If you want the most out of him, then dare a man to be a man!!
The man you had or you thought you had is no longer there so you need to move on.
The woman on the side was never designed to replace the main woman. She was created to fill in or patch up the “shortcoming” his boo/girlfriend/fiancé’/wife may have had. Most men construct this position when there is a lack of sex or affection and/or when their appetite is greater than the meal currently being served. As his other woman, you possess the generosity and tender care he desires so he is truly attracted to your willingness to give. Meaning, as long as you provide, he’ll always remain interested and engrossed by you. Suddenly you will find yourself sharing deep conversations of tomorrows (always after sex usually) and you will almost receive a feelings that you are together because he will call/text/be around so much.
The truth #1: Your only purpose is to balance and take his mind away for the woman he needs to deal with at home and you will always be expendable. If she leaves, your job is no longer required so he’ll lay you off and not even mail you your last check.
Here’s the true philosophy behind our stupidity and ignorance: He “loves” his girl but can’t handle the truth of her womanhood. As much as he complains and grumbles about her attitude and demeanor, he knows she’s enough woman to last forever with. Fact remains, at times, men are like spoiled children who complain about not getting enough toys when they hardly even played with the ones they got. He uses you (the other woman) when she doesn’t say yes. He calls you when she refuses to bend. He texts you when she doesn’t give it up. That’s the reason for you being around. You make up for her refusing to indulge in his nonsense. She expects more from him but you are willing to accept his crumbs.
The truth #2: He will never be with you because you tolerated his idiocy. Hypocritical aint it lol??!! But sadly, it’s true. Men are historical conquerors who desire to chase and earn his possession because it holds a place of value, esteem, respect and position. A easy prey is a worthless feast. He kept you because it was beautiful to receive the needed attention from someone without the constant hassle but now that she’s gone, your image is ugly because you allowed yourself to be his fool.
Men love woman who respect themselves but yet in still, they urge the differ. It’s a war of the flesh versus the spirit. The righteous versus the unrighteous. The love versus the lust. Hold no honor and comfort in being the she who destroys and intervenes relationships. If you truly care for and love him, then you would motivate him to stay faithful if he attempts to cheat on a woman. If you truly care and love him, then you would inform him that second place is no option in the residence of your heart. You deserve more than a drive by serving of affection when you can receive a home cooked meal from someone monogamous and sensually interested in you. You are owed a real man, one who values your self-respect and dreads breaking your heart with his foolishly actions of greed.
Allow that man to find himself and grow up. He hasn’t yet understood and discovered the power and divinity in a real woman and just maybe this situation was his catalyst.
Hope this helped in some way. In love, we must learn to protect and shelter our heart from the unnecessary pitfalls of lust. Sometimes the wrong situation can strip you of your innocence and leave you a helpless victim. Many of us turn cold after being made someone’s fool. Take the time to define your love. Settle for nothing less than the best. Establish guidelines for entry into your heart because everyone doesn’t have your best interest at hand. Be careful on how you expose and portray yourself. Be a love than man has to earn.
