What is the biggest red flag in a friendship for you? So many people have different opinions on this. I honestly am clueless and way too forgiving lol.
I made this because I wondered what you Pandas thought about friendships and what I should look out for because I am a mess. So yeah, please comment on your thoughts! Have a great day!
#41
When your "friend" seems to want to have a say and control over everything in your life. Not just advice but you almost need to be free to be at their whim, come when they call, NOW. I saw this with my SIL controlling her friend of 40 years until the friend just couldn't adhere to SIL's standards. The friend's mom was dying and needed care which SIL wouldn't "tolerate "! And those who backed the friend are now on SIL's s**t list. Toxic as hell!!!
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#42
Sorry if this one’s been said already, but…
When the friend “forgets” birthdays. I mean, it’s fine when you’re just meeting this person and you have to remind them from time to time, but I once had a friend who was constantly asking, “When’s your birthday?” Again. And again. And AGAIN. I knew this person for years, and they still couldn’t seem to remember it was my birthday — every. Single. Year.
And another one:
When they purposefully make you feel left out. The same friend mentioned earlier would always do things and go places with her other friends (and no, I’m not upset she had other friends, she had every right) that I had told her I didn’t like. Sometimes it felt like she was doing it on purpose, and I knew her friends and they were fine with the things I was fine with.
I took off a few years back.
I don’t mean to sound like a jerk with either of these, I’m just sharing the two things that made me end a “friendship.”
When the friend “forgets” birthdays. I mean, it’s fine when you’re just meeting this person and you have to remind them from time to time, but I once had a friend who was constantly asking, “When’s your birthday?” Again. And again. And AGAIN. I knew this person for years, and they still couldn’t seem to remember it was my birthday — every. Single. Year.
And another one:
When they purposefully make you feel left out. The same friend mentioned earlier would always do things and go places with her other friends (and no, I’m not upset she had other friends, she had every right) that I had told her I didn’t like. Sometimes it felt like she was doing it on purpose, and I knew her friends and they were fine with the things I was fine with.
I took off a few years back.
I don’t mean to sound like a jerk with either of these, I’m just sharing the two things that made me end a “friendship.”
TL;DR: forgetting birthdays and ignoring my preferences.
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#43
Broke up with a woman because she couldn’t stop talking about all the guys she banged.
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#44
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#45
when they only talk to you for stuff that they need, or if they do something to you and tell you to get over it
I will not get over you excluding me from things
I will not get over you excluding me from things
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#46
That they seem to like me back. Big red flag. Usually means they want something, want to sell me something, or want to convert me to their religion so they can get into heaven.
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#47
They start asking you to do things for their benefit and get mad when you won’t.
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#48
They always tell you you're wrong for being worried about things because their trauma or they're already going through that thing you're worried about right now. (Not to say that their trauma isn't valid, it is, but like, "You're drowning in 8 feet of water? Well I'm drowning in 16 feet")
Also, always talking about trauma or complaining about work, or talking about inappropriate events between them and their partner, even if you've already said it makes you uncomfortable, because "not everyone is asexual like you"
Also, always talking about trauma or complaining about work, or talking about inappropriate events between them and their partner, even if you've already said it makes you uncomfortable, because "not everyone is asexual like you"
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#49
They throw you under the bus aka rat you out aka fink you out
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#50
stuff happening to me rn:
1. never reaches out to talk to me
2. always leaves me on read when i'm trying to start a conversation
3. betrays my trust and then says it was just a joke
4. only hangs out with me when he wants to
the list goes on but it gets worse
1. never reaches out to talk to me
2. always leaves me on read when i'm trying to start a conversation
3. betrays my trust and then says it was just a joke
4. only hangs out with me when he wants to
the list goes on but it gets worse
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#51
Already answered once, here's another
When they're finally out of your life, for whatever reason, you start to realize just how poor your mental health was around them, and that it was because of them.
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#52
When they guilt trip and then ghost you by saying "You don't understand, I'm working hard, harder then you ever had to and am important too"
This is after you tell your friend you have to miss a phone call with them because you found out your pet was dying of late stage cancer and you're desperately looking for a pet oncologist during the covid pandemic.
Oh and did I mention I spent hours and hours with her on her stupid resume and LinkedIn page? Never got so much as a thank you
This is after you tell your friend you have to miss a phone call with them because you found out your pet was dying of late stage cancer and you're desperately looking for a pet oncologist during the covid pandemic.
Oh and did I mention I spent hours and hours with her on her stupid resume and LinkedIn page? Never got so much as a thank you
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#53
You give them Christmas present and the only thing they say is: "This doesn't mean I have to buy you anything, it was your choice to do this for me"
I took the box right back
I took the box right back
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#54
friend 1. said: doesn't like dogs friend said:
they enjoy children
they enjoy children
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#55
When they start dating someone, you suddenly become invisible. No calls, texts, invites, etc.
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#56
When they only show up while you have beer and marijuana, and leave when you run out. B******!
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#57
People who only talk about themselves and don't ask about you.
When they make really questionable parenting choices that aren't abuse but could be potentially dangerous.
Belittling your thoughts or beliefs.
I once went out with a girl I had known for a while and for some reason she brought up religion. I told her I didn't believe in it and she said I really did but didn't want to admit it. We never hung out again.
I once went out with a girl I had known for a while and for some reason she brought up religion. I told her I didn't believe in it and she said I really did but didn't want to admit it. We never hung out again.
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