Hey Pandas, Have You Ever Been In A Toxic Friendship? (Closed)

Yes, and and sometimes it was me. Particularly that times I failed to see a friend struggling and wasn't the friend they needed, or worse, was a terrible person to them for things looking back were so stupid. Like in college I had a friend who "came out" (circa 2005 ish), I was more concerned with people thinking I was gay than what my friend was going through, and looking back I realize what a gigantic ass I was, and I don't blame that person for never speaking to me again.

Had a 'friend' in elementary school who tried to break up my friendship with my bestie, and wou

used me for candy and money.

She (now a he but I'd like to use the pronouns from then) had talked behind my back at my own birthday party, was using me for online friends, and when other people did the same to me but in Minecraft, (in my server it's really well known for people to try to befriend me, and then just use me for things. Pretty much everyone who plays on that server knows this-) she didn't do a single thing at all, yet she was with me that entire time. I have trust issues now because of her. :)

I was his only friend, and was afraid to leave him because of what he might do. He called me every day, and left me so drained that my depression was the worst it had been in years. He’s like a leech- but I’m afraid that without me he won’t survive. And I’m more afraid of the guilt than I am of him.

Where do I even begin?! We used to be very good friends, so we moved in together. But then she never cleaned up. She didn’t contribute to shared stuff like cleaning supplies, TP, spices... she’d shave her leg right after I’d scrubbed the bathroom spotless and would not flush the hairs down. Would leave hair and toothpaste regularly in the sink. She even slept with another roommate of ours IN MY ROOM. Whenever she had a bad day, the whole flat was full of negativity. She’d set her alarm to 4:30 am and leave it ringing until 7 am with locked doors, so that I could’t turn it off. She’d skip the rope during the night or early in the morning (5 am). She was the worst person ever and I am so happy she’s no longer in my life

Wasn’t too big. . . But when I was ten my best friend would “joke” with me. She would tell me too look stuff up on the internet that could potentially be dangerous and then say “JUST KIDDING!!” I broke up with her after she did it a few times.

I had a friend in Primary School, who I considered my best friend. I would give her any money that I scrounged up, all of my food, invited her to all of my birthday parties, defended her from racist pricks, etc. She never did any of this, only invited me to a single one of her parties, where the present i got for her was immediately taken (she complained that it wasn't good enough) and I was pushed into a corner where I sat for the next 3 hours, only getting up to get some water or fairy bread. When I moved away, i said to her, 'I'm glad that we were able to be best friends!' and she said, 'Friends? I only thought of you as a classmate.'

No wonder I have trust issues.

He was my best friend for a while. I was a time that we'd go out and drink and party a lot

Guy I've known since we were both 17

One of my best friends sadly. I’ll call him W. We were really close and had a lot of similar interests, overall seemed like a great guy. Yeah he could be annoying at times, but he was a middle school boy when we met soooo. As we got closer, we FaceTimed a lot, we would talk about all sorts of stuff, then it got deeper and personal. He would vent to me and my friends about how depressed he was (mainly because his aunt that he absolutely loved had recently died) and how he had all this anxiety and stuff. I still cared for him lots and promised to help him and that we would go through it together (I also had anxiety). Then as the months went on, W started talking suicidal. He would threaten that if I didn’t do blank he would hurt himself or kill himself or etc. Sometimes it was send him pictures of Disney actresses that he liked, or ask our friends if they cared about him. Stuff like that. He would also complain he didn’t have any friends or that everyone hated him. He was just all over the place. He would have constant mood swings, sometimes he was really nice and honestly the kind of person I would genuinely want and a best friend of the times he was like I have described. One of my best friends said he had a crush on me so he acted different, but He was very honest when he liked someone, + I’m pretty ugly. But these things went on for a while when one day, Our mutual friend apparently “falsely accused him of being a jerk” (which she did not) soWhat does he do but the very next day write her a letter calling her terrible things and saying that they can’t friends. There’s SO SO SO many more layers to this than that, but this would be so long if I elaborated any more. So basically the girl who received the letters brother, pissed W off, so W punches the brother then pins him to the ground by the neck. The girl who received the letter and I went to the principal, and it was a whole thing. Ugh. He eventually apologized, and I try to not be mean to him. But honestly it takes all my willpower. He was a pastors kid too.