38 Men From August Who Made Being Single Look Like A Pretty Great Option

So basically, my boyfriend (19M) and I (19F) are always joking around with one another. I brought up job-searching earlier because I was talking about how I have lots of homework and applications to put in. In other words, I had no time to watch YouTube videos with him like we do on the occasion. He told me that the way I was phrasing employment was similar to how they speak on Sesame Street, which gave me the impression that we were having one of those goofy moments with one another per usual. After declaring the word of the night "job" and making him laugh with it, I brought it up again, probably dragging the humor of it at that point.

After a brief silence, he suddenly started questioning my own dollar amount in my bank account and my job experience with sudden anger. Both of us only have internship and odd job experience, so I told him honestly that I don't have traditional paid work experience (like McDonald's or smth) either, but I was definitely eager to find a company that would interview and hire me as their newest recruit. Thinking it was over, I shifted the topic towards my college internships slightly because I thought it would be a common ground to talk about.

He quickly called me "privileged to not have to work" and that I had the luxury of saving my money. Thing is, I'm not "saving my money" now because I have to pay out of pocket for college due to an unusual change of circumstances that I'm still trying to configure now. I won't be getting my computer to go to university any time soon, and I'll be lucky if I can even finish my current degree, let alone certificate on the side. He brought up his old tech internship again before calling my earlier joke bs that he didn't want to hear about anymore.

I told him I wasn't privileged, that I needed a paying job in order to continue my studies because I'm no longer receiving aid or any external source of income. My mom and her bf are also pushing me to work so I can afford my assets without fafsa reliance, so there's that too. I also let him know that I deeply didn't appreciate being labeled as privileged when I might not be able to finish my degree at COMMUNITY COLLEGE LEVEL. Uni is a nightmare for another day, but I struggle enough without falling into endless habits of playing video games for almost half the day. I did take accountability for making broad assumptions about his job-search status and agreed to not discuss job stuff anymore, even if I thought it was detrimental because he complains about being poorer than everyone else, but not wanting to hear about job advice or ways to get certain employers to notice him.

I couldn't have a decent conversation with him afterwards because we both knew we were still upset about the argument earlier, so we called it a night just to avoid starting another needless argument that didn't have to occur. This is our first argument in a long time, but I feel like it is more significant now and I can't get it out of my mind... AITA?

Me(20f) and my bf(19m) have been living together for over a year now. We’ve always split things mostly 50/50, although there has been times where he’s paid for more than me but overall total wouldn’t have been more than 55/45. We are both students at different universities. I’m in Biochem premed and he’s a business student.

The reason I want him to pay more is because he has significantly more access to more money and resources than I do, he makes more money than I do at work, and I’m currently going through chemotherapy. I make around 1k a month working part time in EMS, and he makes around 2.5-3k a month working full time at a parking lot windshield repair place. We both have access to around 15k in student loans, his tuition is 6.5k and mine is 10k.

Starting in September I’ll be making around 500-800 a month because I’ll barely be able to work and he’s the same. He also has access to a 15k RESP and 10k coming sometime soon from inheritance money. My half of the rent is 880 plus I pay the whole internet bill which is 100 and other expenses I have are my phone bill(100), gas(150), my medication(~250) groceries(200) and tuition but loans will cover that. He has similar expenses except he doesn’t pay the internet and his Mom pays his phone bill and no medication. I’m losing more money than I make every month.

My parents help when they can but it’s rare and it’s usually them asking me for money. I talked to him about this and tried to make him understand and he called me a manipulative liar. We’ve been together for well over four years, we’ve talked about marriage and we’ve been living together for over a year now I wouldn’t be asking him if we just started dating. I’m at a loss on what to do, I’m drowning financially and physically doing terrible and I don’t know if I’ll be able to keep working through my chemotherapy.

He told me he thinks 50/50 is fair and that we’re just roommates and I wouldn’t ask anyone else for this which is true but I thought that since we’ve been together so long he would be more lenient and try and help me. He spends hundreds of dollars a month on fast food and other stuff and despite the fact that he makes so much more than me he has zero money saved. I do all the cleaning, although I’ve been struggling to keep up with it since I’ve been sick, and neither of us really cook often. AITA?

My fiance and I just bought a townhome about 30 minutes away from our current apartment. I work from home from 9am-6pm Mon-Fri and she is currently in between jobs. She doesn’t drive so I always drive us which I don’t mind because I get motion sick as a passenger.

