“She Really Outdid Herself”: 47 MILs Who Took It Too Far This April

It is beyond exhausting to watch my former mother-in-law essentially "marry" her son (my ex-husband) to keep him from hitting rock bottom.

After 15 years of marriage and three children together, I watched her bail him out of every responsibility, including our divorce. The level of betrayal is staggering.

Last year, she finally admitted that she had known about—and supported—his nine-year affair with a coworker the entire time. She kept his secret while I was still his wife, and now she continues to ignore his blatant [illegal substances] use just to keep him under her roof.

She has created a relationship so enmeshed that it’s visible to everyone. When he was recently on life support in the hospital, she repeatedly introduced herself to multiple doctors and nurses as his wife instead of his mother. She even claims she can’t go to sleep until he tucks both her and the dog in and kisses them goodnight.

In public, the behavior is just as jarring. She exclusively refers to him as "babe" or "honey," and even refers to him as "daddy" when telling stories. The intimacy between them is so couple-like that it makes everyone uncomfortable; the ongoing joke among those who know them is that they are married in every way except for the physical component.

This dynamic is a complete barrier to his sobriety. He isn’t focused on being a father to his kids because he’s too busy being a surrogate husband to his own mother. I’m trying to move on, but the sheer toxicity of this relationship is a constant drain on my mental health.

So for the record, I know I have a DH problem. I talked to a lawyer and will be filing for separation and/or divorce. Just want to be super duper clear about that. But I still held out some hope until this weekend. Now I'm like gtho. I don't want to breathe the same air. This is more of a vent. Cause I feel crazy. And no, I'm not leaving my dh just because of his mom. There are a lot of other issues.

His mother. Oh his mother. His mother has been a consistent problem in our marriage. Always looking down her nose, judgey, just general nosiness and a stick in the mud. I was already on the edge of divorce but dang. She really outdid herself this weekend.

I hope to keep FIL (i know i won't but dude, he and I ended up going for a drive to get away from her crazy making behavior).

So over time, she's done the usual asking about grandchildren, having an opinion on everything, [attitude] about my parents (they do deserve it, I will be honest), passive aggressiveness with me, etc. But what really set the tone? In 2018 i bought a house alone because she decided she didn't want to be off her son's bank accounts (he lied about this numerous times) and would spy and see what he was spending his money on.

He wasn't allowed to share finances with me. She also took control over my phone without my knowledge (dh transferred it) and it kept popping up as fil's name even though I'm an executive and it was embarrassing. MIL wouldnt take her husbands last name so the hypocrisy is bad. But she insisted on knowing on what was going on with her baby boys equity. I said nothing. He decided to not pay bills and be financially married to you so he doesn't get [anything]. Well, according to her thats not how marriage works or divorce... so... yeah.

Anyways this weekend was FIL's birthday. She wouldn't let him have a beer (no medical reason not to and he wasnt driving), wouldnt let him have nachos, was found lurking and snooping in my office, made comments about my weight constantly, and the usual [nasty] comments. The cherry on top? She started demanding a key to my house. My house!

She lives 5 hours away and doesn't drive. She doesn't need it. And my dh was looking to give it to her. I piped up and said no. There are two ways to get into our house if we ever needed to. She has no reason to need a key, especially since she lives 5 hours away and doesn't drive. It doesn't make sense.

Oh man did she pout. At that point, she decided to take over my kitchen and I wasnt allowed to cook or make myself a sandwich. She just stood in the way. She then wouldnt let anyone get spoons to enjoy desert. She held my kitchen island hostage. I just cant imagine going into someone's house and getting mad that they wont give me a key and then taking over their kitchen to just be a [jerk].

I tore my husband a new one and told him I was done with his mother's trophy behavior. She's not allowed to come over anymore. She does not get to put a flag down in my house. My house that i bought alone because he's too busy being married to his mother. I know he's enmeshed. I know she's selfish. But geez, let your husband have some nachos and a beer. He's 72.

DH now wants an emergency couples counseling session. I'm not interested. I told him to go marry his mom. Counting the days until this isn't my problem anymore. As I told him, him immediately going and hunting for key without talking to me and bending to mommy was it for me.

