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35 Times A Friend Did One Thing So Disturbing It Changed How People Saw Them Forever

35 Times A Friend Did One Thing So Disturbing It Changed How People Saw Them Forever

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Friendships usually start with good vibes, laughs, and the belief that you’ve figured someone out early on. At first, everything feels simple because this person is funny, that one is reliable, and they're definitely one of the good ones. However, people are a lot more complicated than first impressions suggest, and sometimes it takes just one unexpected detail to completely flip how you see someone.
When someone asked netizens to share what they learned about a friend that suddenly made them despise them, they didn’t hold back. From hidden double lives to jaw-dropping confessions and unexpected betrayals, these revelations left people seeing their friends in a whole new light, and not in a good way.
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#21

Scratches and damage on the white bumper of a car, representing disturbing things about friends.
I had a friend who liked to key cars and told me.

F**k that b***h.
11points

#22

He's rude to waiters/waitresses/bartenders. Nope, you're an a*s.
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11points

#23

A woman looks suspiciously at a man engrossed in his phone, representing disturbing things people learn about friends and seeing them differently.
I have a lot of guy friends (I am a girl) who kind of just see me as one of the guys most of the time. A lot of them have girlfriends that they treat well, but I have noticed when their girlfriends aren't around, they are much more s****l and even a little sexist. I assume this is how most guys are when it is just them, but one guy in particular is an absolute pig and is extremely derogatory about women. The crazy thing is that he is the nicest guy when his girlfriend is around and treats her like a princess. This, combined with his superiority complex and the fact that he is racist, makes me want to **KICK** him in the balls every time I see him.
10points

#24

Recently found out a friend actually hit his girlfriend. There is no way to look at someone the same way after that.
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10points

#25

A man sitting on a couch with his head in his hand, looking disturbed, after learning things about his friends.
Once i had a friend named Ashley; two of my friends dated her. She kept telling her boyfriend at the time (my friend Jon) that she had to go out of town on business trips. He would take her and drop her off and pick her up from the airport like any good man would do for his girl. After months of this routine, another mutual friend of ours joined a website called sugardaddies.com and was looking for a chick to get with on there. Turned out that Ashley was on the website, the so called business trips turned out to be trips out of town to sell herself for money and gifts; while dating my friend the whole time! I have never spoken to her after finding this out, it disgusted me and wrecked my good friend for a long time.
9points

#26

Friends enjoying a backyard BBQ, some holding plates of food, representing disturbing things people learn about friends.
Was hanging out on my friend's patio for a bbq, and one of my friends drove there. He kept drinking more and more, but still insisted on driving home because "it's ok if I go really slow". Made me angry, especially since we live in a huge city where cabs/public transportation are so accessible.
9points

#27

Hands cutting a paper with the word DEBT, representing disturbing things people learned about their friends.
That he runs a scam wherein he intentionally goes into debt with creditors, thus prompting them to try to contact him via auto-dial without his express consent (an obscurely illegal practice), so he could engage his sheister lawyer to sue them. He has literally amassed hundreds of thousands of dollars doing this. I've seen the checks. It's despicable, and yet he's immensely proud of the way he's "beat the system". To me, it's nothing more than legal extortion.
9points

#28

A smiling woman hands a curbside pickup bag to a customer in a car, representing disturbing things people learn about friends.
My girlfriend's best friend's boyfriend (whew!) seemed like an alright dude. He was pretty funny, and although he could get obnoxious at times he was pleasant to be around.

That is until one day at the drive thru he unexpectedly throws a stink b**b (glass capsule) at the employee at the window, and floored it while laughing as if something funny had just happened.

Seriously f**k him.
8points

#29

Hands holding a heart in bisexual pride flag colors, symbolizing disturbing things people learn about friends.
My best friend throughout college thought my bisexuality was a choice. That I was saying I was attracted to other guys just for attention.

Because you know...there are all those dudes that f**k other dudes just for attention...
8points

#30

Two young people looking at a phone with disturbed expressions, showing things people learned about their friends.
That he was the one my ex was cheating with.
7points

#31

I had this friend for a while who would constantly cheat on his girlfriends. That, I figured, was not any of my concern. Not like we were dating. However, this one night at a party he drunkenly forced himself onto one of my good friends and tried to r**e her... I pretty much stopped trying to stay in contact after that and we naturally grew apart.

Edit: While I do agree with all who replied saying I should've done something, the best I could do at the time was support her and upon her request, keep it to myself. She asked me to comfort her, not avenge her. But I forgot to mention that bit. Whether that makes up for anything, I don't care. I did my bit by comforting the girl. Her boyfriend did his bit confronting my "friend". I guess more details would've cleared this up a bit.
7points

#32

A group of diverse friends laughing and walking outdoors, contrasting with disturbing things people learn about friends.
Friends cheating on their significant others. But, this is something where expectations are *everything*. Of my friends there are a few that you would expect to find cheating on their girlfriends or boyfriends. I think everyone has one or two of those in their group of friends; people who you just accept as being a bad boyfriend or girlfriend.

It's when one of the other, more trustworthy friends does something stupid in their relationship that it affects the friendship. It seems a little unfair to hold them to higher standards, so I hope I'm not the only person who does this.
7points

#33

A man with his head in his hands at a bar, a disturbing scene people learned about their friends.
Guy I know. Married once, wife cheated on him early on and they get divorced. A few years pass, he's married again and he's very successful in life, runs a company, has big house, nice cars all the good things. Except his second wife has become a total b***h. He develops a drinking problem, because in addition to being a total b***h and a raging alcoholic herself, she's she's cut him off s******y because they already have kids. Then of course come to find out she's cheating on him. After years of grief with his own drinking, family help and rehab, he sobers up and divorces her. An old flame, the one that got away 30 years ago, comes back into his life and they get married. All seems well and good and he's finally happy. Hooray for them!

A few years later he starts drinking again and he starts cheating on his wife. Claims she's not an "equal partner" because he's rich and successful and she's just a school teacher. A*****e is now divorced again.

The saddest part of that though, is that guy is my brother. The old flame was a family friend and my sister's BFF.
6points

#34

Two women arguing on a couch, showing disturbing things people learned about their friends.
I was in a series of long-ish term relationships before moving to a large city, where I was then single for four years. Because of the nature of dating, my "number" shot up tremendously in that time. A friend of mine was in a six-year relationship when I had a test result come back positive for HepB. While I was waiting for the results to come back, she made an off-handed comment to me (during a party, in front of people) which was, "Well, that's what you get." I was absolutely floored. Not long after, I even went as far as to break down for her that dating someone for two or three months, sleeping with them, and then breaking it off can realistically happen three or four times a year, and your "number" goes up shockingly fast while still dating responsibly (IMHO).

Not only were my dating habits NOT a string on one night stands and people who I barely knew, but it turns out that my tests came back positive because I had HepB antibodies. I likely had a vaccination for it when I was younger, and this doctor didn't have access to my pediatric records, so they wouldn't have known that. It had nothing to do with my s****l history.

My vindication came when my friend's fiance broke up with her because she's a spoiled little priss pants, and she slept with at least 10 guys in the first year she was single. Ha.
5points

#35

A long time friend taking potshots in the comment section of an editorial about someone new who had moved to town and was asking questions about some things concerning city government. The friend make the comment, "Go back to..." where they originally come from. This friend was also from out of state. She was just nasty in her comments. That ended the friendship for me.
3points

#36

A woman cringing and covering her ears while a man yells angrily in the background, showing disturbing things friends learn.
Spousal a***e is a quick way to get unfriended in my books. I don't want to associate with anyone who can't take a punch.
2points
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