Marriage is a big step in any relationship. After all, committing to spending the rest of your life with someone isn’t a decision most people take lightly. That’s why couples spend plenty of time getting to know each other before tying the knot. From going on dates and meeting each other’s families to moving in together and getting engaged, there are usually quite a few milestones along the way.
But even after all that, there’s no guarantee you know absolutely everything about your partner. Redditors asked fellow users to share what they only found out about their spouses after saying “I do,” and there was no shortage of answers. From hilarious to heartbreaking, we’ve rounded up some of the most interesting ones. Scroll down to read them!
#41
That he has an infuriating habit of throwing things away that shouldn't be thrown away.
He is an extremely clean person, and I love that about him, but he takes it overboard.
For example, we will have a half a tub of butter, and see another tub at the store that's on sale for a decent price, so we will buy the butter that's on sale. Well, instead of using up the half tub of butter at home, he will just throw it away and open the new one. He does this not just with butter, but with every single food item you can think of.
He also throws away things that in my opinion are very important, but in his opinion are causing clutter, which he gets super anxious about. He has thrown away a dvd collection, our lease, brand new clothes that myself or my kids haven't worn yet and so in his mind never get worn, blankets, towels, shoes, ect.
I tried to set up a box for him to throw everything into instead of the garbage so that way I can pull things out that I actually want, and then donate the other things to charity, but that didn't last long. He literally threw the box away because it was in the way.
Also learned when we got a dog that he is terrified to scold the dog for any reason, or raise his voice around it, because he's convinced the dog won't like him if he does those things, and that thought is devastating to him.
Unfortunately my husband is probably the sweetest, kindest person you could ever hope to meet so it makes it really hard to stay angry at him for any reason.
Tl;Dr: Throws away things that are still useful, let's the dog do whatever he wants.
He is an extremely clean person, and I love that about him, but he takes it overboard.
For example, we will have a half a tub of butter, and see another tub at the store that's on sale for a decent price, so we will buy the butter that's on sale. Well, instead of using up the half tub of butter at home, he will just throw it away and open the new one. He does this not just with butter, but with every single food item you can think of.
He also throws away things that in my opinion are very important, but in his opinion are causing clutter, which he gets super anxious about. He has thrown away a dvd collection, our lease, brand new clothes that myself or my kids haven't worn yet and so in his mind never get worn, blankets, towels, shoes, ect.
I tried to set up a box for him to throw everything into instead of the garbage so that way I can pull things out that I actually want, and then donate the other things to charity, but that didn't last long. He literally threw the box away because it was in the way.
Also learned when we got a dog that he is terrified to scold the dog for any reason, or raise his voice around it, because he's convinced the dog won't like him if he does those things, and that thought is devastating to him.
Unfortunately my husband is probably the sweetest, kindest person you could ever hope to meet so it makes it really hard to stay angry at him for any reason.
Tl;Dr: Throws away things that are still useful, let's the dog do whatever he wants.
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#42
My grandpa told my grandma he was italian. They got married while she was pregnant and she had not met his family yet. When they did go to meet his parents they were talking in Ojibwe (a native american language) and she looked at him and said "Thats not italian. What are they speaking?" and thats how my grandma found out she was married to an Indian not an Italian.
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#43
That he had been a virgin when we met. Seriously, I couldn't even tell. Dude has some serious skill.
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#44
When the weather is dry, we both get static shock every now and then when we touch each other.
3points
#45
I learned on our honeymoon he opens bottles using his ring finger and palm, not thumb and forefinger. I never noticed this and had no idea everyone didn't open bottles the way I do. Once I got a ring on him he suddenly couldn't open bottles because the ring got in the way.
3points
#46
That he was REALLY awful to his only other long-term gf. The more time went on and I heard more stories the worse I felt for this poor girl. I eventually asked him to find her and apologize.
3points
#47
She's still great, but I didn't realize how poorly she had been parented. Not like her parents were hurting her or mean, they're great in-laws and people. They just didn't do the job of preparing their children to be adults.
Her mom was the type that compulsively took care of everything, and her dad wasn't super involved (probably to avoid fighting with the mom). They did a good job with character and temperament though, which I appreciate. Adulthood just hit my wife like a freight train, and what it is was completely alien to her. An extra 4 years of college, made it worse by her being even older when she first experienced it. It's been hard for her, but she's further along than both her older siblings at least. Her brother is like 38 and still doing laundry at home, and her sister got a tech job that prints money and is so coddled by her husband she's basically never had to become an adult.
It seems to be a fairly common problem with my generation. Fortunately, I was raised poor enough my mom didn't have a choice, so my sister and I were both pretty independent at a young age and really haven't seen anything we weren't prepared for by experience. Most importantly, we can handle pressure and don't fall apart at the slightest setback.
Her mom was the type that compulsively took care of everything, and her dad wasn't super involved (probably to avoid fighting with the mom). They did a good job with character and temperament though, which I appreciate. Adulthood just hit my wife like a freight train, and what it is was completely alien to her. An extra 4 years of college, made it worse by her being even older when she first experienced it. It's been hard for her, but she's further along than both her older siblings at least. Her brother is like 38 and still doing laundry at home, and her sister got a tech job that prints money and is so coddled by her husband she's basically never had to become an adult.
