Bridezillas are some of the worst (if not the worst) creatures you will encounter in the wild. They reek of entitlement and would stop at nothing until their demands are met, even if it means ruining lifelong friendships and creating disturbing memories along the way.
Much like there is no shortage of bridezillas out in the world, stories about their atrocious actions are unfortunately in abundance. Here are more of them, courtesy of people who shared their firsthand experiences.
If you’re a woman who’s about to get married, these anecdotes should serve as exemplary cautionary tales.
#21 Bride Wants Guest To Cancel Their Rescheduled Honeymoon/ Huge Family Trip So They Can Come To Her Wedding. Save The Date Sent Out 1 Year In Advance
This is wedding 9/9 for me this year and I am BURNT out. I had a friend in college who idk if I can be friends anymore after her wedding saga. She was so disrespectful to me I backed out of her wedding as a bridesmaid bc she just kept insulting me to my face and saying it was “due to stress” but she wanted me to still come as a regular guest to try to mend the relationship. Initally, i appreciated her attempt to move forward but now im just scared haha and certainly scared to RSVP no bc it literally may be easier to just show up and then not speak again.
She invited a friend/ co worker to wedding who got married last fall. Right after her wedding they had a big family emergency so they had to cancel their honeymoon. They decided to do a 1 year anniversary trip instead and also invite her parents and grandparents bc it was a milestone anniversary for both of them. They had it already fully planned (some international trip). So when the save the date came out a year in advance, the friend said sorry cant come to wedding and let her know in advance. The bride was “annoyed” bc “if I gave long term notice then she has long term notice to cancel her trip” “her parents and grandparents can just go alone and she can meet them later after my wedding” “i sat through her wedding so she should sit through mine” “I mean… how ANNOYING is it that she cant come?” “I was even nice enough to add her husband since no one else gets a plus one if I dont know the partner” “She should just kindly decline the invite” (SHE DID kindly decline wtf). I told her hey you know a huge trip with 6 people planned over a year in advance is prob legit and she sends her regrets so let her and accept it and move on. She may even have time to invite someone else to fill the seat if that was such a problem. I think she came to the engagement party and the shower so far and has been nice so I dont think it was a lie to get out of it (not that its anyones business). Then at her shower, bride looked for that girl and her gift to make sure she “showed up properly”
Why are we keeping tabs on peoples family live around weddings! Why are we expecting gifts from people youre annoyed at! This is wild!
She invited a friend/ co worker to wedding who got married last fall. Right after her wedding they had a big family emergency so they had to cancel their honeymoon. They decided to do a 1 year anniversary trip instead and also invite her parents and grandparents bc it was a milestone anniversary for both of them. They had it already fully planned (some international trip). So when the save the date came out a year in advance, the friend said sorry cant come to wedding and let her know in advance. The bride was “annoyed” bc “if I gave long term notice then she has long term notice to cancel her trip” “her parents and grandparents can just go alone and she can meet them later after my wedding” “i sat through her wedding so she should sit through mine” “I mean… how ANNOYING is it that she cant come?” “I was even nice enough to add her husband since no one else gets a plus one if I dont know the partner” “She should just kindly decline the invite” (SHE DID kindly decline wtf). I told her hey you know a huge trip with 6 people planned over a year in advance is prob legit and she sends her regrets so let her and accept it and move on. She may even have time to invite someone else to fill the seat if that was such a problem. I think she came to the engagement party and the shower so far and has been nice so I dont think it was a lie to get out of it (not that its anyones business). Then at her shower, bride looked for that girl and her gift to make sure she “showed up properly”
Why are we keeping tabs on peoples family live around weddings! Why are we expecting gifts from people youre annoyed at! This is wild!
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8points
#22 Expected To RSVP Within 72 Hours Of Invite
Received a texted image of a wedding invite in a group chat from a couple for a wedding 3 weeks away and on the other side of the country last night. The bride has already texted twice saying if I don’t RSVP via the website on the picture she sent within two days she’s taking it as a “no” and there will be no food or seat for me and my plus 1. Her second text said if I respond via text “yes” it doesn’t matter, it has to be on the website for it to count and within 72 hours of “receiving” the invite.
