not abusive in any way. But that comment and neglect still really hurts to this day.

No one will love you if your fat - father to me at 16 after putting on a bit of weight after a bout of bulimia

“nO pHoNe ToDaY”