It seems to be a fairly common problem with my generation. Fortunately, I was raised poor enough my mom didn't have a choice, so my sister and I were both pretty independent at a young age and really haven't seen anything we weren't prepared for by experience. Most importantly, we can handle pressure and don't fall apart at the slightest setback.
3points
#48
That once we were married every card I would receive would have WIFE or DAUGHTER-IN-LAW or SISTER-IN-LAW printed on it in massive letters as his family love to buy cards that clearly designate your relationship. Nearly 20 years and never had one that just had a picture or cartoon, always cards that have your position in the family in very big letters.
3points
#49
Food garbage goes in the freezer until garbage day. So my freezer is like 1/3 full of freezer bags of strawberry tops, apple cores, banana peels, green pepper centers, etc…….
HER “It doesn’t smell this way”
ME “then put it in the garbage can outside!! You know, where it’s going to go anyway”!!!!!
HER “It doesn’t smell this way”
ME “then put it in the garbage can outside!! You know, where it’s going to go anyway”!!!!!
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#50
That she never actually loved me just used me to pay for things so she didn’t have to work.
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#52
Her parents ruined her credit buying Christmas gifts with her credit. They maxed everything out and never paid for anything.
Then when she confronted them, they told her she accepted the Christmas presents. As if committing identity theft was somehow her fault.
So there I was with a newborn on the way married into a family that literally victimized their daughter and gave her next to zero financial education.
She bought a car at 30% interest, she had credit so bad we couldn’t rent. She took a payday loan to buy a dog, that she ended up pawning off on her parents. She had pet ferrets she didn’t take care of either.
Smfh… red flags everywhere. But I was already invested in a sinking ship.
She ended up getting a pretty good inheritance several years later. Which instead of buying a house, she used to divorce me, travel, party, and not work for several years.
So I’m a little bitter, especially because she feels entitled to child support from me, after financially supporting her, our kids, and paying down her student debt for years.
I had no idea who I was marrying, or sleeping with. I had every opportunity to put on the brakes, and chose to pour the beers.
Lesson: take your time getting to know someone, and their family well before moving forward with them, it can very severely impact your life and others too.
Then when she confronted them, they told her she accepted the Christmas presents. As if committing identity theft was somehow her fault.
So there I was with a newborn on the way married into a family that literally victimized their daughter and gave her next to zero financial education.
She bought a car at 30% interest, she had credit so bad we couldn’t rent. She took a payday loan to buy a dog, that she ended up pawning off on her parents. She had pet ferrets she didn’t take care of either.
Smfh… red flags everywhere. But I was already invested in a sinking ship.
She ended up getting a pretty good inheritance several years later. Which instead of buying a house, she used to divorce me, travel, party, and not work for several years.
So I’m a little bitter, especially because she feels entitled to child support from me, after financially supporting her, our kids, and paying down her student debt for years.
I had no idea who I was marrying, or sleeping with. I had every opportunity to put on the brakes, and chose to pour the beers.
Lesson: take your time getting to know someone, and their family well before moving forward with them, it can very severely impact your life and others too.
3points
#53
Found out my ex-husband picked his nose and wiped it under the couch.
3points
#54
She enjoys pineapple on pizza...
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#56
I thought I was the disorganized, messy one. I was not the disorganized, messy one.
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#57
She had two other kids, that she'd abandoned. After my youngest (with her) was just over one year old, we didn't see her for almost ten years.
I have custody, FYI.
I have custody, FYI.
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#58
That he supported his buddy's family financially while his buddy spent a year in federal prison, not "England" as everyone else was told. My husband kept his buddy's employement open by doing his buddy's job as well as his own job during that year.
Edit: thought of another one. We were married about three years before I found out he had once given his cousin a stack of signed, blank checks because she was a single mom and struggling to pay her bills.
Edit: thought of another one. We were married about three years before I found out he had once given his cousin a stack of signed, blank checks because she was a single mom and struggling to pay her bills.
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#59
He's literally never cleaned a thing in his life. No idea how to vacuum, clean a toilet or a shower.. it was interesting.
He's much better now.
He's much better now.
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#60
That rice crispy treats are his favorite "baked" good. He had never so much as mentioned them before to me.
Two years married and suddenly- this bombshell! Out of the blue!
But seriously: after we got married I realized that he wasn't as calm as he seemed.
He can actually get very anxious (like a normal human being) and if he doesn't do something active for a few days (work out, run, etc) he gets hyper like a 3 year old on a sugar high- manic, can't sit still, loud singing....
It's quite something to behold.
Two years married and suddenly- this bombshell! Out of the blue!
But seriously: after we got married I realized that he wasn't as calm as he seemed.
He can actually get very anxious (like a normal human being) and if he doesn't do something active for a few days (work out, run, etc) he gets hyper like a 3 year old on a sugar high- manic, can't sit still, loud singing....
It's quite something to behold.
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3points