Umm…. what?!
I knew the wedding was going to be in the summer so when I got the text invite I was expecting a September wedding not August 15. Also, guests are being asked to wear either magenta or apricot.
I’ve got 48 hours to decide if I take notice of the red flags and bail or if I go to see what happens. I can’t imagine it’s going to go well based on this.
Hot take: I’m all for being cheap and doing a digital invite but to just text a picture of a paper invite design (QR codes and all) is tacky. I can’t think of a more obvious way to announce that you either messed up your timeline/budget or call attention to me possibly being a backup guest. Honestly it would have just been better to text a link to the wedding website and say “please rsvp to our wedding via the link.”
Umm…. what?!
I knew the wedding was going to be in the summer so when I got the text invite I was expecting a September wedding not August 15. Also, guests are being asked to wear either magenta or apricot.
I’ve got 48 hours to decide if I take notice of the red flags and bail or if I go to see what happens. I can’t imagine it’s going to go well based on this.
Hot take: I’m all for being cheap and doing a digital invite but to just text a picture of a paper invite design (QR codes and all) is tacky. I can’t think of a more obvious way to announce that you either messed up your timeline/budget or call attention to me possibly being a backup guest. Honestly it would have just been better to text a link to the wedding website and say “please rsvp to our wedding via the link.”
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7points
#23 My Friend Is Being A Bridezilla And I’m Over It
I am the MOH in my friend’s wedding and I feel that my friend is being tacky, inconsiderate, and selfish.
For starters, she had been with her fiancé for 10 years before he proposed. I think because of that, there is a lot of built up anticipation in her mind of having a perfect, extravagant, dream wedding. However, they are not massively wealthy so they are purposely trying to get money in order to pay for the wedding. They explicitly picked a venue that allows them to pay 1/2 of their wedding after the day, so they plan to use the gifts that people give to pay for the wedding.
In terms of pre wedding events, there was an engagement party, bachelorette party, and bridal party. Mostly standard, however, I am of course obligated to spend hundreds of dollars with each of these events. For the bachelorette party, it actually cost $1,200 per girl, as we went to an entirely different country. For her bridal shower, she explicitly put on the invitations that she wants guests to NOT give physical gifts, but rather give money to contribute to their honey moon fund. (Their honey moon is planned and over $10,000)
While on the topic of the bridal shower, I feel bad that I didn’t do a lot of planning for it. However, I was not given the chance. She took charge and planned out EVERYTHING (theme, decorations, venue, date, etc.) 7 months prior. I thought bridal showers were typically planned FOR the bride, not BY the bride. So this is conjunction for explicitly asking for cash gifts feel very tacky.
A few other things that have happened that I feel are rude on her end. Her other cousin got engaged after her and her fiancé, and planned a wedding 3 months PRIOR to the wedding date. My friend was extremely offended that her cousin is “stealing her thunder.”
Also, my parents did not receive an invite to her wedding, despite knowing her throughout my entire childhood and taking her on family vacations. This is not a huge deal, but worth mentioning since I am laying everything out.
All in all, by the time the wedding is over, I will have spent about $2,800 in gifts, travel, and bridal party duties. So with that in mind, here comes my final breaking point. The bride asked her bridal party who would opt to get their hair and makeup done ($120 for each service). I said I would do my own makeup and get my hair done. Many of the other girls in the bridal party said they would just do their own hair and makeup. The bride tells me how she’s annoyed more people aren’t getting it done because the whole point of being in the bridal party is to be getting ready together the morning of. I told her not to stress and we’d still get ready together and have fun, it’s just expensive to get it done so many girls probably don’t want to. Fast forward a few weeks, and my friend is finalizing who is getting their glam done. I reiterated that I’ll just be doing my hair, and she sent me a long text message about how she couldn’t believe I am not getting my makeup done even AFTER she said she was upset about the bridal party not getting their services. She said I’m the MOH and will be in a lot of pictures, and it’s a big day, so I really should get it done. After lecturing me of how wrong I was, she said she’ll just pay for mine because it’s clearly something I don’t want to pay for. She also insisted I don’t tell anybody else because she can’t afford to offer for any of the other girls to get their services done. I feel the way this was handled was extremely offensive. I wear makeup every day and would be able to do my own makeup just fine. I also find it ironic that she can’t afford to pay for the bridal party’s glam, but she INSISTS that they be willing to pay and do it….