So today she Ubers from our apartment to the townhome to let carpet cleaners in then spent some time hanging out with her parents that live in the same development. We just got back from a two week vacation and got very sick with the flu and have felt horrible all week. I’m still fatigued, coughing with a temperature but worked all week including 10 hours today because I don’t have the stones to take sick days after two straight weeks of PTO.

The plan today was for me to take some boxes over from our apartment to the new place after work. We got a huge storm and she told me to wait it out and she didn’t want me driving in it. Fast forward and it’s 9pm, she calls and asked me what I wanted to do. I said “Tbh, I feel terrible and don’t feel comfortable driving 40 minutes round trip after my long workday, would it be ok for you to Uber back here? I’ll pay for it.” Granted, throughout the day she texted me to ask how I’m feeling and to let her know what I wanted to do. With that context I believed I had an option if I wasn’t feeling up to it. After asking her if she could take an Uber back she got really angry because she thought I was going to pick her and that this wasn’t the plan we discussed. I understood that but also told her every 2-3 hours when we texted how awful I felt so this really shouldn’t be a surprise. Further, I said since I don’t have the strength to move those boxes tonight what difference does it make if I drive over to pick you up or if you come back the way you first left with an Uber? She got really upset and said I’m being a bad fiance. Am I the jerk?

Am I (f30) the jerk for asking my fiance (m33) to not drive over 85mph with me in the car because it scares me and makes me feel unsafe?

I get driving anxiety so he drives us almost everywhere we go together which I am so grateful for. However, he tends to drive fast (sometimes without noticing). We live in Southern California around major freeways and see accidents pretty much daily during 10-20 min drives at busy times of day. I worry about when he commutes everyday, but obviously can’t comment on his solo driving.

Am i an jerk for asking him to drive slower when im in the car because that is annoying backseat driver behavior?

My husband treated me to dinner to celebrate finding a job after more than 5 years of depending on me financially.

It was nothing fancy, but in the middle of dinner, I tipped over my drink and the first thing he said was "that was an expensive drink". No napkins for me whatsoever. Then he went to the bar and said, "She spilled the drink! She spilled the drink! She hasnt had a sip and she spilled the drink!" The staff told him that it will be an additional order to while he replied, "it is what it is."

Then when the new drink came, he snickered, "Let's hope she doesn't spill it this time."

I wanted to walk out of the restaurant, but alas! I'm recovering from stroke and in a wheelchair.

Tell me, Reddit. Am I the jerk?

I (36F) came today with out 3 children (10F, 5F, 1M) from a 2 week visit to a family. My husband (38M) stayed behind because he needs to work. At the moment he is working full-time and also in the middle of opening his privat business which is followed with a lot of challenges for him because he is very unorganized and suffers from a bad case of procrastination. That makes this whole process a much more stressful for him.

Anyway, as I said, kids and I came back today. The car ride was almost 10 hours. The whole stay with the family was physically and at times emotionally draining, because my father (66M) and I were most of the times taking care of 6 children (my three and my sister's three). So I couldn't wait to come home.

So now is the part which may make me an A-hole. As I finally stepped out of the car the first thing I saw was that my beautiful flowers in front of the door were wilted because he didn't water them at all (I did told him to do it, but didn't remind him while I was gone). Inside of the home wasn't too messy, it wasn't how I'd do it but I was satisfied. Untill I opened th fridge - almost nothing to eat, lot of rotten vegetables, no water (I only drink cold bottle water). I went to our guest room where my father (who drove us back) should sleep, it was such a mess there that you could barely walk into the room. Our storage room was also a mess. Our couch in the living room was dirty because he obviously put his dirty feet on it.

I didn't say anything but I noticed it all. He did cook a really nice lunch for us and cleaned kitchen after.

But the breaking point came when I asked him to make dinner for the girls because I needed to put out 12 months old to sleep. Then I heard him decline every suggestion the girls made, because he didn't buy bread or milk (we live in Germany, today is Sunday and everything is closed). I made a comment that it's really disappointing that we came home to an empty fridge and that tomorrow I'm left with 3 children and no options for breakfast, that making lunch was a bare minimum. He got upset and sad that my lack of appreciation is disappointing, because I know under how much stress he is and that I should give him some grace because the kitchen and living room were clean and the lunch was made.

Additional info - I'm taking one more year off work (so 2 years total) to be with our youngest. My husband's upcoming business should keep the roof over our heads, even though it's extremely unlikely that the business will fail, we don't know how long it'll take for it to generate enough money. Our whole livelihood is on his back right now.

So AITA for making this comment and expecting him to stock the fridge when he's currently under huge pressure?