My MIL lives out of state and tends to fly in for long visits. I told her when I was 25 weeks pregnant that the maximum amount she could stay during this post partum period is 10 days. We agreed on the arrival date and the departure. That’s still crazy long to me. Little did I know, she went ahead and planned 17 days and only told DH. Her departure date was way after we agreed.

Anyway, I had to have an emergency c-section so she flew in even earlier by 9 days. In all, she’s been here 9 days. Done. She’s had her time right? Wrong!!!! When I found out she had secretly booked a week later for leaving, I asked her to change her flight to leave ASAP so I could find my normalcy and routine in the time we agreed on before.

I am having trouble feeding and bonding and resting with the baby while she’s here, so I told her that it would be best if she left, and I reminded her that she came early and had already seen the baby for 9 extra days. The situation changed. Adjustments are needed.

So she changed her flight. Instead of now, it’s in a week. She just moved the departure date back to original date. I told her to leave. Nicely as possible. Instead, she just made the flight a little earlier, but not earlier at all because it’s the original departure date.

I CANNOT do another week. I asked her to leave! I also told her something and she did something else. She is planning on staying until it’s been a full month of my baby’s life. She ruining the whole experience, I set the boundary twice now. How do I get this woman out of my house? She won’t listen to DH either. What do I do now??

I knew before we even started TTC that boundaries were going to have to be drawn hard and fast with JNMIL when it came to her first grandchild, my current 8-week fetus.

My husband and I announced to his parents over the weekend. We were going to wait several more weeks but I've been so sick and hiding it just became too much pressure and felt like it was making things worse for me physically.

I'm due in mid November and JNMIL got very excited about the idea of having a baby around for Thanksgiving. I immediately said "Just a warning, we're going to do Thanksgiving alone this year because of germs, flu season, and the baby being so new" and she immediately snapped "Well when we brought [DH] home we had all four of our parents come over and our neighbors. We had 5 or 6 people come over and he was fine."

DH stepped in and said we're going to do what we're comfortable with. Thankfully, my FIL assured us they will respect our boundaries when it comes to visits. However, right after that nice reassurance, JNMIL followed up with "Well you are going to let us visit in the hospital, aren't you?" Didn't think the misery of the nausea could be topped, but here we are.

We’ve been NC with my MIL for a while now. We don’t talk about her publicly, don’t badmouth her to family, don’t engage. What we do is quietly check her socials every so often, because she has a history of posting photos of our kids and talking about our family online. When we find something, we report it to Facebook and move on. No confrontation.

So when my husband was working on rebuilding things with his dad, FIL casually mentioned she’d joined estranged parent groups, we both cringed. We made a burner and joined a few just to check, same reason as always.

She was posting photos of us and our kids. That part we expected. What we didn’t expect was the rest of it. Completely fabricated stories about me and her own son. Genuinely evil stuff. And then she shared details about [harassment] my husband survived, deeply personal stuff he hasn’t told his closest friends, with strangers on the internet. For sympathy. And they ate it up.

We didn’t engage. Screenshotted everything, documented it, and reported the photos of our kids.

Fast forward to a phone call with FIL that was actually going well. As they were wrapping up, FIL asked if my husband wanted to say hi to MIL. Hard no. FIL pushed a little because it was a pretty abrupt no, so my husband told him why.

You could hear her in the background as FIL was processing it out loud. Flustered. Then suddenly MIL was taking the dogs for a walk… at midnight? (Time difference, it was 9pm for us) FIL apologized and said he’d look into it.

By the end of the weekend her Facebook was gone. Over a decade of weaponized posting, just nuked. She almost certainly got to it before FIL could go looking.

I’m relieved that outlet is gone honestly. But she clearly needs an audience, so I’m not naive enough to think this is over. Just waiting to see where she pops up next, and what FIL actually does with what he now knows.

That midnight dog walk is going to live in my head rent free forever though.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

My MIL asked my husband to confirm my diagnosis / if he actually saw a diagnosis (about my brain tumor) … as some of you guessed you would only need a confirmation if you yourself like to lie about stuff like this…

So since then she had a lot of illnesses, but somehow managed to survive all of them - basically a miracle!!