So to wrap it up, I am extremely fed up and am now just waiting for this wedding to be over, rather than being able to be excited for my friend.
For starters, she had been with her fiancé for 10 years before he proposed. I think because of that, there is a lot of built up anticipation in her mind of having a perfect, extravagant, dream wedding. However, they are not massively wealthy so they are purposely trying to get money in order to pay for the wedding. They explicitly picked a venue that allows them to pay 1/2 of their wedding after the day, so they plan to use the gifts that people give to pay for the wedding.
In terms of pre wedding events, there was an engagement party, bachelorette party, and bridal party. Mostly standard, however, I am of course obligated to spend hundreds of dollars with each of these events. For the bachelorette party, it actually cost $1,200 per girl, as we went to an entirely different country. For her bridal shower, she explicitly put on the invitations that she wants guests to NOT give physical gifts, but rather give money to contribute to their honey moon fund. (Their honey moon is planned and over $10,000)
While on the topic of the bridal shower, I feel bad that I didn’t do a lot of planning for it. However, I was not given the chance. She took charge and planned out EVERYTHING (theme, decorations, venue, date, etc.) 7 months prior. I thought bridal showers were typically planned FOR the bride, not BY the bride. So this is conjunction for explicitly asking for cash gifts feel very tacky.
A few other things that have happened that I feel are rude on her end. Her other cousin got engaged after her and her fiancé, and planned a wedding 3 months PRIOR to the wedding date. My friend was extremely offended that her cousin is “stealing her thunder.”
Also, my parents did not receive an invite to her wedding, despite knowing her throughout my entire childhood and taking her on family vacations. This is not a huge deal, but worth mentioning since I am laying everything out.
All in all, by the time the wedding is over, I will have spent about $2,800 in gifts, travel, and bridal party duties. So with that in mind, here comes my final breaking point. The bride asked her bridal party who would opt to get their hair and makeup done ($120 for each service). I said I would do my own makeup and get my hair done. Many of the other girls in the bridal party said they would just do their own hair and makeup. The bride tells me how she’s annoyed more people aren’t getting it done because the whole point of being in the bridal party is to be getting ready together the morning of. I told her not to stress and we’d still get ready together and have fun, it’s just expensive to get it done so many girls probably don’t want to. Fast forward a few weeks, and my friend is finalizing who is getting their glam done. I reiterated that I’ll just be doing my hair, and she sent me a long text message about how she couldn’t believe I am not getting my makeup done even AFTER she said she was upset about the bridal party not getting their services. She said I’m the MOH and will be in a lot of pictures, and it’s a big day, so I really should get it done. After lecturing me of how wrong I was, she said she’ll just pay for mine because it’s clearly something I don’t want to pay for. She also insisted I don’t tell anybody else because she can’t afford to offer for any of the other girls to get their services done. I feel the way this was handled was extremely offensive. I wear makeup every day and would be able to do my own makeup just fine. I also find it ironic that she can’t afford to pay for the bridal party’s glam, but she INSISTS that they be willing to pay and do it….
So to wrap it up, I am extremely fed up and am now just waiting for this wedding to be over, rather than being able to be excited for my friend.
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6points
#24 “I Want To Be The Envy Of All My Friends”
My parents own an outdoor wedding venue in the woods in the Midwest, so we’ve seen a fair share of crazy couples, vendors, family etc.
