Blurting out something negative or insulting during a date can be a major faux pas and can cause significant damage to your potential relationship. But not everyone can avoid it.
So when Reddit user Batmanstitty posted a question on the platform a few days ago, asking everyone "what's the worst thing a person has said to you while on a date?", many came forward with pretty memorable and ridiculous statements.
No wonder 67% of Americans who are on the market say their romantic endeavors aren't going well!
#1
It was all going really well until she saw a group of people with various disabilities when we were going for a walk and proceeded to tell me how, while she had nothing against the disabled, they made her physically ill because of how "messed up" they are and she wished there were limits on how much they could be out in public.
I told her, as a person with an invisible disability of my own, that she made.my skin crawl and that she should be limited on how much she can be in public.
There was obviously no second date.
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#2
We were about the same height and he said I could never wear heels around him. Little did he know, I can do what the f**k I want.
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We managed to get in touch with Batmanstitty and they agreed to have a little chat with us.
"I have thought about this question before," the Redditor told Bored Panda about the origins of their post. "[I was] wondering if people have had bad experiences like myself while dating, and it definitely blew my mind to see the response I got from everybody."
"The stories are honestly insane to read and to know people actually dealt with weird, scary, and mind-blowing dates," they added.
#3
After ordering a really expensive meal and drink, after I had offered to buy dinner. Plate: 50 dollars. Drink: 25. Like holy s**t. I will admit I went with it until:
“I want to date someone like you but not you, I was going to tell you earlier but I was hungry” then she went and made plans with another dude for after our meal.
I went to the bathroom and then snuck out when our food was brought. I dunno how she paid for that because I ordered something equally as expensive.
I know you cant force attraction, but f**k you b***h.
I blocked her as I left.
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#4
“If we do this long term, I’m gonna call the shots, you won’t work, you’ll stay home and raise the kids, you won’t be allowed to leave the house and only have friends over that I approve of, you’ll have life 360 on your phone with me being the only one to access it, and we’ll sell your car too so you have money to buy the heels I want you to wear and the makeup you’ll wear everyday” so I took a hard pass
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After going through the replies, the Redditor noticed a trend that many stories were by people who dabble in online dating, using apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc.
That might be due to the way people look at these services. A whopping 43% of men say they are using the apps to casually date (while 42% are downloading them to find a long-term partner).
Alternatively, 48% of women say they are using dating apps to find long-term partners and 37% use them to date casually.
#5
“You know that cancer is a hoax perpetuated by big pharma and the government preying on the uneducated, right!?!?” He says to me, a cancer survivor who’s life was f*****g derailed by cancer…
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#6
‘You don’t want any more kids? Don’t worry, I’ll change your mind and you’ll enjoy carrying my child.’
There was no second date and I ended up having to block him everywhere.
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Women are also more likely to see risk – both physical and emotional – when it comes to dating; when those who say dating has become harder for most people in the last 10 years were asked to describe in their own words why they think this is the case, women are twice as likely as men to cite increased risk.
For their part, men are more likely than women to say technology is a reason dating has gotten harder. Overall, 47% of Americans say dating is now harder than it was 10 years ago, and this thread illustrates it pretty well.
#7
"What are you, a F****t?"
Because I declined to sleep with her on the first date... I don't sleep around, it's not for me. All power to you if that's something you enjoy, but don't pressure someone into it by questioning their sexual orientation. I also don't find it particularly attractive to be calling people slurs because you didn't get your way.
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#8
"I was reading about plus size models today. What do you think about plus size models considering you're a bigger girl?"
I am 5'4" and 125 lbs. He was not being sarcastic. Dude had the most warped sense of body image I've ever encountered. Joke's on him though because his head was shaped like a lightbulb.
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#9
“Stop pulling away when I try to kiss you because people are looking and it makes me seem rapey”
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#10
wistfully after 2 wines... "God, you are so amazing, such a shame you look like that."
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#11
"So, aren't you going to invite me to your place? I bought you lunch. You kind of owe me." from a guy I met ONCE and had breath so bad I am surprised it didn't melt the fork.
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#12
First date, I order a mocktail and he says, “I’m not going to pay for your drinks unless there’s alcohol in them.”
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#13
- asked me the worst crime I’d commit if I would get away with it. I said steal a few million from a bank. They said they’d “dahmer” someone
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#14
"I don't mind that you're... you know." *waves hand vaguely at my body*
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#15
We had a fun night having a personal date and then we pull up to his house for his birthday party, where I’m about to meet his family for the first time. He turns to me and says, “Oh btw my parents don’t like Mexicans.”
I am Mexican.
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#16
It wasn't what was said, but what was not said, because her face was buried in her phone screen the whole evening. She was shocked when I told her that we would not be going out again.
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#17
Not exactly a date, but at a dance when I was a teenager I sat down for a breather after I'd been dancing for a long time. Right then a slow song started and a couple girls came up, one of them introduced me to her friend and asked me to dance with her because nobody had asked her to dance yet. I felt really bad for her and said heck yeah, everybody deserves to dance. She spent the whole time talking about how I'm such a piece of garbage for sitting down when there are girls like her who haven't been asked to dance. I kept trying to change the subject, she just ignored me and kept trash talking me, so I walked away mid-dance.
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#18
He asked me how frequently I would want sex if I were in my ideal relationship. I said 2-3x a week. He told me that means I'm a sex addict and that sex more often than once a month isn't really required for intimacy or connection between partners.
(Hey, if that's his level of drive, cool.... but no need to shame someone for having a higher drive than yours.)
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#19
Her phone rang. She answered it. I expected it was a friend calling to see if she wanted to be saved.
She got concerned and hung up and said “that was my ex. He got arrested. Can you bring me to the police station?”
So I did. I even helped them fill out some paperwork so he could get released. I took them to his car and she looked at me. I laughed and said “The date was over hours ago. Go” and she got out and they drove away.
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#20
Your job is to sit there and look pretty.
(After I shared an opinion about something)
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