Let me list some:
- lost practically all of her vision, but regained it the second one of her children came to visit
- went to the doctor with the biggest pain in her teeth, just for them to find nothing and ask her to buy some painkillers (not even prescribe)
- apprtently had some heart pain/ stroke which prompted her to write her children via group chat how much she loves them and had wished to see them one last time -> never got it checked btw
- is verrrrrry depressed (self diagnosed) but somehow managed to turn that into a weapon. So she will write long sobbing paragraph of how depressed she is and end it with: but don’t worry, i am not depressed… no need to pay any attention to me, I might just [vanish].

What irks me the most: my husband doesn’t see how pathetic and manipulative this behavior is. I have relatives with REAL depression and panic attacks. None of them would even have the mental capacity to use their illnesses as a weapon.

He also doesn’t find it strange, that all of her illnesses disappear as soon as someone mentions having her checked out by a doctor…. Not really needing any advice, probably just want to rant…

My MIL lives 2.5 hours away. That didn’t stop her when I was postpartum from visiting 4 times the first week and at least 1-2 times every week after until I finally told my SO I’d had enough. He limited her to once a month (unless there’s a holiday or something) and with advance notice.

With snow and surgeries and such on her end she’s pretty much stuck to it and it’s been pretty glorious. She was here ALLLL of Easter weekend. During those visits, she BRIEFLY mentioned she would be in this weekend to hang out with his brother who lives an hour from us but never said anything about stopping to see us.

Around 2 she calls me, I was in the car with a sick screaming baby so I didn’t answer. SO got home before me and when I walked in the door he said “I told mom not to come since the baby is so sick”
YAY!!!!!!

And lo and behold she never hung out with his brother, just got her hair done by his wife?! Anyway she called AGAIN asking if we wanted dinner “no we already ate”, needed to come pick up her plant “ok it’s outside.”

She begged for him to bring baby out and he stood a firm NO! He went outside and said hello for a minute. She pretended to be interested in my big kids sports and asking when baseball started for my oldest..: he’s doing soccer and it started 3 weeks ago 🤡

I stayed inside with baby who was screaming her head off!

Anyways I’m so proud of my SO! I didn’t even have to say anything and he stood firm on the boundary!!! I did talk a few weeks ago and I told him in postpartum it was really hard on me because I felt he kept choosing his moms feelings over mine and it really hurt, he apologized and said he knew he was wrong and was just trying to balance everything to make everyone happy (his first baby and her first grandchild) and I said I understand as my mom isn’t around so I don’t want to take this experience away from him but the surprise visits and expectations to drop in whenever they want especially when house is a mess and they comment about it just isn’t sustainable.

Now to just conquer Mother’s Day without her trying to make it all about herself, and baby’s first birthday in July!

My MIL is a part of a family location sharing app with my husband and his brother and FIL. I really didn't think much of this, especially when he lived at home.

Now though, we are moved out, fully independent and just trying to live our life. She has been "coincidentally" bumping into him and/or us a few too many times for me to not question it. One time he shared he was just getting his car fixed nearby and she said something like "oh I saw that".

Since we have been taking a little break from her for other ridiculous reasons, these "coincidences" have amped up. I feel like there is definitely some enmeshment going on here in the relationship and with that, my husband is a bit scared of her "reaction" if he turns off the location.

Am I crazy for thinking it shouldn't be a big deal? Like just stop sharing it with the whole family and be like "now that I'm moved out I don't think it's necessary" or say nothing because really why are they checking to begin with. He's almost 30.

I need honest opinions because I’m really conflicted right now. I recently gave birth to a baby girl after a very difficult experience — I was in labor for about 20 hours and ended up having an emergency C-section on April 1st. I’m still recovering and, to make things harder, I haven’t even been able to see or hold my baby yet.

Before she was born, my boyfriend and I had a clear agreement: if we had a girl, her first name would be Marie-Lydie (a compound name) in tribute to my mother. He agreed to this from the beginning. In exchange, he was supposed to choose a second name. During the pregnancy, he mentioned names he liked (like Tems or Kehlani), but nothing was ever finalized.