I’m 38F and my husband is 42M. We are currently building our house together. Neither of us wants to take out a bank loan, so we save money and build in stages. Basically, when we have enough money for the next part, we do it.

We both work and we both contribute financially. The difference is that my husband is a complete workaholic. He works, comes home, sleeps, and then works again. He seems to genuinely enjoy living this way because he is very focused on getting the house finished.

I work 40 hours a week. When I get home, I actually like having a life. I crochet, watch Netflix, see friends, etc. I also do most of the housework. I do all the grocery shopping and clean the whole house. We both cook, but pretty much everything else household-related falls on me.

Recently my husband told me that he thinks I should get a mini-job/part-time job after my regular job. His reasoning is that we could save more money and therefore build the house faster. I said no.

This is where we are having an argument. He thinks I'm being selfish because he is working so hard for our future and I'm spending my evenings doing hobbies and watching TV instead of earning more money.

I told him that I already work 40 hours a week, contribute to the house financially, and take care of the majority of the household chores. I don't think it's unreasonable to want some time in the evening that belongs to me.

His response was basically that if the house is our shared goal, then I should be willing to make sacrifices for it. My response is that we aren't actually in a hurry to finish the house( I mean not in 2-3 years anyway).

There is no deadline. We don't have to move in by a certain date. We deliberately chose not to get a bank loan because we wanted to avoid financial pressure. I'm perfectly happy with the house taking longer if it means I can have a normal life while we're building it.

My husband thinks that since he is willing to work himself into the ground to get the house finished, I should be willing to do more too. I don't think his decision to work constantly means I have to do the same.

At the same time, I can understand why he feels frustrated. From his perspective, he is making a huge sacrifice for something that belongs to both of us, while I'm choosing to spend my free time on hobbies. So now I'm wondering if I'm being selfish.

AITA for refusing to get a second job when my husband is working constantly to help us finish our hours faster, even though I'm happy to take longer to build it?

My husband bought a 40k boat 5 years ago, just a week before we met so it’s technically his boat and I don’t believe I have much of a say but we’re married now and it’s been draining our bank account.

It seems like every year there’s something wrong with it and he has to pay to get it fixed. This summer, the engine broke when he used it for the first time and he’s been trying to fix it for the past couple of months. He doesn’t want to pay someone to fix it so he’s trying to do it himself and there’s missing parts and a hole somewhere so it’s just been a huge mess. He’s just been so busy trying to get it fixed and worrying about it, it’s stressing both of us out. We also have a baby and he’s trying to hard to fix it so the baby can go on it but it’s taking time away from him spending time with her.

I know it’s his pride and joy and he works so hard on it but it’s just not the right time for it right now with a new house and a new baby. We can’t afford it and he knows that but he’s just too stubborn. I keep telling him to sell it and put the money in a separate bank account and we can buy a new, better boat in a few years once the baby is older and we have some money saved up.

Am I the jerk for wanting him to sell it? It’s taking time away from his family and draining our bank. Fuel also costs thousands and we just can’t afford it now and just having it stored somewhere costs thousands a year so it’s not worth it but he doesn’t want to let it go.

TL;DR I want my husband to sell his boat because It’s taking time away from his family and draining our bank.

AITA in this case?
Hi this is my first time ever doing this so please bear with me. My husband and I been married for 6 years and we have a 1 year old.

My husband and I both contributed for last 5 years towards our savings but I quit my job after I had our baby.

So we have a joint savings account but since I can’t contribute anymore we can’t save anymore.

Recently my husband’s disabled mom decided to finally get a divorce from her horrible husband. FIL has been financially controlling towards MIL so she didn’t gave funds to pay for a lawyer and my husband decided to cover all of it hoping that whenever she gets her share, my husband will get it back, which is looking highly unlikely lately because of how the case is going.

So our savings are disappearing day by day, and my husband decided to move back in with MIL to save money on rent, but the relationship is very very toxic since they constantly fight and my SIL lives there too and she smokes (my) all day long and the house has mold and and in no condition to be bringing the baby. Every argument I bring my husband brings up the fact that I’m not working and not contributing. I can’t keep up with the way he fight it always gets ugly. But I can’t also work because he categorically refuses daycare idea. He always says that my parents should come and watch him, which is impossible cuz they’re in different country and not in the right health. I’m in a pickle. Even if I leave I don’t want judge to give my husband custody, since the issues in the house and toxicity and I have no proof. What would you do in this case ?