My Brother (25) and soon to be sister in law (22) are going to get married in August at the venue at a discounted price along with my parents paying with many other things. No big deal, it’s family. But, my SIL has been crazy to say the least. She wanted me (I’m 15 and just got my drivers permit) to take her going to be 9 month old son to my house after the wedding ceremony and watch him for the rest of the night. My parents, obviously disagreed as I wanted to be apart of the reception. There would be family there that I haven’t seen in ages and that wasn’t fair to me. But, along with that, she has tried to invite my uncle (several times), who isn’t allowed near my dads family because he literally beat someone up and is on substances most of the time.
So, apart from those crazy things she has a guest list of over 400 people, many of the people she doesn’t even know. Which wouldn’t be a problem in other venues, but we have only ever had 275 people max at a wedding at once. Along with the fact that our parking lot can hold 80 cars, with people being parked in the grass, behind the storage garage, and in ditches. So 400+ people is going to be a struggle. Another issue is that our policy is 1 bartender per 150 guests. And since Our venue is family owned it’s going to be a struggle to find more bartenders.
Like the title says, my SIL told my mom that she wanted to be the ‘envy of all her friends’ and have a large, beautiful wedding. My mom believes that she only said this because my SIL’s friend got married at the venue earlier this summer.
This is a really long rant, sorry about that but I might update if my SIL says or does more Bridezilla-esque stuff, or if their wedding is a stressful mess like my mom is saying it’s going to be. I love my SIL but she’s very spoiled and rude.
Edit 1: I thought I should mention that my brother is my half brother. We have the same dad. His mom is very judgy and hates both my parents and tried to accuse my dad of some crazy things a few years back. So my parents have been lenient in order to not start any drama.
Edit 2: this isn’t about my SIL, kinda. The only bartender that was able to work the day of their wedding just quit. So now there’s a guest list of currently 478 people and no bartenders.
My Brother (25) and soon to be sister in law (22) are going to get married in August at the venue at a discounted price along with my parents paying with many other things. No big deal, it’s family. But, my SIL has been crazy to say the least. She wanted me (I’m 15 and just got my drivers permit) to take her going to be 9 month old son to my house after the wedding ceremony and watch him for the rest of the night. My parents, obviously disagreed as I wanted to be apart of the reception. There would be family there that I haven’t seen in ages and that wasn’t fair to me. But, along with that, she has tried to invite my uncle (several times), who isn’t allowed near my dads family because he literally beat someone up and is on substances most of the time.
So, apart from those crazy things she has a guest list of over 400 people, many of the people she doesn’t even know. Which wouldn’t be a problem in other venues, but we have only ever had 275 people max at a wedding at once. Along with the fact that our parking lot can hold 80 cars, with people being parked in the grass, behind the storage garage, and in ditches. So 400+ people is going to be a struggle. Another issue is that our policy is 1 bartender per 150 guests. And since Our venue is family owned it’s going to be a struggle to find more bartenders.
Like the title says, my SIL told my mom that she wanted to be the ‘envy of all her friends’ and have a large, beautiful wedding. My mom believes that she only said this because my SIL’s friend got married at the venue earlier this summer.
This is a really long rant, sorry about that but I might update if my SIL says or does more Bridezilla-esque stuff, or if their wedding is a stressful mess like my mom is saying it’s going to be. I love my SIL but she’s very spoiled and rude.
Edit 1: I thought I should mention that my brother is my half brother. We have the same dad. His mom is very judgy and hates both my parents and tried to accuse my dad of some crazy things a few years back. So my parents have been lenient in order to not start any drama.
Edit 2: this isn’t about my SIL, kinda. The only bartender that was able to work the day of their wedding just quit. So now there’s a guest list of currently 478 people and no bartenders.
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#25 Bride Pressured Me To Attend Wedding After I Declined, Then Seated Me At The Vendor Table Because She Was 'Jealous'
I was married to the best man at this wedding (now happily divorced). The groom was his childhood best friend, and since we'd moved abroad, we'd never met the bride. Their relationship moved fast - dating to wedding in under a year.