For context, we live together, and his mother came from our home country to stay with us for 6 months for the birth. While I was in labor, his mother was saying that the baby wasn’t coming because she didn’t like the name Marie-Lydie.

After the birth, I found out that both my boyfriend and his mother started calling the baby “Maya Lydie”. “Maya” is not just a random choice — it’s the name my boyfriend had chosen in the past for a baby he lost in a previous relationship.

Now he says it feels like “an obvious sign” and that our baby strangely resembles that child. I told him I’m open to him choosing a second name as we agreed, but I do not want “Maya”. To me, it’s too connected to his past and also to what his mother said during my labor, which honestly hurt me.

The problem is that his mother is already calling my daughter “Maya Lydie” like it’s decided, and my boyfriend doesn’t seem to be stopping her. I feel disrespected and pushed aside, especially after everything I just went through physically and emotionally. Am I wrong for refusing the name “Maya” and wanting our agreement (Marie-Lydie as her first name, and a different second name) to be respected?

I've had issues with my in laws for yearssss. I try and brush it off and take the high road but i honestly feel like I’m losing my mind with them at this point.

My husband’s grandfather recently passed away. GMIL walked up to me at the funeral, asked for my 14 month old (felt like I couldn’t say no since she just lost her husband), and then walked my baby up to the open casket and put her IN the casket on top of husband’s grandfather. She put my baby in a casket with a [corpse].

Her reasoning was that my daughter needed to “give him a hug and say goodbye” but she’s literally 1?? She met him only a handful of times, and again! She’s a ONE year old, she has no idea what’s even going on! I literally froze and cannot stop beating myself up for even allowing my daughter to be put in that situation.

I feel so disgusted about it, along with so many other things that’s happened at/since the funeral. I try and vent or talk about this but it’s like my brain just short circuits and I have no idea how to even form a complete thought about this.

She was only in the actual casket for maybe 30 seconds. GMIL was holding her above the casket for a minute or two, talking to her and pointing to my husbands grandfather, which I already wasn’t super comfortable with in the first place.

My husband went over and grabbed our daughter after I told him to go “get her, right now.” and he’s not happy about it either. But I don’t think he understands how deeply upset I am about it. Please let me know if I seem like I’m overreacting, or over thinking this.

Obviously my daughter is fine and still the happy baby she always is! I’m just SO mad about the whole situation. My daughter is a PERSON and I feel like they don’t treat her like she’s one.

So my husband and I have been married for four years. We live two hours away from his parents so we only see them about once every 2-3 months.

For the past year or so his mom has been talking about me behind my back and telling my husband and her siblings that I have no respect for her because I don’t call her mom. This woman has NEVER, not once in the 5 years I’ve been with my husband asked about my family or tried to get to know me, she usually doesn’t even talk at all when we’re together and when she does talk she just [complains] at my husband to go to school and become a nurse (he’s been in the military this whole time).

Then on Christmas last year I walked into her house and said hi to her and she says “you’re still not going to call me mom?” No hi, Merry Christmas, nothing. A condescending confrontation was all I got from her.

For some context my own mother passed away when I was 15 and my husband’s whole family knows about it. His dad has asked about my family but his mom has never bothered.

So recently I heard his mom talking smack about me again over the phone and I got pissed and told my husband to defend me and tell her that I am not comfortable calling anyone else mom and that calling someone else mom when mine is dead feels wrong.

He called her mom and told her that I do like her but I just don’t feel comfortable calling someone else’s mom mom and she got mad and immediately called me ridiculous. This woman didn’t even take two seconds to think about what my husband said, she just insulted me and even insulted our marriage by saying we’re just friends and aren’t in a real relationship (we literally own a home together!).

My husband called his dad after the call with his mom and even he was surprised at what she said. Then he called his wife after to discuss the situation and she doubled-down and they ended up arguing about it because she’s a close-minded stupid [witch] who can’t see anything from anyone else’s perspective but her own and lacks all empathy. Anyways, I just needed to get this off my chest.