I ask my husband a few days a week to get up with our 7 month old baby from 7a-8a before he works (from home). Mind you, almost every day that I don’t wake him up he doesn’t wake up for work on time so he’d normally be sleeping during this time anyways. He gives me push back every time saying that he “needs to get ready for work.” And I say, you were sleeping anyways and I get very broken sleep with the baby all night, never waking my husband up at night. I said I’d love if you took the baby by choice these mornings to do something nice for me. And he said we both need to do nice things for each other then. Which, okay sure. I told him I’m not feeling appreciated to which he scoffed. I exclusively breastfeed, am currently eating dairy and soy free for baby’s allergies, and work as a nurse 2, 12 hour shifts a week. He does A LOT with our kids and things are usually about 50/50. This is our third child so he takes the older two (who aren’t always easy to get to bed but sleep through the night). I’m conflicted typing this out because I see his perspective and he is usually right about EQ things, I have more issues with mental health and usually have to apologize for being mean or in the wrong, but I do feel like I’m right on this one. AITA?

Me and my husband are going to visit our home country again after two years. I have two fewer weeks of vacation than he does so i can’t go longer than two weeks. We also have two dogs.
I wanted to book my ticket early so I could get a better price and avoid having to wait for him, because my husband always leaves everything until the last minute, and in the past I’ve ended up paying two or three times more for tickets just because I waited for him. He told me he’d rather book later, even if that meant paying more.
I asked him several times to confirm that he was definitely coming, and he told me yes.

Yesterday, while I was asleep, he booked his ticket — and it turns out he’s going to travel before me and come back after me.

So I’m going to spend Christmas alone, and I’ll also have to take the dogs to the dog sitter by myself and pick them up by myself.

Am I overreacting for feeling hurt about this?

Neither of us grew up celebrating our bdays, but we still do a simple desert+dinner+card combo.

This year it just so happened his birthday is also the same day as my close friend's wedding, (he knew this, we were BOTH invited to the wedding). Ive been helping with this wedding as well, so his birthday did slip my mind BUT we still did the usual combo we always do.

But this time he complained that he didnt like how much more effort I was putting into my friends wedding vs his birthday. So not only did we do the usual combo, but the day after I also logged off work early and we went wine tasting and thrift shopping.

Now hes saying that he still thinks im not celebrating him enough and wants both of us to take TEN DAYS OFF and go on a road trip with just us. I suggest that we can do 7 days, and maybe he can spend the first 3 days doing whatever he wants solo, and he had a huge meltdown over it.

He says Im always prioritizing work and other people and not him.

Both of us work full time, both our parents are elderly, we have a 3yo, and a mortgage to pay.

We already went on a week long trip to Singapore earlier this year, and have been doing a lot of home projects together every weekend.

I think 7 days off is just as valuable as 10?

My husband and I car pool to work. We use his car--which is a newer car (2024). Last week it came back from the shop again after another unexpected repair, this time to the air conditioner. On the day in question I dropped him off and then I headed to work. For the last several weeks my office has been working with new contractors. This was their first in-person day. When contractors come to the office, we usually go out to lunch. I mentioned to my husband the day before that I was going to go to lunch with the contractors, but didn't explicitly state I was driving them. I drove two of them in my husband's car. One of them was tall--like over 6 ft. I said he may need to move the passenger seat back to be able to sit comfortably. He did. When we got back to the office, he didn't to move the seat back to the original position.

The next day my husband got in the passenger seat and noticed that the seat was moved further back. He asked why the seat was moved, and I told him the contractor moved it. He seemed to get annoyed the seat was moved because (a) he didn't know I'd be driving two people who I just met in person in his car (2) the one guy moved the passenger seat back and didn't return it to the original position and (3) it was an invasion of of personal space.

I apologized to my husband. I also said I would (a) take my car when there was any possibility of driving anyone and (b), if I had his car again, and a similar situation arises, that I would carpool with someone else. He says that is not feasible as you can't always know when or if you may have people in the car. He says now he has to be as prepared possible because he doesn't believe me when I mentioned (a) and (b) above, even though we agreed to it last week.

This week, he cleaned the car, bought new floor mats, and removed various personal items from car. He feels that if an unknown number of strangers are going to be shuttled around in the car an unknown number of times then the car needs to be cleaned and prepared for a greater number of contingencies. He has also considered purchasing a spare tire, additional insurance, and placing cameras in the car for safety and to head off potential lawsuits. He has not asked me to limit the number or type of people I drive in any way. Instead, he feels he needs to over-prepare for every possibility. He seemed to be very annoyed with me this evening because he is mad about last week. I explained that I think he may be blowing this out proportion and that if this happened to another 100 people, he would be the only only to react this way.

