Hey Pandas, Have You Ever Been In A Toxic Friendship? (Closed)

We were friends for quite a long time, but do not live in the same city. Everything was ok and nice, until you have had an other opinion. Oh my, all hell would broke loose and she transformed to a real devil. Other friends asked me once, how I could be friends with her. I never understand the question in the beginning. The last time I meet her, shd was cold and distant and I found a excuse to leave early. Sad, cause I really liked her. :/

For about 5 Years (Age 12-17) I was 'friends' with this girl who would always threaten to get angry with me and tell me to end my life. I was quite passive and had a horrible anxiety disorder. She would always make negative comments about my body which led me to develop a severe eating disorder (which almost killed me) and body dysmorphia. The only reason I managed to get away from her was because she tried to pin a big exam cheating scandal (that SHE organised) on me when I had nothing to do with it. I eventually managed to slowly distance myself from her and hang out with friends that didn't have a hierarchy and treated me with actual kindness. Due to the trauma of that toxic friend, my mental health issues make it difficult to live a normal life. I am glad I am still alive despite everything she put me through.

yes... i was the toxic one. i realized i had to end things before we both got hurt even more.

Yes. One of my friends would ghost me, only talk to me when she wanted something, would berate me, and spread rumors about me. I wanted to break off that friendship but I didn't want to hurt her feelings. She took advantage of and abused my willingness to be kind to everyone, even if they hurt you.

She lived two houses up the road. We met when I was 3 and she was 2, and she practically lived at my house growing up. She was my best friend till college, and then we were still super close but we didn’t live near each other so we didn’t see much of each other. When I went to another state to continue schooling, I got pregnant. It was a huge surprise because I was supposed to infertile — but a happy one because I’d always wanted kids. But she thought I should have an abortion and wouldn’t stop hounding me about it no matter how often I told her I wanted the baby. Then I got engaged to the baby’s dad and set the date for the next year (baby was 7 months when we got married) and I made her my maid of honor because of how long we’d been friends. But she didn’t like my fiancé and kept mouthing off about how it was too soon to get married, even though we’d been together 18 months by then. She did none of the normal MOH stuff, my mom wound up doing all of it. Finally a few years later she was engaged and wanted me to go way above and beyond as MOH even though she hadn’t been remotely supportive of me or my relationship or my family for YEARS plus never did MOH stuff for me, not to mention I had a young child as well so a lot of that stuff was harder/impossible for me. I didn’t think it was fair that she wanted me to do all that when she couldn’t be bothers to do any of it for me and finally I suggested she get someone else to do that stuff. She had the nerve to call me a bad friend after that and I was just done. I ended the friendship and took petty revenge (changed the password on her TheKnot page and deleted everything there, so she had to start her lists and stuff over from scratch). I’ve been married over a decade to my husband and we have 3 kids now. Super happy I didn’t listen to her and I’m glad she’s out of my life now.

Yes, but it was my ex fiancé. I was 19 and he was 20 (we were 8 months apart) We were close friends in middle school and we lost touch after he went to high school as I was held back a year due to being sick and then was home schooled throughout high school. He found me again through Facebook and we started to talk before ultimately dating. His true colors were showing right at the end of our relationship. We started dating in 2014 and I ended it in April of 2017. It started out great, there were no arguments or fights other than our non serious playful arguments or when we were gaming, but even then it was all in good fun. His true colors started to show in the middle of 2016 after we got engaged at the end of 2015. We started to actually argue and fight which caused my anxiety to be at an all time high, even though I was undiagnosed at this point. I lost myself and I tried to end it sooner, but he threatened off himself, so I stayed because I was terrified. It wasn’t until later that I learned he was manipulating me into staying. I finally ended it after I said that I wanted to see a therapist to get diagnosed and he put me down for that. I also wanted to lose weight because I wasn’t happy with my body, I was unhealthy, and I wanted to be in a better place. His response to that was to get mad at me and insult me, and things got worse from there.I weighed on breaking up with him for a few weeks before I realized the love I had for him was just gone. I ended it. And now I’m 26 and in college, I’ve lost weight, I’m seeing a psychiatrist for my anxiety and I’m on medication, I’m in a happier place mentally and emotionally, and I’ve found myself again. I’m just glad his true colors came out when they did because I don’t know what would have happened if we had gotten married.