I'm autistic and struggle with new social situations, especially around strangers. At this wedding, I'd only know the groom, his family, my then-husband, and one other groomsman. With everything else going on in my life at the time (high stress, on anti-anxiety meds), I realized this would be overwhelming for me. Plus, I wouldn't be seated with the wedding party and would essentially be alone all day while my husband was "on duty."
So my husband RSVPed that I wouldn't be attending. The bride completely lost it, calling my decline "disrespectful" and accusing me of "undermining her relationship." My husband and the groom pressured me until I agreed to come after all.
I paid for flights and attended this wedding were I spent the entire day exactly as I'd predicted- completely alone. They seated me at the furthest table with only the hired vendors (photographer, videographer, DJ, band)- none of whom actually knew the couple. I got a little time with my husband during dancing, but he was busy with best man duties.
The bride had multiple awkward public meltdowns throughout the day, including screaming at her new husband for getting her the wrong type of Advil and for "ruining her lipstick" with their kiss during the ceremony.
Since I over prepare for everything, when my husband suggested I might be able to help with her various crises, I ended up being her savior with my emergency kit (sewing supplies, blister plasters, you name it). She was incredibly grateful. By the end of the night, she was trying to spend more time with me than her own husband. While drunk, she confessed that she'd been "jealous and worried" I would take attention away from her ("you're so pretty"), which is why she'd seated me so far away. Her exact words shocked me: "You're so nice! I don't know why I thought you'd be a jerk!" (I smiled and laughed it off but wow.)
Oh, and in case anyone's wondering why the seating was so weird- she had zero female friends. Her bridesmaids were all relatives. Most of her guests were people she knew from school, friends of her parents or social clubs but weren't close to.
I'm autistic and struggle with new social situations, especially around strangers. At this wedding, I'd only know the groom, his family, my then-husband, and one other groomsman. With everything else going on in my life at the time (high stress, on anti-anxiety meds), I realized this would be overwhelming for me. Plus, I wouldn't be seated with the wedding party and would essentially be alone all day while my husband was "on duty."
So my husband RSVPed that I wouldn't be attending. The bride completely lost it, calling my decline "disrespectful" and accusing me of "undermining her relationship." My husband and the groom pressured me until I agreed to come after all.
I paid for flights and attended this wedding were I spent the entire day exactly as I'd predicted- completely alone. They seated me at the furthest table with only the hired vendors (photographer, videographer, DJ, band)- none of whom actually knew the couple. I got a little time with my husband during dancing, but he was busy with best man duties.
The bride had multiple awkward public meltdowns throughout the day, including screaming at her new husband for getting her the wrong type of Advil and for "ruining her lipstick" with their kiss during the ceremony.
Since I over prepare for everything, when my husband suggested I might be able to help with her various crises, I ended up being her savior with my emergency kit (sewing supplies, blister plasters, you name it). She was incredibly grateful. By the end of the night, she was trying to spend more time with me than her own husband. While drunk, she confessed that she'd been "jealous and worried" I would take attention away from her ("you're so pretty"), which is why she'd seated me so far away. Her exact words shocked me: "You're so nice! I don't know why I thought you'd be a jerk!" (I smiled and laughed it off but wow.)
Oh, and in case anyone's wondering why the seating was so weird- she had zero female friends. Her bridesmaids were all relatives. Most of her guests were people she knew from school, friends of her parents or social clubs but weren't close to.
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#26 Picked To Be A Bridesmaid Due To My Hair Color
This happened back when I was in college and everyone in the story was also that age.
A family friend from high school asked me to be her bridesmaid, which was a bit of a surprise because we had grown apart after moving away from our hometown for college. We hadn't really talked in a while and I hadn't seen her in probably 2 years. I said yes mainly for old time's sake. I was one of 6 bridesmaids.
