Hey Pandas, What Is Something Parents Should Stop Doing?

Stop discussing negative, scary or stressful things in front of kids. It scares them and makes them depressed because they have no way to process it or change it.

Making kids go through the awful things they did to "teach them a lesson".

There are 2 types of parents IMO... the ones who say "I went through this horrible thing so you have to too," and the ones who say "I had this awful experience, so I'll do what I can to make sure you don't have to." We need more of the latter kind.

Shutting down their ideas, refusing to compromise or try something contrary to their habits or “normalcy”.

INSTEAD: Explore, discuss and talk with them. Ponder things, laugh about things, perform things. (Ie. Watch Bluey and see how parenting can be done.)

They’re people too, your kids can have feelings, thoughts, passions and pearls of wisdom that you may not explored before. Help them explore too!

I’ve seen principles/techniques like on Bluey, (for real life!) in action and creates lovely people gradually on their way to adulthood!

Allowing kids to choose their gender.

1. Guilt-tripping their kids

2. Devoid them of privacy

3. Fulfilling their unfulfilled dreams through their kids

4. Not listening to their kids

having kids

Using writing scentences as a punishment.

Please stop trying to turn them into little Mini-Me's. My mother was always so disappointed when I wasn't like her, and furious when I was like my father. She never allowed me to just be myself.

I don’t guess it’s really unfair or harmful but I find it annoying when my parents do it. I hate it when my parents talk about all the crazy sh!t they did when they were younger but then they get mad at you for the simplest, most innocent thing, nothing compared to what they said they did when they were younger.

Also, when you become a teenager and you parents expect you to act like an adult but still treat you like a kid. If you treat your teen like a kid, they’ll act like a kid, expect them to act like an adult, then treat them like an adult. Or even better, just treat them their age, they’re not a kid or an adult.

Stop being wishy washy with your kids. Be a PARENT to your kid, not a friend. Don't be inconsistent. Make very clear rewards and punishments, and no arguments or negotiations, either.

Stop caring about what other people are doing. Do their decisions impact you in any way? If not, who cares? If you want to judge them, judge in your head and not out of your mouth. No one needs your unsolicited opinions, especially about their children. This includes clothing choices, make-up choices, gender presentation, types of activities in which they are participating, etc.... As long as no one is getting hurt or is in immanent danger, the chances of something coming out of your mouth that could seriously ruin another person's day is very high and unnecessary. Be kind to other people. If your opinion isn't kind, keep it to yourself.

Smoking and abusing

I don't want to be rude, but spend more time with the children than you do with your spouse. That what I deal with everyday

Using your child/children as pawns in a messy divorce. As a child of divorce, my parents used me and my brother all of the time. "Tell your father..." and "Tell your mother...". Children should be kept out of the drama.

Make them feel responsible for your happiness or fears. And let them feel guilt for it.

Okay, I have two things. One, parents need to stop comparing kids to their siblings/friends/the parents at their current age. Two, I don't know if other parents do this, but mine punished me by shoving hot sauce down my throat. That hurt.

Stop comparing siblings to each other. We all aren’t the smartest or the most beautiful one in the room but we are all talented and interesting in our own way.