When I was in elementary school I had a friend. She would bully me one day then the next act so sweet. She would spread cruel rumors about me and then act so innocent. Once when we were partnered to do a project I created the idea and got an A+ but she took all the credit for my brilliant idea and said I was so lazy and pathetic. She was popular so she got away with that. But during the state test I caught her cheating and ratted her out. She was held back a year and transferred because she was embarrassed. Ha payback.

Had a "best friend" for years since summer before eighth grade. We are now almost 40. Haven't talked to her in over a year because of several things. Like I cosigned on a car for her (she was a single parent) never gave me a reason not to trust her. Ended up filing bankruptcy and stuck me with the debt. REFUSED to pay me back saying she was broke etc yet could go out to the movies every other day and go out drinking etc. We were roomates and I moved out early. Paid ALL the rent, all she had to do is pay water / electric. She bailed without telling me, that's now on my credit and the worst was as soon as she found out I was buying my first house she lost her damn mind and I won't give details because it makes me sick to my stomach but lets just say she did the absolute un thinkable and literally tried to destroy my entire life. It back fired on her of course, but she is a miserable disgusting person. I feel bad for everyone that believes any lie that comes out of her mouth. I'm not sure what ever happened to turn her into this person because for most of our lives she was the kindest most gentle most responsible person. But now here we are, I have my own home, a beautiful family and a career. She has a son that cusses her out and treats her like trash, a baby daddy in and out of prison, a dead end career and still lives off of family or "friends" because she has so much debt she can't keep an apartment or get her own house. Sad.

Erf, still playing dodgems with them to this day. Generally a nice person who has been very messed up by her parents. However, she is a compulsive liar, manipulator, and thief. She steals items from people and tells others that she bought them so has a backing of people for if you confront her. If she borrowed something you will never get it back, sold stuff for money she needed then took them back. She almost got six people evicted from their student flat because she wouldn't pay rent and manipulated them into thinking she had, then did the same thing the next year and nearly got two more people evicted. She eventually tried it on the wrong person. Keeps trying to get back into people's graces but they know what she does now. Still tries to contact me and manipulate me to forget the grand worth of stuff she's stolen from me.

Well, sit back because this is a doozy. When I was 6, I befriended a girl that lived in the apartment building across from me. Everything started out fine, we played together, we had sleepovers, and we had great times together. Then a few years later (Here comes her addiction to social media!) she got so attached to Instagram, Twitter, all that other stuff. It made me start to feel less important. Then came the time where she started to say stuff about me behind my back, and I knew that she started to dislike me. When I was 10 or 11 we started calling on Hangouts. And this girl would just watch Youtube or Netflix and pretend I wasn't there, or she wasn't really interested in our conversations. I was going through a lot at that time (that's another story) so this brought down my self-esteem. Oh! How could I forget? At sleepovers, she would constantly try to get me into trouble and trick me to do things that would get me in trouble. When I was about 12-13 I blocked her, cut off contact. She did try to contact me last year but I said I didn't want to start fresh because of all that she did to me. She is a toxic, lying, manipulative girl who was just using me. So yeah, there's my toxic past friendship

My best friend, Chloe and I had this one friend, who was going through family issues so Chloe let her live with her and her husband for a while. Everything went down hill from there. She would start fight with Chloe's husband, throw things at him, come in at three in the morning, admit that she was out sleeping with other guys when she had a boyfriend, but then deny it later. She also stole the apartment key to which Chloe called the cops on her for, but we don't know where that led. They are back in their home state, so we're not worried about it. She still stole some shirts, K-cups, and threatened to steal their dog. But she wound up pregnant with her boyfriend who she then married, but admitted to Chloe that she was still sleeping around with other guys. They're now divorced and he now has custody of their daughter, but she wants her back and I know she's unfit parent. It's just crazy because she seemed fine, until we became her friends and then hell broke loose. We've cut all ties with her, but I'm worried about her kid.