I posted in here before about my MIL’s utter devastation at the fact that her 2.5 yo grandson doesn’t know her (aka she has made zero effort to spend time with him) and demanded weekly FT calls after he ignored her at his birthday party in favor of her ex husband. The boy loves his papa lol.

This is the woman who drives 12 hours one way down to see her daughter and granddaughters multiple times a year but couldn’t bother to see us once when we lived 40 minutes away. She’s planned two trips since we moved and canceled both. And does anyone care to take a guess at how many of those oh-so-necessary calls have actually taken place since November? Two. And one of those was to tell her that I’m pregnant with a little girl.

Since then we’ve had exactly one regular phone call where she told me that we needed to let her know ahead of time when the baby was coming (girl do you know how babies work??) so that she could come down and watch our son while we are at the hospital.

Apparently she thinks it’s easier than my parents flying in. My parents, who see my son more in a year than she has in his entire life even though she lived 40 minutes from us until last year and they live half a country away.

To be clear, we already have a care plan for my son. My parents will fly in two days before my due date, my best friend (who lives in the same town as my MIL 4 hours away) is on standby to drive up if they don’t arrive in time, and we have a babysitter lined up to keep him if necessary until she arrives.

I explained this to MIL and said we appreciated it but we have it covered. She put on her ultra-hurt woe-is-me act immediately about how she feels like he doesn’t know her and I was basically like… he doesn’t lol.

My best friend who will come help literally lived with us for 8 months last year and he completely trusts her. I’m not leaving him with a stranger. She got huffy and said she understood then hung up. The funny part is that she called me instead of her son because she knows I’ll at least be diplomatic about it.

I told him after the call that she wanted us to plan on her watching our son and his response was “why? So we can scramble to find a replacement after she flakes last minute?” Lmao in all honesty the chances of her never meeting this child at all are very high.

Every year my husband and I are responsible for hosting Easter for my in laws.

Little backstory; I already took a huge step back from helping since the first year (approximately 7 years ago.) I cooked everything. I spent all day cooking a huge meal. Ham, potatoes, Perogies, cabbage rolls, veggies, salad, etc. This all took place on a Saturday. At the time everyone had only good things to say - aside from my MIL upset that there was no devilled eggs. I thought everything went so well. Until Sunday rolled around and my MIL had everyone (except me) over for a second Easter dinner because “everybody wanted turkey, not ham.” I have not cooked since.

My husband and I do not like turkey. It’s dry. It’s just awful imo. So every year my husband chooses his own non traditional meat to serve. This year was smoked ribs. Immediately my SIL requested hers not to be smoked. MIL also immediately messages and says “chicken please”. We are not a restaurant. That’s not how this works. My husband questioned even doing ribs since it was a 6 hour commitment with already so many complaints. But he decided to proceed since there was still 8 other people who would eat them.

He told his mom and sister to bring their own meat. That was met with a “for real?…” from his mom. Followed by “you know I don’t eat ribs… sorry I thought you were accommodating everyone” - which was a jab at the fact that we were hosting Easter at husbands grandparents house instead of ours. Which we decided to do because his grandpa is hooked up to oxygen and it’s very challenging to get him out anywhere. Apparently that’s also unacceptable to MIL that we didn’t have it at our house to accommodate 86 year old grandpa.

So onto the day. My husband smokes ribs. Makes salad and potatoes. I make baked beans, Mac and cheese, and corn bread. All of which I offered to make since my husband doesn’t like any of those dishes, but I love them with ribs! The beans are canned beans that I put a bit of onion and bbq sauce into. Not a groundbreaking dish. But I do love dipping cornbread into it. So good! I always make it the same way. But it’s seriously a nothing effort.

Now onto the dinner. I’ll set the scene. Grandma, SIL, and 6 month old niece to my left. FIL, MIL, and future BIL (engaged to SIL) to my right. Husband, grandpa, and my two kids in the living room. This is important to note that my husband is not in the room with us. MIL's are always braver with their words when their sons aren’t around to defend their wife. MIL only takes the chicken she brought, salad, and a small bit of beans - clearly deeming everything else not worthy of her time.

