"Bankruptcy Hell": 80 People Share The Moment They Knew Their Marriage Was Beyond Repair

Alcoholic, cheated and got a woman pregnant 8 months into our “marriage “🫩.

Had an accident cleaning the yard while she was eating lunch. I broke my leg, almost kicked the bucket and needed emergency surgery. She went with me in the ambulance reluctantly but left me alone in emergency after an hour because she was hungry. Went home and went to work the next day though I got a text in the morning to ask how I was doing. Nothing says the relationship is over like being left alone in the hospital.

Resentment that I couldn’t get over. They couldn’t manage finances, meal planning/ cooking, chores, provide health insurance, pay for their own car insurance or taxes, didn’t plan or pay for any vacations. I got burnt out with a ton of resentment.

Contemplated divorce for about a year when my confusion and anger turned to defeated apathy.
Woke up with dreary dread every morning and was at a loss as my wife had become a totally different person….
She was diagnosed with an underlying medical condition that explained everything….and things improved slowly and then rapidly as treatment progressed. Thank god we held it together….i almost lost then regained my best friend.

This may not help anyone but if it helps one couple out of the abyss then it was worth the discomfort of even thinking back on those days….

Weaponized ignorance, I noticed it the first month.

Unfortunately I’m in the first camp of case 2. Once I became disabled I was a burden he wasn’t willing to carry, even though he promised he would. It’s heartbreaking.

Took my pay check and transferred it to an account I wasn’t on. When I put an end to that, he stopped paying the bills which suddenly were all put in my name! God I just don’t miss that man!

Friend of mine had a seemingly happy, active marriage. No problem with romance or intimate life, or so she thought. Her husband was a teacher at a local community college. One day he comes home and goes "I want an open marriage." She's a little surprised but agrees. He goes "Great, I've been dating one of my students."
He'd been cheating on her with a 19 year old student of his. Two weeks later, without talking to her about it ahead of time, he moves the 19 year old into their house. She put up with this for about a year I believe, shockingly enough, and then she finally tells him she wants a divorce.
Him and his student-girlfriend pack up and leave in the middle of the night. It took her and her lawyers and the police THREE YEARS to find out where the guy had gone-- several states over, using his middle name as a psuedonym for his first name.

Her control and anger issues became unmanageable. She was actively unpleasant to be around.

I thought it was her fault, blamed her… But 10 years later I realized it was all 100% my fault and I absolutely deserved it for being a selfish inconsiderate jerk… My fault. Learned the lesson. Got married again… #2 and final marriage : Going great with God’s blessings, mercy and grace and our

I started realizing he didn't really like me, so it would've ended without the catastrophe that came shortly after. 

But then he cheated on me, and I was an idiot and was like let's try to work it out. Then he wrote an r/relationships post that was mostly about how sad he was about the idea of me leaving and it ended with "what do?". 

Then he confessed to me that he talked to her again within like a week of the initial confession and I finally remembered I was born with a spine. .

Ex wife has an emotional affair that lasted 6 months. I found out about it and saw all the pictures and videos along with 6 months of communication . I decided that I would try to give the marriage acsr second chance we have two kids. In any case what finally did me on was that she broke every boundary I set so that we can build a new foundation. Not fully divorced but she has been making it a living nightmare.

Not me but my stepdaughter caught him cheating she threw his phone at him (didn’t hit him) and he had her arrested. That did after 24 years of marriage.

Financial betrayal. He was generally a nice guy, the type that everyone loved. He was nice to me too. And he lied about alot of things that he didn't need to lie about. During the divorce process, he was not the same person I married. Total 180 degree personality shift.

We grew apart. So far that any intimacy or communication ceased. I'm not the emotional type, but there was an argument at dinner one day. I went and cried in bed. She came in like 20 minutes later and touched my back trying to console me, and it felt like my soul left my body. I stopped crying immediately and told her I was done.

He was incredibly emotionally unavailable. At one point, I told him, “I need you to go therapy and try. I can’t keep doing this and this is my line in the sand. I don’t think I can stay in this marriage if you can’t try and work through some of these issues.” He told me he wouldn’t do it.

We tried for about three or four more months, but never really recovered from his unwillingness to do something that I understand was uncomfortable but not a huge sacrifice. I ended up moving into another bedroom because I was tired of feeling alone sleeping next to someone and he didn’t seem to care. Things were done pretty quickly after that.

Lack of emotional connection. I realized he wasn’t capable of the depth I craved. We had a fairly amicable divorce and coparent well.

His undiagnosed PTSD that he treated with alcoholism.

My postpartum anxiety that honestly made me a mean person and later my expectations to have a partner in the marriage.

The friend he told me not to worry about that is now his wife.

It wasn’t one thing but it all kind of caught up to us and spiraled in about a year.

We realized it couldn’t be fixed when we had a fight and he got physical.

He was an alcoholic who did not keep up with the treatment of his mental illness (which I did not know he had until we got married). He also didn’t want a wife. He wanted a mommy who would pay for everything and do everything for him, but he also expected intimacy when he didn’t lift a finger. We planned to have kids within the first two years of marriage but I kept pushing it back and glad I did. The divorce was the best thing I ever did. I am now married to a wonderful man who pulls his weight. I am now pregnant and excited to have kids when I was not sure with my ex.

When I went over seas for a business trip and she didn't once contact me to see how I was going. Yes, I contacted her. When I got home the coldness was clear. That's when I decided I was done after 18 years. My life has so much more peace in it now, and I'm not walking on egg shells in my own home.