The bachelorette party included friends who weren't bridesmaids and by the end of the night, apparently the bride told these friends that they weren't bridesmaids because they weren't brunette!! I didn't hear about this until after the wedding or I would have dropped out.
As one of the friend tells it, the bride told her that it was such a shame she had gone back to her natural blonde because otherwise she would have been in the wedding party. She said this in earshot of the other blondes. Apparently, the bride wanted to be the only blonde at the altar so she picked her bridesmaids from her brunette contacts.
I can only assume she reached out to me after so long because I am brunette!
A family friend from high school asked me to be her bridesmaid, which was a bit of a surprise because we had grown apart after moving away from our hometown for college. We hadn't really talked in a while and I hadn't seen her in probably 2 years. I said yes mainly for old time's sake. I was one of 6 bridesmaids.
The bachelorette party included friends who weren't bridesmaids and by the end of the night, apparently the bride told these friends that they weren't bridesmaids because they weren't brunette!! I didn't hear about this until after the wedding or I would have dropped out.
As one of the friend tells it, the bride told her that it was such a shame she had gone back to her natural blonde because otherwise she would have been in the wedding party. She said this in earshot of the other blondes. Apparently, the bride wanted to be the only blonde at the altar so she picked her bridesmaids from her brunette contacts.
I can only assume she reached out to me after so long because I am brunette!
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#27 Guests Waited For A Total Of An Hour And A Half
So the invite said it started at 1. I only found out after the fact that while the invite said 1:00, it was really set to start at 1:30. So they lied to all of their guests for starters for fear of family being late. I then found out that 90% of the guests were there at 12:45. The other 10% arrived by 1. Others were there a little early (11am) to help set up and get things in order.
Bride was having a lot of stress and kept saying she just needed a minute before walking down the aisle (not at all cold feet, just an inability to manage the stress of the day.) This meant she didn’t walk down the aisle until 2:30.
Also nobody went out to notify the guests that everything is okay and no one has cold feet, it will start momentarily.
This was honestly a really insanely frustrating day for me and I am so glad it’s looking like I won’t have to be a part of a wedding again.
Bride was having a lot of stress and kept saying she just needed a minute before walking down the aisle (not at all cold feet, just an inability to manage the stress of the day.) This meant she didn’t walk down the aisle until 2:30.
Also nobody went out to notify the guests that everything is okay and no one has cold feet, it will start momentarily.
This was honestly a really insanely frustrating day for me and I am so glad it’s looking like I won’t have to be a part of a wedding again.
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#28 Walked Right Into A Hot Mess And Ran Out
Another story here triggered my memory of a bridezilla I once knew.
The bride was a friend of my sibling and not me, but I was always friendly as she was always at my house growing up. We ended up hanging out here and there while my sibling was away at school but I never considered her very close.
Fast forward a few months and she’s engaged to her fiancée who is also a very close friend of my sibling, they’re all in the same friend group. I was of course happy and took her out for dinner to celebrate, and instead of enjoying the free dinner she ended up costing me way more by asking me to be her bridesmaid. As many would be, I was so surprised and my brain went blank that I agreed.
Soon after that when the pressure came and I regretted my decision. The bachelorette party was the same night as a close family member’s wedding out of town. As soon as she was throwing out dates for it I said immediately I couldn’t be there because of the wedding. That turned into a multi day event of guilt and manipulation.
Then came the dress selection. The bride was a size 0 on a bad day, where I was plus sized at the time. And normally that’s never an issue for me, I was comfortable with myself, however she insisted I try on straight sized dresses and said they’d fit because I’m not that much bigger than her. I was very self aware and told her I’m not doing it and risking getting stuck or ripping the dress. So in the middle of the store she had a meltdown and had her equally unpleasant sister yell at me for being uncooperative.
I should have walked away at that point but I must have been really understanding because I didn’t back out just yet.