She suddenly asks “what’s in the beans?” and I say “just a bit of onion and bbq sauce” “These are disgusting.” That’s all she says. Everyone notes my face going red. So FIL says “everyone’s palates are different.” And grandma says “you can’t please everyone, don’t even bother trying” It could’ve all ended right there.

But then MIL continues and states “well. The garbage will enjoy them.” I held [myself] together and didn’t cry, even though I wanted to. Not because of the beans. Beans aren’t worth crying over. But the level of respect, that she would have the balls to say this to my face… so heartbreaking.

My future BIL - who I don’t believe has ever witnessed the way she treats me - then looks at my MIL in horror and says “pardon me?” You could hear a pin drop. He looks at me with pure sadness in his eyes. Nobody else said anything for fear of keeping this conversation going. Grandma made sure to eat every last bite of those beans and even had seconds. Bless her heart. My husband was mortified when I told him once we got home. He said we can take a step back for a while. So that’s the story. My beans aren’t disgusting and belong in the garbage. I’m sad. But I shall move on. Thank you for reading.

MIL randomly calls today and asks if SO is busy he says uhh driving home from the grocery store what’s up? And she’s like I need you to not be busy and he is just like just tell me. Asks if she can have FIVE THOUSAND DOLLARS!!! He says ummm why? She said can I have it or not and he said no. She said I’m not telling you then.

SO calls his grandma and she says they have 6 days to get the money or they lose their house. (They live together)

MIL has been paying youngest son’s mortgage instead of her own.

After further digging it would be upwards of $8000 for lawyers fees, reinstatement fees and such ??? Don’t know the validity of that but whatever. We say well good luck!

She says “thanks for understanding, I’ll just let it be foreclosed and figure it out. I deserve what’s happening to me” (victim playing as usual)

Mind you this woman SHOPPPPSSSS EXCESSIVELY and is always buying baby gear that we tell her we don’t want or need. Went to visit youngest brother and went to baseball games, out to eat , etc.

So no I don’t feel bad at all, and if she would’ve said something earlier we could’ve helped a little monthly but $8,000?!?! This does mean she will be moving closer once everything shakes out, but my SO is absolutely fuming that she would be this stupid.

It allowed for some really great conversations pertaining to everything toxic she does and how we don’t want that modeled for our children or want to do to our children in the future.

MIL could not be more predictable right now. If you look at my post history you can see we had a big "event" in our conflict with the ILs earlier this week. To sum it up, MIL did something untrustworthy and just overall [trashy] last year, DH called her out, FIL ghosted us for months after he blew up for MIL (his typical enabler behavior) all the while MIL played all kinds of games trying to paint herself the victim and not apologize.

DH stood strong and refused to engage with her until FIL started talking again (after we found out she was lying to FIL and loving that she had created a new divide between them). The reconnection with FIL wasn't great but it was an attempt and we'll take it for now. A few days after the call, FIL sent a message asking us to meet up to "turn the page." DH didn't respond right away, which must have made MIL panic.

Today we got a voicemail from her...she sounds like she's on the verge of tears, voice weak and shaky (she is not a frail woman by any means) and she says...

"DH and DIL, I've had some doctor's appointments and wanted to let you know what they've been like and where it's all leading. Call me."

Easter Cancer, y'all...

Edited to add update... DH handled it by responding to MIL and FIL in a group because of her past lies. He was short about it and didn't give any emotion. Just said he got her message and asked how the appointments were going. Her response: "I've had about 7 tests from cardiologist, electrophysiologist, and endocrinologist and it looks like I need a pacemaker. I'm doing ok. Been having near-passing out episodes, but have not passed out. Call if you have questions. Love you guys!! "

Our daughter is 5 weeks old and I'm running on maybe 3 hours of sleep but MIL is driving me crazy so here I am.

My partner (32M) and I (29F) have been together for 4 years. We own a condo together in LA, we have a baby, we're basically married in every way except the paperwork. Neither of us felt rushed to actually get married and we were fine with that.

