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The frustration becomes even stronger when the behavior affects an entire group rather than just one relationship. At work, in families, or among friends, one person's expectation of special treatment can mean that somebody else has to pick up the slack, change their plans, tolerate disruption, or quietly accept an exception. That can make entitlement feel less like a personal quirk and more like a problem everyone is being forced to manage.
It also helps explain why observers can react so strongly to particularly outrageous examples. People are not only watching someone ask for more; they are watching the consequences of that demand being pushed onto everyone else. When one person repeatedly expects flexibility without offering it in return, trust and goodwill can disappear surprisingly quickly.
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Ultimately, the most memorable examples of entitlement are often not about someone wanting something nice or asking for a favor. They are about what happens when that person believes their wants should automatically outweigh somebody else's needs. Repeated disappointment, conflict, and rejection can leave the entitled person increasingly isolated, while those around them become tired of feeling unappreciated or taken for granted.
What initially protects someone from the discomfort of hearing "no" can therefore produce exactly the relationships they were trying to avoid: ones filled with resentment, distance, and loneliness. The line between reasonable expectations and entitlement may not always be obvious at first, but it becomes much clearer when getting what one person wants repeatedly requires everyone else to give something up.
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One night I was reracking and this big dood came in and started using the heaviest Dumbbells (120lbs, 115, 110s etc). Instead of putting them back he was just leaving them on the floor. Some of the regulars walked up and said hey man don't be a jerk, you see he's putting it away, just put them back.
He said, "no, I will not do that. This is MY gym. I pay a membership here. I'm paying for him to put it away. If I wanted to rerack my own weights I would workout at home.".
Entitlement can be surprisingly memorable, especially when it goes beyond the occasional complaint or unreasonable request and turns into behavior that leaves everyone else wondering what just happened. Of course, everyone has had moments when they expected a little too much or acted less graciously than they should have.
However, there is a big difference between having an off day and genuinely believing other people should rearrange their lives to keep you happy. Some of these stories make that line look particularly easy to cross. Have you ever witnessed a truly outrageous case of entitlement or spoiled behavior? Share your experiences and thoughts in the comments!
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I told her about my modest party and told her about how we made all the food and stuff and spent very little money.
My roomate replied, "my parents *only* spent $2,000 on my party."
I replied hesitantly, "That's a lot for a party...."
Roommate completely ignored what I said and continued with, "And my grandparents didn't even get me a car! They just gave me $10,000!"
I got up and left.
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I told her in many countries like mine where there is high malnutrition among kids and cows milk is the only source of protein as almond and soy milk are too costly
She said " why these third world people have kids if they can't give them good food ? "
A Marie anontonite moment.
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Telling your guests to bring a gift is a pretty jerkish thing to do. Telling your guests to bring an extra gift for someone other than the birthday boy is just obnoxious. And what's more is that they are by no means rich enough to spoil their kids the way they do. And neither of the parents grew up rich and spoiled themselves, so I have no idea where they got this, from.
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Like... don't expect the attendant to babysit you and scan all of your stuff through on a *self*-checkout machine.
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He ended up getting chaptered.
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To answer questions, the first sergeant went appropriately ballistic. The soldier ended up in the front-leaning rest (that is, doing push-ups) for an extended period of time and received a developmental counseling form. His mom also got a courtesy e-mail to let her know what her son was up to. The soldier eventually received company and field grade article 15's for other boneheaded things he did (nonjudicial punishment, the Army takes your rank, your personal time, and part of your pay) and ended up getting chaptered under Chapter 14-12b (ie, they kicked him out for patterns of misconduct).
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God help the poor girl he marries.
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He didn't work. His father paid his apartment and his mother gave him an allowance.