She’d been making loads of crappy comments about my lifestyle (my partner and I both work, own our own home and pay for daycare vs her living rent free in a flat her parents own of benefits and a partner who’s never worked) saying she/they deserve to be paid for cuz they are good parents and that we lived in a bad area (actually we don’t) . I’ve blocked her before but I gave her a second chance, then she started sending me anti-vax stuff , my kids are fully protected as am I

Had a coworker who I thought we were friends and one day she was in a bad mood and stood up while I was talking to someone else and asked why I couldnt cut to the chase with my story. Prior to this we hung out a lot, but I was super pissed cause she tried to take her bad day out on me. Realized this chick is just a bully, and a miserable person. She loved to make stupid comments about white people and the fact that i am half black and white and she is black. I think that day she just thought she was going to make me look stupid in front of everyone, and luckily management who was right there agreed she was out of line in the first place. It is very hard to describe her and the things she did in this way, but I started to question how we were ever friends in the first place.

I met my best friend when I was 21 and she was 20. We partied, we bonded we did what 20 year olds do but then we hit our 30s and I matured. I grew and learned and became a grounded, emotionally stable adult.. sadly she stayed at we were when we were in our 20s. She dated toxic men (like screaming in your face, tracking your moves, gaslighting, love bombing - all of it) and I’d comfort her when it crashed and burned and then she’d go back to them and ghost me. That went on for years. I love her dearly but my health and heart couldn’t take the abuse.

Absolutely, it was in middle school. I’ve never fought with anyone outside of my family more than her. She was a bad influence too, I found myself constantly feeling horrible about myself and cursed like a sailor. She would use her problems for pity and attention. Like she once felt the need to tell my math teacher that she got hit in the head once. She eventually left me over text for reasons I still don’t understand til this day. When I saw her in person at school the next day, my other friend told me that she made fun of me for crying. I spent that entire school day in the counselors office. Anyways, she was a blessing and a curse. Her impact made me learn how to not treat my friends, but I’m terrified of becoming like her. I still have dreams about somehow becoming friends with her again, even though she was no good.

In one right now. Maybe not. IDK I would say toxic but. They keep saying how they could kill me but they are like the size and build of Steve Rogers before the super-soldier serum.
You judge. Example convo from 2 Days:
Friend: Minecraft?
Me: Can't going out to eat with family
Friend: ____ You!
Me: Langauge
Friend: That's why I hate you
*Next Day*
Friend: Minecraft?
Me: Ya, after I'm finished reading this book. Should take around an Hour.

she managed to convince me (in kinderkarten) that she was a vampire and that if I wasnt her friend vampire she would suck my blood. this ended up with her lightly harrasing me. luckily I'm over this event now

Basically a one way street situation that I realized over time. also had a track record with other people on the website we met on I ignored. They were fine as long as everything went their way and I didn’t question anything but as soon as I brought my needs into the friendship [that eventually morphed into a very short lived romantic relationship], they started to pull away. I was devastated at first but eventually realized that being in a relationship with someone who expects you to compromise but won’t do the same really sucks.

Yes, many they would always pull these dumb toxic pranks on me, and they would try to guilt trip me with s**t I didn't do. And when one of those bitches found out I wanted to kms she didn't give a f**k she just asked if she could go back and play volleyball, they were just horrible friends there's alot more but I'm already sad so we ain't gon talk bout that

yep. he got mad at me for blocking on social media or something like that (i honestly dont know) so our teacher took us outside in the snow and next period EVERYBODY was talking about how i aparrantly gave him a concussion EvEn ThOuGh I nEvEr ToUcHeD hIm let alone get close to him. the next day he came in perfect not a bruise on him.