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Her plan fell apart when she was bragging about it to common friends of ours, and was shown getting the weapon and discussing the plan in front of a security camera outside our house.
I found out, gave all the evidence to the police (including the fact that she was buying phones with cash to allow him to still communicate with children - a major violation of his parole), and found exactly how corrupt our local police department in SE Wisconsin was when they faced absolutely no consequences.
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I ended up getting all sorts of gifts and all that to surprise her. She lived with her grandma, and I went over Friday after I got off and set stuff up in her room.
I talked to her around lunch and didn't hear from her at all. I didn't think about it too much, but she usually reached out. I waited until around 9-10 and ended up sending a simple innocent text. Not badgering, not complaining just a checking in text. Nothing.
Waited a couple more hours and reached out again. I started to get worried since I didn't hear from her. I wasn't concerned she was out with friends or nothing, so I was genuinely worried for her well-being. Nothing.
I was going to call her grandma but decided against it. I was worried. I tried a few more times, and one did go through, like someone picked up and answered, but then hung up. Still nothing. I fall asleep and ended up waking up early and saw no messages, no texts. Nothing.
I ended up going to her grandmas. She was not there. Her grandma tried to call her...nothing. I hung out for a bit and ended up falling asleep given I hardly slept the night before. At like 1-2 in the afternoon, she comes in. I was asleep and her grandma came and woke me up. The way the house was set up she didn't know I was there since she was dropped off.
I went to see her, but she was already in the shower. Her purse, and bag was on her bed and so was her camera. A part of me said leave it, and I bigger part said look. I looked. A bunch of pics of her and her work friends...then a guy, and another, and then another. Her on his lap, just pics of him...enough to know that at least to me the relationship was over. The guy was a cousin of one of girls she worked with for years.
I had clothes and stuff there, so I went to the kitchen and grabbed a big a*s garbage bag and went to her room and started tossing my stuff in there. She ended up coming out of the shower and at first was shocked to see me but didn't even say a word. I didn't even say anything, just shook my head. I asked if she liked her birthday stuff and she just nodded. I then picked it all up and threw it in the bag with the rest of my stuff. She never said a word. She just looked at me.
Before I left, I went back into her room to grab one more thing which was the new earrings and necklace I bought for her. She was standing in front of the mirror just dumbfounded. I snatched the stuff up and then placed the camera down in front of her on the dresser. All I said was if you are wondering why I am packing up and leaving, this is why. I patted her on the back and said happy birthday champ and left. Never spoke a word to her or have even seen her around since that day.
According to Psychology Today, breakups don’t just feel emotionally painful in the moment, they can actually reshape how memories of the relationship are stored and recalled over time. Emotional distress can introduce cognitive biases that tilt recollections in a more idealized direction, especially in the short term, as the brain tries to soften the impact of loss.
Because breakup-related pain activates similar neural pathways to physical injury, it can also disrupt working memory and prolong the grieving process. Over time, this distorted recall may make it harder to move on, as people unintentionally focus more on positive moments while minimizing the issues that led to the separation, ultimately slowing emotional recovery.
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I was just a dumb kid and didn't know how to handle that, so I would agree to stay. However, after about the fourth time with the box-cutter-sleeping-bag trick, I finally decided I couldn't live as a hostage. If she was going to hurt herself, that was her own business. So I just said goodbye and started packing.
She did not hurt herself. What she did instead was come out of the sleeping bag in a fury, with the box-cutter, and started trying to carve *me* up!
I flew down three flights of stairs with her right after me, screaming. (This was quite a scene because she was wearing purple lingerie from Victoria's Secret at the time.) I made it safely to the street and could still hear her cursing me from upstairs. Luckily, I had my wallet and keys, so I just drove off and started a new life.
Lost a lot of good record albums that day. Plus, a t-shirt from a Yes concert I had really liked. Bummer.
Edit: I just looked her up a few years ago. She's a college history professor now.
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I did love her but I couldn't do it anymore. She had some issues and it was deteriorating my own mental health. She became really controlling to the point where I basically gave up any sort of social life I had due to it always being a problem.
She even would fight with me at work through text, accusing me of not loving her or accusing me of seeing other women behind her back, or even fighting with me for not texting her enough AT WORK. Got to the point where it was f*****g up my performance due to being so stressed. I actually got called into the office.
All this kind of stuff and more made me eventually pull the plug. She called me and texted me non stop for about 2 weeks begging me not to leave. She even apologized for how she acted but I couldnt. S**t was never gonna change. I eventually had to block her and that made me break down.
Besides that stuff, there was also great times as well. Her parents were really nice people too, especially her dad. Sometimes I would go over to hang with him before she got out of work.
It was a rough breakup. I really hope she got help .
PsyPost adds that while people often imagine breakups as clean, mutual decisions, the reality is usually more complicated and messy. Many endings involve indirect communication styles such as avoidance, blame-shifting, or even disappearing altogether, which creates a mismatch between how people think breakups should happen and how they actually unfold.
This gap between expectation and reality can intensify emotional distress, especially when closure is missing or the reasoning feels unclear. In contrast, more “ideal” approaches tend to involve clear explanations and an effort to soften the emotional impact, though these are not always used.
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That was my last attempt.
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But then I ran into a mutual friend who asked what happened so I told her the truth of what happened. She turned around and told him I was making s**t up and he started calling and harassing me again.
I had already moved so at least he didn't know where I lived and after I changed my phone number I never heard from him again.
I heard he got married and had a kid and is now a woman.
I hope she realizes what she did was not okay.
