We all have traits that we don't like about ourselves. For some, it's not being able to keep quiet when necessary, while for others, it's the other way around. This is especially true for people who have anxiety and are highly self-aware of their actions. One internet user asked the question "What's an absolute turn off about your own personality that you're aware of but can't help?" and the thread instantly flooded with comments. As it turns out, we're not that different from each other after all.
Scroll down below to read what people had to say and don't forget to upvote the entries that you feel most related to!
#1
I overshare information when I get excited and just speak so much that it's embarrassing. Or I just don't speak at all.
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59points
#3
I frequently forget that I told someone something and repeat stories. Drives my husband insane.
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46points
#4
My friend group calls me dad due to my terrible jokes and always being prepared for thing.
A friend hosting a party? I'll bring some beer and snacks and a pillow and blanket to make sure people are taken care of.
I'm having people over? I'll stock up with 5 times more beer and snacks than needed and get the spare room ready and have a spare air mattress on deck in case people get too drunk.
Had your period at a dudes house? No worries, tampons and pads under the sink along with a few rolls of TP and some sanitizing wipes with aloe.
Need directions to a place? Here's the address and I'll give you a rough explanation with landmarks where you're going to want to turn.
You have a specific task you need to get done and don't know anyone? Give me a minute, I'll call a guy.
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42points
#5
I’m worried way too often that I’m annoying or bothering people and end up apologizing for it, which then ACTUALLY makes me annoying. It’s a vicious cycle.
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40points
#6
Im pretty sarcastic, but I'm a pretty monotone person so people tend to think I'm being serious at times where I'm really not
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40points
#7
I have been asked so many times if I am on the autism spectrum. I am not, but I absolutely hate making eye contact while conversing with people. Just find it awkward & when I try to, it just turns into a staring contest. All these questions start popping in my head then
"How often should I blink my eyes/ should I coordinate my blinking with theirs"
"How long should I keep the eye contact"
"Should I be the one to avert my eyes or should I wait for them to look away" & then I get anxious about the actual topic of the conversation because I am not paying all my attention to what they're saying.
Edit: I am in the medical field so most everyone who notices my social awkwardness tries to guess what's wrong with me. Bi***es love diagnosing!
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40points
#8
I won't shut the f**k up.
I also respond to stories with my own stories. Apparently people think I am one upping them when in fact I am trying to create connections via shared experiences.
I am very annoying to be around
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40points
#9
I over-analyze everything. Anything anyone says, or any look they give me, is an insult. I just have to figure out how.
Edit: Damn, I didn't realize so many people would relate to this. To answer a lot of your questions: no, I don't act out on it, but sometimes I ask for positive affirmations too frequently. Yes, I'm in therapy and it is helping. And to everyone who said they freak out they're going to get fired -- I feel you. I've been at my job for almost four years and I'm convinced everyone hates me.
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37points
#10
Ok, I finish people’s sentences in my head so I accidentally cut them off in the middle of their sentences. It is very rude, and I can see when I do it every time but for some reason I can’t control the impulse.
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33points
#11
I'm really outwardly cold. I actually care about people a lot. I just avoid complimenting people so I don't seem creepy. I avoid standing close to people so I don't seem creepy. I don't jump in to other people's conversations so I don't seem creepy.
There's a pattern.
Edit since this got a whole bunch of responses/upvotes: Thanks for all the positive messages and the like. Apparently it seems I would have better social success in a few European countries. So thanks to the multitude of fellow RBF or unintentionally cold/standoffish people who saw this.
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31points
#12
I have this incessant need to be right. It isn't that I can't admit when I'm wrong, I'm totally down with that. But if I'm right, I won't let go until you cave and admit that I was right.
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27points
#13
I don't take anything seriously except the negative internal comments I make about myself.
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27points
#14
Overthinking leads to becoming stressed, which often leads to me losing control over what situation I’m in which then leads me to panic because I lost control.
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26points
#15
I tend to overcompensate for my extreme anxiety/depression and can come across as obnoxious (and tend to overshare info). Like maybe if I'm loud enough I can drown out my inside voice.
[Edit] - My top rated comment is now about how insecure I am. Yay!
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25points
#16
I have an addictive personality so I get addicted to things, habits, situations, ppl etc easily but it only last a season than I move to a new addiction. This is why I’ve never allowed myself to try hard drugs.
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25points
#18
I'm not good at "faking it". If I'm not happy, I can't fake a smile. If I'm not interested, I'm not good at feigning interest. If I'm annoyed, you're going to know it.
The pro of that though is that you know that when I smile, laugh, show interest in something, etc., it's all genuine.
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21points
#19
I constantly need to be assured that the person is into me. I have abandonment issues that have made me quite insecure.
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20points