Around that time my mom was quite sick, and she took a turn and the outlook was not good. And then my car broke on me, so between having to buy a new car and worrying about my mom, I let her know that I need to back out. I was transparent about how between my mom and the financial burden this was becoming, ontop of having to now buy another car, I couldn’t do it. Silly me thinking she’d be understanding.
She put me on blast - over text of course because why be an adult now and have some empathy. She accused me of exaggerating about my mom’s health because my sibling didn’t tell her what was going on (who lived hours away whereas I lived minutes away from mom), and I should have saved for a new car and her wedding.
Needless to say, I told my sibling and he didn’t speak to her leading up to the wedding and then never again since.
They ended up divorcing soon after that, surprise surprise.
The bride was a friend of my sibling and not me, but I was always friendly as she was always at my house growing up. We ended up hanging out here and there while my sibling was away at school but I never considered her very close.
Fast forward a few months and she’s engaged to her fiancée who is also a very close friend of my sibling, they’re all in the same friend group. I was of course happy and took her out for dinner to celebrate, and instead of enjoying the free dinner she ended up costing me way more by asking me to be her bridesmaid. As many would be, I was so surprised and my brain went blank that I agreed.
Soon after that when the pressure came and I regretted my decision. The bachelorette party was the same night as a close family member’s wedding out of town. As soon as she was throwing out dates for it I said immediately I couldn’t be there because of the wedding. That turned into a multi day event of guilt and manipulation.
Then came the dress selection. The bride was a size 0 on a bad day, where I was plus sized at the time. And normally that’s never an issue for me, I was comfortable with myself, however she insisted I try on straight sized dresses and said they’d fit because I’m not that much bigger than her. I was very self aware and told her I’m not doing it and risking getting stuck or ripping the dress. So in the middle of the store she had a meltdown and had her equally unpleasant sister yell at me for being uncooperative.
I should have walked away at that point but I must have been really understanding because I didn’t back out just yet.
Around that time my mom was quite sick, and she took a turn and the outlook was not good. And then my car broke on me, so between having to buy a new car and worrying about my mom, I let her know that I need to back out. I was transparent about how between my mom and the financial burden this was becoming, ontop of having to now buy another car, I couldn’t do it. Silly me thinking she’d be understanding.
She put me on blast - over text of course because why be an adult now and have some empathy. She accused me of exaggerating about my mom’s health because my sibling didn’t tell her what was going on (who lived hours away whereas I lived minutes away from mom), and I should have saved for a new car and her wedding.
Needless to say, I told my sibling and he didn’t speak to her leading up to the wedding and then never again since.
They ended up divorcing soon after that, surprise surprise.
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#29 Expecting 2 Week Postpartum Bridesmaid To Show Up
I backed out of this wedding party for other reasons but the vibes continue. Wedding in October 2025; engaged May 2024 and the whole wedding was planned and pre paid by November 2024 per seat (150 people) in advance so they are desperate to fill seats as it would be $$ lost. Primary concern for wedding party: the procession will not “look balanced and now we can’t ask 2 more people to fill the slots bc it’s rude that they’re second choice” and they’re asking co workers to come to wedding to fill the 150 for those who RSVPed no haha
Her SIL is in the wedding and will be 2 weeks postpartum when the wedding comes; she was not pregnant at the time of the bridesmaid proposal as it was over a year ago and they announced it in the winter i think. She naturally got mad about it and pulled her brother aside to ask when shes due and if shes still coming. the SIL said she would LOVE to be there but it just depends on her recovery and how she is doing and how baby is doing. Bride got mad and said “stop popping out kids you already have 2” “just get a sitter its not that hard” then called me to jerk about it and I said its rude of her to assume that they can come and the problem isn't so much the sitter its just health/well being/needs of baby since 2 weeks pp is a lot to be in a wedding and be away from a newborn! Wedding is 2 hours away from their home).