Insights from Literally Darling further show that the emotional impact of breakups is often amplified by specific patterns of behavior that make the experience more difficult to process. Situations involving betrayal, humiliation, or sudden endings tend to leave deeper psychological scars, especially when they occur in highly emotional contexts like holidays, birthdays, or moments of intimacy.
Even when no single person is clearly at fault, mixed signals, poor timing, or a lack of closure can significantly increase emotional pain. These factors help explain why certain breakups feel especially unforgettable and why they are so often described as life-altering rather than just painful endings.
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About six months previous, she got a gastric bypass. I told her I'd support her no matter what. And I did. Even lost some weight myself naturally. And at first, it made sense that we went from being intimate several times a week to once a month...they advise you to use a lead shielded c****m for the first few months because the risk of pregnancy is so high when you're losing so much weight so quickly. So ok. But a few months later, she starts playing D&D with some friends after work (for reference, I worked bankers hours and she worked 3rds so it wasn't like any time was lost). And at first she'd get home at noon. Then 2. Then 3:30. Then there was the day she and I pulled in the driveway at 6 pm simultaneously. Didn't think anything of it. Only that once though.
Anyways, buddy gets married and I pull the trigger that Monday and buy the ring. Proposed two weeks later as we're getting ready to go to a "group birthday party" for myself and a few other friends who are unfortunate enough to have December birthdays. She says "Oh s**t...uhhh..." and runs to the bedroom and shuts the door. Definitely didn't go as planned. We talked, apparently I surprised her and she just needed some time to think. Because, you know, saying "When we get married, we should really consider moving to [this city] because the schools are better" is all entirely hypothetical despite both of us *ACTIVELY* saving money to buy a house.
Two weeks go by, I've given up on it. She's probably just trying to get past Christmas. Brave face. Going to her mom's house for a pre-Christmas party, wants her big strong man to drive in the barely snowing conditions... about halfway she says "Give me your hand, I have something to tell you". Boom. Ring on finger. Answer. We tell her parents, we tell my parents, we tell my daughter who is legit ecstatic.
Two weeks later I get home on her D&D "night" and she's a complete mess. Tears. No sleep. She breaks up with me. "It's not you, it's me... I'm not good enough for you [editors note: don't I get a say in this decision? Stupidest line ever], my therapist suggested I try being engaged to you but it just didn't feel right..."...I still hear the full speal in my head every so often.
She moves out. Daughter is crushed, I'm crushed. Two weeks later, forgetting to unfollow her on Instagram, she posts a picture of her new boyfriend. "One month with this handsome man!"
My Dad went legend status though, and I didn't know about it for about a year when we finally decided to talk about it (at her request, not mine). He DM'ed her "Hey [ex], congratulations! But didn't you just dump my son two weeks ago? Anyways, wishing you nothing but the best!".
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He spent a lot of time doing that and it was way more than in the past year when it came to spending time together. I didn't know where he lived, he knew where I lived but hardly ever showed up.
I go get lunch, he's there. I walk somewhere, he is biking right next to me, begging to rethink my choice. What made me snap was that I was in my garden and the dogs went nuts at the fence. Look over and saw him standing there, jiggling the locked handle as he stared through the gaps like a d**n zombie.
I told some people who scared him off by threatening to k**l him if he continued. Authorities didn't do a single thing about stalking at the time which is why I didn't try them first.
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Finally, analysis from Ex-Boyfriend Recovery suggests that the effects of a difficult breakup can extend far beyond the relationship itself, influencing how a person views trust, identity, and future connections. After a painful separation, individuals may experience shifts in self-perception, heightened emotional sensitivity, and changes in how they approach dating and relationships.
The process often involves grief and repeated mental re-evaluation of what happened, sometimes accompanied by embarrassment or withdrawal from social interaction. However, despite the distress, these experiences can also become turning points, leading to stronger boundaries, changed habits, and long-term personal growth in how future relationships are approached.
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(We had been talking every day for years and seeing each other 2-3 times a week for years...lived within a mile of each other.)
When I finally got ahold of her on the phone she started screaming at me *"I'm not required to talk to you or answer your calls/texts just because you want me to!"* and hung up on me.
My mind was BLOWN! It was like some completely different reality had all of a sudden taken over and she had just started hating me without any explanation ever...it made my head spin for so long!
She would reappear here and there for a couple of months afterward trying in a super weird way to reconnect but I later found out that she had started dating a very old (30yrs older) *very* rich guy when she had stopped talking to me and then married him 6 months later.
Breakups aren’t just endings, they’re often messy turning points that stick in people’s memories far longer than the relationship itself. Whether they come out of nowhere or unravel slowly over time, the stories people shared make it clear there’s no normal way for love to fall apart.
Some of these experiences are painfully relatable, others are so chaotic they feel almost unbelievable, but all of them highlight just how unpredictable relationships can be. And if there’s any comfort in all of this, it’s knowing that no matter how strange or painful a breakup might feel in the moment, someone out there probably has a story that tops it. So, I'll dare to ask: do you have a story to share?
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he demanded that i stayed and or that if i went i had to not see my friend, because he was jealous. he threated me that if i couldnt agree, we should break up; so even after i explained that: my friend is straight, we are not. i've chosen (ex) to be my bf, not my friend there. he still insited on that, so broke up with him. saw my friend in a coffee, where we chated for a few hours, went back home single and decided to stay that way for another 5 years.
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Near the end we moved out of our place but I still did things for her, including keeping her dog while she found a place until her dog attacked mine, I told her she had to take him which she did but a few days later she told me I had to take him back, my buddy I was living with understandably didn't want a potentially aggressive dog around his kids, I told her I couldn't otherwise I would have nowhere to stay, she called me selfish and threatened to tell people I r***d her if I didn't, she said this over text so I kept screenshots and told her to never talk to me again.
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