So my boyfriend and i have been planning to go to the carnival for a while and now two days before (thursday) he brings up wanting to pick up his friend and friends girlfriend to bring them along. Im already really going out of my comfort zone even going to a carnival and it was supposed to be just me and him. he even offered to pay for both their tickets ($30 each so $60 for both). I ended up telling him no but i feel like a jerk for it i dont know what to do really im not a social person and im already meeting some of his family there too.

I 21F have been a die hard BTS fan since I was 11. Their music got me through my mother's passing, and everything following since. Frankly, it was my solace, motivation (I wrote my college essay about their music) and seeing them live had been my dream. I would close my eyes to imagine myself in their concert and would sob every single time, except this summer I was told that I am close to my dream.

My boyfriend 22M insisted on getting me tickets to Chicago when I said I could get tickets in Boston for much cheaper (40 dollars versus 300) or at least pay for my half in Chicago. He told all our friends and families how we are going to the concert in Chicago and I told him to not get my hopes up.

Well he kept talking about how the tickets were super expensive and how he will get them closer to the dates except the prices jumped to 400, 500 and then to 900 hours before the show. I understand how he tried until the last minute and worked extra shifts but I find it so unfair that he gave me false hope for something that meant so much to me.

I am trying to be mature but I never asked him to do this for me in the first place or expected him to splurge for me. AITA for being upset at him for giving me hope?

My husband regularly visits his mother without me for context. My family lives further away (less than 2 hour drive) and I decided this weekend to visit on Saturday. He typically has Saturday morning plans that are solo so I didn’t plan around them. I thought it would be nice if I had time on my own. For additional context, during a recent argument, he told me my family makes him uncomfortable with hugging as they are big huggers and he doesn’t like it. (We have been together for almost 30 years and he had never asked me to ask them not to do so or said anything to them himself). He decided to forgo his plans for Saturday and tag along when I told him my plans. I asked him to keep his plans so I could have solo time with my family and he was butt hurt about it. My exact words were “Hey, I was thinking you should keep your plans and I will visit without you. I’d like to just hang out with them solo like you do with your mom”

We are at a stage in our life where we have a biweekly house cleaner come in to help us stay on top of things. To ensure that the bed sheets are changed I declared the washing machine off limits on the morning the cleaner comes so that we can strip the bed before leaving the house. My husband decided that it’s most effective for him to wait until that same morning to throw his entire pile of laundry in the machine.

He thinks he’s helping because that means his side of the bed is clean. I haven’t been able to get this worked out even though I’ve been consistent about suggesting he plan his laundry earlier in the week so that the only thing that can’t be washed early (because we are sleeping on it) is what gets cleaned the day the bed gets made.

At some point I gave up on reiterating this logic, and later on he also started asking if he could wash his clothes on the cleaning day each week. Today he asked and I said no, I wanted use the washer for my stuff. Which was partially sarcasm, I meant for our shared bed sheets.

He didn’t believe me when I said the point was that he was never supposed to wash his clothes on this one morning and now believes I was just selfishly telling him no so I could wash my clothes (I don’t have anything to wash).

I want him to feel a little perspective about how our house is managed and realize he was interrupting what could be a smooth morning when he has six other mornings where no one is trying to use the washing machine. I could have just plainly spoken my reason but that has never worked before. I felt a little sarcasm was in order. So…aita?

Longtime lurker, first time submitter (this is a burner account). I'm a cisgendered 24M and my boyfriend is a 22M trans man. We've been dating for the last year or so and I've given him my support all through his coming out journey and transition (he's been on hormone therapy for the last 6 months).

He decided to come over for the whole week since we both live in the same city, and and we decided to binge every single Jurassic Park related media ever made for fun. I loved Jurassic Park 1 as a kid and he's only seen the first one so why not. We finished the first 4 movies in a day and decided to watch the kids show they made for Netflix called Camp Cretaceous. There's a character on there called Ben Pincus and I thought it was pretty funny that he sort of looked like him, so I joked about it.

He didn't take it too lightly. He said he doesn't look like some loser Mormon kid and I told him I didn't mean it that way. I only pointed out how they both look similar to one another, and honestly I found it pretty endearing. I already told him I was sorry if it came off as anything but that. He sounded like he was really annoyed and bummed out for the rest of the night so I didn't want to push his buttons any further. We continued to watch the first season through the night but the room felt weird and awkward. I feel like it might've come off as me making fun of his dysphoria or something but that's not what I meant at all and it hurts to think about it that way.