Her SIL is in the wedding and will be 2 weeks postpartum when the wedding comes; she was not pregnant at the time of the bridesmaid proposal as it was over a year ago and they announced it in the winter i think. She naturally got mad about it and pulled her brother aside to ask when shes due and if shes still coming. the SIL said she would LOVE to be there but it just depends on her recovery and how she is doing and how baby is doing. Bride got mad and said “stop popping out kids you already have 2” “just get a sitter its not that hard” then called me to jerk about it and I said its rude of her to assume that they can come and the problem isn't so much the sitter its just health/well being/needs of baby since 2 weeks pp is a lot to be in a wedding and be away from a newborn! Wedding is 2 hours away from their home).
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#30 No Black @ Nye Black-Tie Wedding; Make It Make Sense
My cousin (he and I are not super close but there are only five of us) is getting married on New Year’s Eve into New Years… wedding starts late afternoon, goes until after the ball drop. It definitely looks like it’ll be a full black tie experience, which is nice!
Side note: we have another cousin who did a “black tie“ wedding at 4:00 PM on a non-holiday Monday because his bride (an aspiring influencer who can’t spell) couldn’t afford the castle otherwise, where we were all eating off of plasticware and drinking cheap wine, no live band (aka very much not a black tie experience).
In any case, I was looking at the wedding FAQs, and guests have been requested NOT to wear black, because apparently the bridal party will be wearing black. I have to say, are you kidding me? First of all, it’s a black tie wedding, where you are literally supposed to wear black or navy, and it’s New Year’s Eve, when everyone wears black! I’m mostly irritated because all of my formal gowns are already black, it’s hard to find dresses, and I’m already spending so much money on gifts, flights, hotels, etc.
I also have two small kids and work in an office full-time, so I really don’t have the time or money (technically I have the money, but there are about 58493 other things I need/would rather spend it on, our childcare bill alone is $4800/mo, and I’m categorically opposed to spending tons of money on a dress I will probably only wear once and won’t feel good in, in this economy, when I have great options in my closet already) to go find something new, just so that I can fit the ✨vibes✨ of a a twentysomething-year-old I don’t even know (I haven’t met the bride yet) - what in the Gen Z nonsense is this?
Yes, I absolutely know that not going is an option; I live across the country from my family, and don’t get to see them often, which is really the only reason I want to go. Additionally: my mom, my aunt, and my grandma all only have black formal dresses, too, so we’re all hosed.
Here’s what’s going to happen: I am probably going to show up in a black formal dress, as well as my mom and aunt and grandma. Sorry about it!
Side note: we have another cousin who did a “black tie“ wedding at 4:00 PM on a non-holiday Monday because his bride (an aspiring influencer who can’t spell) couldn’t afford the castle otherwise, where we were all eating off of plasticware and drinking cheap wine, no live band (aka very much not a black tie experience).
In any case, I was looking at the wedding FAQs, and guests have been requested NOT to wear black, because apparently the bridal party will be wearing black. I have to say, are you kidding me? First of all, it’s a black tie wedding, where you are literally supposed to wear black or navy, and it’s New Year’s Eve, when everyone wears black! I’m mostly irritated because all of my formal gowns are already black, it’s hard to find dresses, and I’m already spending so much money on gifts, flights, hotels, etc.
I also have two small kids and work in an office full-time, so I really don’t have the time or money (technically I have the money, but there are about 58493 other things I need/would rather spend it on, our childcare bill alone is $4800/mo, and I’m categorically opposed to spending tons of money on a dress I will probably only wear once and won’t feel good in, in this economy, when I have great options in my closet already) to go find something new, just so that I can fit the ✨vibes✨ of a a twentysomething-year-old I don’t even know (I haven’t met the bride yet) - what in the Gen Z nonsense is this?
Yes, I absolutely know that not going is an option; I live across the country from my family, and don’t get to see them often, which is really the only reason I want to go. Additionally: my mom, my aunt, and my grandma all only have black formal dresses, too, so we’re all hosed.
Here’s what’s going to happen: I am probably going to show up in a black formal dress, as well as my mom and aunt and grandma. Sorry about it!
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