What is the biggest red flag in a friendship for you? So many people have different opinions on this. I honestly am clueless and way too forgiving lol.
I made this because I wondered what you Pandas thought about friendships and what I should look out for because I am a mess. So yeah, please comment on your thoughts! Have a great day!
#21
When they don't vaccinate.
3points
#22
When you listen to their problems but they make your problems about them.
3points
#23
Lying. About small and large things. About things that can be easily discovered and inconsequential. Why?
3points
#24
Religion. Always religion.
3points
#25
I've experienced this recently, and I was the one who did this.
I was friends with a girl, and I found her pretty, but I accidentally took it too far and asked her out.
2points
#26
When that friend guilt trips you frequently into doing something, saying something, or anything of the like. Or gaslighting you. Another red flag from personal experience? 24 year old men who's only friends are 13 year old girls he tracked on the internet!
2points
#27
If someone manipulates other people into hating you so that they can be your one and only friend, When someone forces you to listen to EVERYTHING they like but won't listen to anything you say, When someone threatens to fight you, and people who do ALL THREE AND STILL ACT LIKE THEY'RE FRIENDS WITH YOU. (Yes, this has happened to me.)
2points
#28
When the person only talks about themselves and doesn't listen to you. And when he or she just complains about his problems without looking for solutions. You finally realize that you're just the person who listens to problems that never get resolved.
2points
#29
When they ignore you and when you wonder why call you an attention seeker.
Speaking from experience, unfortunately, If you have to work hard for a friends attention its not good.
1point
#30
I had someone pretend to be friends with me just so they could try to steal my real friend, they almost succeeded too, but my friend moved, I still keep in contact with my real friend, but the fake friend actually started to bully me like many others had because I'm nurodivergent, kinda glad my real friend left when they did, because the fake friend was really toxic.
TL;DR: using you to talk to your actual friends.
1point
#31
My friend V knows I’m in a feud with this kid C, but she decided to be friends with him anyways. C has been manipulating V the entire time they’ve been friends and V thinks they’re best friends. I warned V about being friends with C and she didn’t listen.
She doesn’t talk to me anymore, I don’t know why.
She doesn’t talk to me anymore, I don’t know why.
1point
#32
When we sat down to snuggle and he turned on pro wrestling. I should have ended it right then and there.
1point
#33
When they always try to help you with anything that it's slowly getting creepy.
1point
#34
a couple for me is...
-you or the person has to reassure you that yall are friends
- the sarcastic "okay?" if you ever say something about yourself maybe randomly, it hurts.
-they seem to be annoyed if you share something about you or what happened to you, but they seem intrigued when they talk about something they did.
-they tend to act different when in a group than when its just the two of you, specifically more positive when with others.
ive had a lot of experience but these are just some recent ones
1point
#35
When the person you're dating is communist. (I'll see myself out)
1point
#36
*these are all real life examples
Friend 1: talking over me, only texting occasionally, joking around in a really insensitive way, pushing her beliefs onto me bc im a year younger than her.
Friend 1: talking over me, only texting occasionally, joking around in a really insensitive way, pushing her beliefs onto me bc im a year younger than her.
Friend 1 conversation example:
Me: hi (s)! I brought the book you wanted to read!
S: thanks!
M: *talks about my babysitting for three mins*
S: fun! *glazes over*
S: *talks about a boy for a hour *
M: *pays absolute attention, doesn’t waver from the convo*
Me: hi (s)! I brought the book you wanted to read!
S: thanks!
M: *talks about my babysitting for three mins*
S: fun! *glazes over*
S: *talks about a boy for a hour *
M: *pays absolute attention, doesn’t waver from the convo*
Idk about this friendship but I always feel when I complain about her I always wind up being a better friend to her when she’s trashier to me. Advice?
1point
#37
When your friend makes you do stuff for them and never give you or help you back. This gets old real fast.
1point
#38
"There are only 2 kinds of people in this world, users and stupid people who deserve to be used" This is what she said after I spent hours helping her write her resume
1point
#39
"It's just a joke, stop being so sensitive."
Anything similar to that, BIG. RED. FLAG. Last summer, I had a friend group who at some point, decided to just call me "Bitchless." repeatedly. I was laughing with them at first, but then it made me really uncomfortable, and asked the group to stop. They didn't, kept going, and eventually, it literally pushed me to a breakdown ( And almost sh ). Oh, and what they said to me? "It's just a joke, stop being so sensitive.". Please drop friends who are like this to you.
1point
#40
If they are overdramatic, oversensitive, and you dread/overthink something that could possibly offend them.
PS Parents give great advice on this stuff. Thanks mom
1point