Since I gave birth MIL will not stop with the marriage questions. She asks every single time she comes over. SIL made a comment about how the baby should have married parents.

FIL pulled my partner aside last week and apparently gave him some lecture about doing the right thing and making sure everything is proper.

The thing that bothers me most is they keep framing it like it's about the baby or about me needing security or protection. MIL said something about how he needs to make sure I'm taken care of if anything happens to him, which felt weird and also kind of insulting? I make $92k as a data analyst, he makes $78k as a project manager. I'm not some damsel who needs saving.

My partner is now saying maybe we should just do it to get everyone off our backs. Not the most romantic proposal I've ever heard. When I said I'm not getting married just to shut his family up he got defensive and said I'm being stubborn for no reason.

Then yesterday MIL texted me DIRECTLY asking if we've thought about what happens with the baby if we split up since we're not married. Like who asks that to someone who just had a baby five weeks ago??

I told my partner his family needs to back off and he said they're just looking out for us. Looking out for WHAT exactly? We're fine. The baby is fine. We don't need to get married because MIL is uncomfortable. Am I crazy for being annoyed by this? This woman is in my business constantly and now she's texting me about what happens if we break up when I'm literally 5 weeks postpartum.

FIL rented an Airbnb thurs- thurs. MIL was upset we were joining them Friday. Things were ok. We went to town yesterday MIL kept disappearing into other shops. The purpose of this trip was to spend time together. Then today Easter, they left. I pissed her off. Why you ask? My son was eating cereal, and MIL had her phone out at the table for my son to play. We don’t do phones at the table.
Me: he can play that after he eats
MIL: he can do both
Me: (says mils name) he can play after.

She threw her phone down. Got in my husband's face told him “well, we paid for your vacation.” Fil told us she was packing. Mil feels we won’t let her grandparent bc she doesn’t get alone time with the kids.

She makes them feel uncomfortable when she is alone with them. (Today is a good example why) Ugh. Last visit, last year. I told my daughter “no more sugar today”. ( she had a hot coco, and peeps) Mil said loudly infront of her “well that’s messed up.” I was Soo angry but let it go. She wasn’t like this before we had kids.

My future MIL is trying to get my fiancé to sign a POA for medical decisions and asset decisions.

The MIL called my fiancé telling him he needs to sign them and when he refused because “there is no point since I’ll be married soon” she continued to lie to him and state that I would be considered part of his POA after marriage. She was very upset with him. I saw the documents on the counter over a week ago and stressed to my fiancé I didn’t think it was a good idea to sign them and he agreed.

We are both in our mid 20s and I think she thought we wouldn’t think about doing something like a POA (which granted, I DIDN’T). I feel like it was a sneaky way to gain control over his life before he was officially married and in the long run screw me over. Now, I’m sure my future MIL has his best interest in mind but I just can’t shake the feeling that she doesn’t trust me or find me responsible enough to handle assets or his medical decisions (even though I have extensive medical knowledge that his parents do not). I feel upset with this.

I’m 36 weeks pregnant and broke my leg a few weeks ago. It’s been pretty miserable hobbling around on crutches and in a boot being this heavily pregnant.

This morning I didn’t feel well so I went to lay down. I woke up in severe pain and bleeding. I was rushed to the hospital for a suspected placental abruption. DH sent a text to our families stating we don’t want visitors yet/ possibly at all and we don’t even know how severe it is yet. We need space. MIL ignored text and already showed.

DH had to turn her away and now she is blowing up his phone. This is a nightmare.

I’m pregnant and just barely starting to show. Since my in-laws found out, my MIL has been comparing her pregnancy symptoms and body to mine. Even when I’m not around, she asks my SO if I’m showing yet.

I’ve only just started showing, and in a public setting she said “you’ve got a belly” twice in a row in this high-pitched tone. It felt unnecessary, so I just said, “yeah that’s what happens.”

The very next day we saw her again, and during an off-topic conversation with my SIL, MIL randomly said “she’s growing a belly”. I replied, “I’m growing a baby, not a belly.” I also told her that just because I’m pregnant doesn’t mean it’s okay to comment on my body.